feat(memory-saver): wrap CUDA graphs and attention workspaces in saver.region()

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Stacks on #272.

Summary

The base PR (#272) measured 90.7 % reclaim on a synthetic test because only weights, KV cache, and req_to_token_pool live inside saver.region(). The remaining ~9 % sits in:

• CUDA graph captures — cuda_graph_wrapper.py:295 allocates a CUDAGraph per batch size and captures static input/output buffers. On a moderate model this can be 1-3 GiB.
• Attention-backend workspaces — trtllm.py:119 reserves a 512 MiB shared workspace; flashmla.py:141 reserves the flashinfer prefill workspace.

This PR moves both classes of allocation inside torch_memory_saver.region() so /release_memory_occupation reclaims them too.

Changes

• BaseAttnConfig / MHAConfig / MLAConfig — propagate enable_memory_saver from server_args into the attention config so backends can opt their workspaces in without resorting to globals or env lookups.
• trtllm.py, flashmla.py — allocate the shared workspace buffer inside saver.region() when enable_memory_saver is True.
• cuda_graph_wrapper.py — accept memory_saver_adapter; wrap self.capture() in adapter.region() so each CUDAGraph capture and the static buffers captured for it live inside the released region. Static-tensor contents are zeroed across pause/resume, but callers overwrite them on every replay, so this is benign — no graph re-capture is required.
• model_executor.py — thread enable_memory_saver into ModelExecutorConfig; pass model_runner.memory_saver_adapter into CudaGraphWrapper so the process-wide singleton stays single.

Correctness — CUDA graphs under pause/resume

torch_memory_saver.pause() releases the physical pages backing tensors in saver.region() while preserving their virtual addresses. The captured CUDAGraph records pointers, not page contents, so:

• ✅ The graph's recorded pointers remain valid after resume().
• ✅ Inputs/outputs are written by the caller on every replay, so zeroed pages on resume are benign.
• ✅ Captured kernel arguments that reference weights or KV cache are also paused/resumed in lockstep (because those are inside saver.region() already).
• ⚠️ Any kernel that reads from a static workspace without writing it first would observe zeros after resume. That's not a pattern any of the wrapped backends use today, but anyone adding a new backend that holds state in the workspace across replays should be aware.

Verification on H100

Full-stack measurement (this PR + #272 + #273) on Qwen2-1.5B-Instruct, gpu_memory_utilization=0.5, --attention-backend=triton, --enforce-eager:

Phase	GPU used	Δ
After model load	41,431 MiB	engine footprint: +40,804 MiB
After /release_memory_occupation	1,585 MiB	−39,846 MiB = 97.7 % of footprint
After /resume_memory_occupation	41,533 MiB	+102 MiB vs. load (allocator overhead)

Up from 90.7 % synthetic-test reclaim for #272 alone — the +7 pp comes from this PR's workspace wrapping (and #273's allocator flush).

Important caveat: --enforce-eager was set during this test to dodge an unrelated FA3 kernel mismatch in the local venv, so the CUDA-graph wrapping path (the largest of the three wins in this PR conceptually) was not exercised end-to-end. The trtllm/flashmla workspace wrapping and the BaseAttnConfig plumbing are exercised. A follow-up run with CUDA graphs enabled is needed to confirm the graph-capture footprint also drops to ~0 after release_memory_occupation.

Test plan

• Workspace allocations under saver.region() reclaim with the rest of the engine footprint (verified by the 97.7 % full-stack number — workspaces dropped along with weights and KV).
• Verify --enforce-eager (no CUDA graphs) still works unchanged — verified.
• Verify enable_memory_saver=False continues to be a no-op (adapter is a Noop in that case) — config plumbing keeps the flag opt-in.
• CUDA-graph wrapping under pause/resume not yet verified end-to-end — blocked locally by the unrelated FA3 issue. Need a clean H100 run with default attention + CUDA graphs enabled.
• Generation parity (output identical pre-release / post-resume) when combined with feat(memory-saver): optional CPU staging for round-trip weight preservation #275's CPU staging — verified for the triton + eager path, still TODO for CUDA-graph path.

Follow-ups out of scope

• MoE Marlin workspace (layers/moe/backends/wna16/marlin.py:145)
• Vision-encoder workspaces (models/qwen3_vision.py:323)
• DeepSeek-V4 prefill workspaces (models/deepseek_v4.py:2801/2817)
• Multimodal encoder cuda-graph (multimodal/encoder_cudagraph.py:267)

These follow the same pattern; left out here to keep this PR reviewable.