Add symmetric memory support on XPU device

[zhangxiaoli73]

PyTorch provides symmetric memory support on CUDA device.

Accordingly, we would like to provide similar feature on XPU device.

[chuanqi129]

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Pull request overview

Adds an XPU symmetric-memory backend that mirrors PyTorch's CUDA implementation. It introduces a XPUSymmetricMemory/XPUSymmetricMemoryAllocator pair on top of sycl::ext::oneapi::experimental::ipc_memory for peer-buffer exchange, plus signal-pad-based barrier/put_signal/wait_signal kernels, store-backed handle exchange utilities, and new XCCL-driven tests. CMake plumbing for an optional ISHMEM dependency is also added but no source consumes it in this PR.

Changes:

• New XPU SymmetricMemory implementation: allocator, rendezvous via SYCL IPC, signal-pad kernels, Unix-domain-socket IPC channel helper.
• Build system integration: new Signal.cpp compiled as SYCL, optional USE_ISHMEM discovery and linkage.
• Tests: a new test_symmetric_memory_xccl.py plus a SymmetricMemoryTest class added to test_c10d_xccl.py.

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File	Description
src/xccl/XPUSymmetricMemory.hpp	Public API for the XPU symm-mem allocator and handle types.
src/xccl/XPUSymmetricMemory.cpp	Allocator / rendezvous logic; uses SYCL IPC + store exchange; barrier/put/wait wrappers.
src/xccl/XPUSymmetricMemoryTypes.hpp	Backend-specific type aliases / constants.
src/xccl/XPUSymmetricMemoryUtils.hpp	Declarations for IpcChannel, StoreExchange, backend-name helper.
src/xccl/XPUSymmetricMemoryUtils.cpp	Implementation of UDS fd-passing IPC channel and getSymmMemBackendXPU.
src/xccl/Signal.hpp	Inline signal primitives + kernel launch declarations.
src/xccl/Signal.cpp	SYCL kernels for barrier / put_signal / wait_signal.
src/xccl/CMakeLists.txt	Routes Signal.cpp through the SYCL build path.
src/BuildOnLinux.cmake	Optionally links torch::ishmem when USE_ISHMEM.
CMakeLists.txt	Adds USE_ISHMEM discovery flow.
cmake/ISHMEM.cmake	Declares torch::ishmem imported target.
cmake/Modules/FindISHMEM.cmake	Locates Intel SHMEM via ISHMEM_ROOT.
test/xpu/distributed/test_c10d_xccl.py	Adds SymmetricMemoryTest (rendezvous, signal pad, subgroup, put/wait).
test/xpu/distributed/test_symmetric_memory_xccl.py	Adds AsyncTP fused all-gather-matmul / matmul-reduce-scatter tests.

[Copilot]

@copilot The Python lint (flake8/ruff) check failed. Please fix the lint errors in this PR.

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Addressed on branch head at 48766d6: the lint-failing test file was removed, and I re-ran both checks locally with .github/scripts/lintrunner.sh (--skip CLANGTIDY,CLANGFORMAT,MERGE_CONFLICTLESS_CSV --all-files and --take CLANGFORMAT,CLANGTIDY --all-files). Both passed with No lint issues.

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Pull request overview

Copilot reviewed 9 out of 9 changed files in this pull request and generated 10 comments.

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Pull request overview

Copilot reviewed 9 out of 9 changed files in this pull request and generated 12 comments.

[zhangxiaoli73]

@gujinghui @Chao1Han Please review