fix no_shard training convergency and add unittest for no_shard

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What does this PR do ?

Fixes no_shard convergence by correcting grad_norm and all_reduce logic.

1. fix no_shard grad_norm calculation
2. fix no_shard all_reduce grad continue bug
3. Make no_shard to be compatiable without overlap_param_gather and overlap_grad_reduce
4. add unittest for no_shard
5. add assert False for no_shard and init_model_with_meta_device follow fully_shard.py:326

Grad_norm and loss convergency and unittest result is below.

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LGTM!

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/ok to test e6a1239