fix(bendpy): stabilize release builds and local publish

[sundy-li]

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Summary

• fix Python wheel release builds that were failing in the release workflow
• add a local bendpy publish helper that does not depend on Docker
• document local build and publish usage in the bendpy README

Implementation

1. Normalize cargo config for bendpy release wheel builds so the Linux manylinux container does not inherit the repo's mold linker override
2. Disable release LTO for wheel packaging jobs to avoid the macOS cross-target linker/bitcode incompatibility seen in CI
3. Add src/bendpy/scripts/local_publish.sh for host-native build/upload flows with optional version override, upload skipping, cleaning, and repeatable --target
4. Document the local publish workflow in src/bendpy/README.md

Tests

• Unit Test
• Logic Test
• Benchmark Test
• No Test - Pair with the reviewer to explain why

Validation performed:

• inspected failing release job logs for Linux x86_64, Linux aarch64, and macOS aarch64
• verified the new local publish helper argument parsing with --help

Type of change

• Bug fix (non-breaking change which fixes an issue)

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