Study3_MemFor.csv

IPAddress,Describe,Time,Forgiveness,Morality,Tone,valenceThen_1,intensityThen_1,Valence Now,Intensity Now,revenge_1,revenge_1,revenge_1,revenge_1,revenge_1,Revenge,avoidance_1,avoidance_1,avoidance_1,avoidance_1,avoidance_1,avoidance_1,avoidance_2,Avoidance,benevolence_1,benevolence_1,benevolence_1,benevolence_1,benevolence_1,benevolence_1,Benevolence,age,gender
172.59.190.174,"The person is a friend of mine. She kept insulting my jewelry making techniques even though I kept reminding her that I'm just starting to learn how to do something. Her insistence on negging my work pissed me off because she's holding me up to her expert standards and telling me things I already know as if I'm completely ignorant and know nothing. I've forgiven her and am still friends with her, but I refuse to show her my work until it's more polished. This may seem trivial, but I'm autistic and have been bullied in various ways all of my life. ",45200,Yes,6,1,1,7,1,2,3,1,1,1,1,1.4,3,1,2,3,1,2,2,2,6,5,5,6,2,2,4.333333333,52,Female
99.78.74.208,"I had a close friend who often would judge my actions and say hurtful things about me. This one instance, we were getting food together and he accused me of being someone who only seeked male validation and told me that my friends were all talking behind my back. He also explained to me why my ex-boyfriend was much happier in his current relationship and talked about my mental health.",45139,Yes,6,2,2,6,3,3,2,2,2,2,2,2,5,5,6,5,6,5,3,5,5,3,3,3,5,4,3.833333333,23,Female
73.200.254.238,"My daughter hurt my feelings. We were having a discussion and she told me in so many words that she blamed me for not realizing that she might have been neurodivergent in her childhood. I talked with her and told her I would help her to get tested as an adult now if that's what she wants. I tried not to let her know how hurt I was, and even though I was hurt, I have forgiven her. She hurt me emotionally.",45231,Yes,2,5,3,6,5,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,2,1,1,1,1,1.285714286,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,54,Female
70.114.235.13,"My college ex boyfriend was extremely emotionally and verbally abusive. I didn't understand it at the time because he was very subtle in his control and manipulation tactics. Since college i have had many years to process our relationship and have sense forgiven him. While it took me years to fully heal, i am happy with where i am now at in life. ","October, 2015",Yes,6,1,2,3,2,2,3,4,3,1,3,2.8,7,7,7,7,7,7,6,6.857142857,3,1,1,1,6,5,2.833333333,31,Female
104.251.240.139,"My sister and I have birthdays that are just a few days apart, we always wish each other happy birthday and send a card, she somehow forgot my birthday one year",43922,Yes,2,4,2,2,4,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,46,Female
174.230.159.132,"I knew a person in school who was very dismissive of my passion for music. He was rude and negative telling me I'd never amount to anything. I felt repulsed by his negativity but knew he probably had his own internal battles to deal with. He wasn't really a bad person, just really negative and had controversial takes on matters. I forgave him not too shortly after and just stopped talking about music around him. This decision was liberating and I no longer felt animosity towards him. ",43101,Yes,5,4,2,5,5,5,2,3,3,4,2,2.8,5,4,3,3,4,4,3,3.714285714,6,5,4,4,6,4,4.833333333,23,Male
73.28.138.254,"My best friend and I were planning to call one night and I was really looking forward to it, especially because she had just transferred to a different college. She told me she would not be able to call anymore because she was also planning to spend time with her brother. I felt hurt and like I was not a priority to her, but I was also trying to understand her perspective. I prayed about the situation and forgave her, even though I was hurt.","January, 2023",Yes,4,3,2,5,3,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,1,2,1,1.285714286,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,20,Female
172.75.151.73,"my mother, in many ways, was very good.  that being said she could be emotionally abusive at times.  at the time of the incident i was an avid social tennis player.  she harped and harped that tennis was taking time away from my family and was inferring i was not a good mother.  in truth, i only played when the children were at school.  i was so mad at my mother because i knew once something was on her radar she would not let in drop.  it went on and on.  i did forgive my mother because the good she did far outweighed the emotional abuse she could dish out.",42856,Yes,2,1,1,6,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,7,1,7,6,48,Female
68.119.0.172,"I walked into our kitchen where my partner was. She looked in a bad mood, so I tried to be comedic and tell a joke to get her in a better mood. She seemed to like my joke. However, when I told it, she slapped my left shoulder blade area and left a large welt.","September, 2023",Yes,5,3,5,5,3,2,3,4,5,3,3,3.6,5,3,6,5,3,6,6,4.857142857,3,4,4,3,2,4,3.333333333,39,Male
216.82.28.0,"I generally don't forgive those who have harmed me except for one person, my father. He's mostly a brute and a bully and selfish. He lived by me and would call asking if I want him to visit and bring his grandson his favorite food but then never showed up. He would then drive 2 hours to visit my sister anytime she needed him.",44958,Yes,7,1,1,4,1,3,2,1,4,2,1,2,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,4,4,2,2,4,1,2.833333333,34,Female
98.221.203.107,"My then boyfriend who i was with at the time for 6 years cheated on me.  It was a really hard blow.  I loved him so much.  While he wasnt physical with the other girl he was lying to me about going to get drinks with her.  He was texting her on a seperate app,  I saw the texts, they werent sexual but if it wasnt bad then why hide it.  I was completely heartbroken.  I left our apartment and moved back in with my parents for 2 weeks.  He begged me to come back,  I told him only if i can meet this girl . He agreed, we met and although i absolutely hate her, she is a complete mess and said she liked me more then my boyfriend.  I stuck by him because i knew he would see what a mistake this all was, while my heart was shattered for years after, he was able to mend it piece by piece and we are now happily married with a 3 year old daughter.  I decided to forgive and it was the best decision i could have made.",41275,Yes,7,2,1,7,2,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,6,7,7,7,7,6.833333333,37,Female
172.56.65.100,"My ex boyfriend, whom I loved very much, constantly accused me of cheating on him and refused to believe that it couldn't be further from the trust. He arranged to have sex with someone in his home and intentionally left her lingerie in the bed so that I would find it while we were intimate, and said he did that to hurt me for cheating on him, which never happened. ",44044,Yes,7,1,1,7,1,7,3,4,6,2,5,4,5,2,7,3,5,6,6,4.857142857,5,5,6,7,3,4,5,52,Female
35.138.85.74,"My mother constantly crosses my boundaries and insults me for things that I've told her are not okay to say. She upset me earlier this year (2023), when she gas-lit me and made me believe that I said something over 5 years ago, when I never said it. She has a tendency to not remember things correctly and it really upsets me. When I try to correct her, she claims that I'm remembering things incorrectly and gas lights me. It makes me feel emotionally abused. ",45047,Yes,5,2,2,7,2,6,1,1,1,2,1,1.2,5,1,3,2,2,2,1,2.285714286,5,2,3,5,2,5,3.666666667,27,Female
64.29.86.223,"The past isn't really the past. As long as you carry it within you, it will be a part of your present and will affect your future. You will never be able to forget the person who hurt you and you will probably never forget how much it hurt.But once you forgive someone i have allowed myself to move on. Forgiveness won't come today. It won't come tomorrow or maybe even this year. But there will be one day when i feel that it's time to let it go, leave what happened behind in the past.",42064,Yes,5,3,6,5,3,5,6,5,5,6,5,5.4,5,3,2,5,2,1,3,3,5,6,5,5,3,5,4.833333333,40,Male
69.121.204.152,"around 6 years ago, my roommate brought home the woman I had feelings for and they canoodled inches away from where I slept (we shared a wall). The next day I yelled at him and made him cry. While he knowingly did something that would hurt my feelings, I felt bad making him cry, and I also dislike holding on to grudges, even if I am in the right. Grudges take too much energy, so I forgave him. He ended up getting ""me too'ed"" a few years later and lost his beloved theater job. I say he really got what was coming to him regardless of what happened between us.","September, 2018",Yes,6,1,1,6,1,6,2,4,7,1,3,3.4,4,6,7,2,3,5,6,4.714285714,2,5,2,4,4,5,3.666666667,33,Male
172.1.65.34,I was going through a hard time as my dad was just getting better from surgery. My uncle then went off about something so I started to yell at him. It hurt me quite a bit and I was nervous to be around him. He came back the next day and apologized. So did I.,"August, 2015",Yes,6,3,2,7,2,5,2,1,2,1,1,1.4,2,1,2,1,1,2,3,1.714285714,6,5,6,5,5,5,5.333333333,36,Male
73.233.229.101,"My previous partner and I had a large fight before calling off our wedding. In this fight he expressed feelings about my potential aptitude as a mother, my mental health, etc. in extremely unkind ways which affected my significantly emotionally. He also physically threatened me multiple times and backed me into a corner. I felt very unsafe and defensive and tried to remain calm, but obviously my actions contributed to his response in some way. I ended up forgiving him after 2 years of being apart because of the freedom it granted me, rather than whether or not it impacted our relationship or gave me closure. ",Oct. 2020,Yes,5,1,1,7,3,2,1,2,1,1,1,1.2,7,6,7,7,7,7,1,6,6,1,1,1,6,7,3.666666667,35,Female
172.56.208.77,"i remembered when i was sacked in my previous work 10 years ago because i decided to cover up for my collegue.
he reported me for his own benefit and i was sacked, it really touched me but i had to let go of the emotional pain and i forgave him", feb 2013,Yes,6,5,5,6,3,5,2,1,2,6,1,2.4,6,3,6,3,3,5,4,4.285714286,6,6,3,6,7,7,5.833333333,32,Male
108.52.54.99,"I parked my car in the high school parking lot. I got a call to go to the principal's office. There, I was told that someone had hit my car. I went to go out to look at it and saw a huge dent. The girl came forward and apologized. While I was upset that my car was hit, and the accident was very inconvenient, I accepted the girl's apology.",43344,Yes,2,3,2,5,3,3,1,1,4,1,1,1.6,2,5,2,3,3,4,2,3,6,4,4,3,6,2,4.166666667,23,Female
144.163.32.76,Had a bad divorce that was not my fault. In the end I forgave the person and wished them nothing but the best. After being quiet for a few years we have been able to be friends and can speak to each other again.,42156,Yes,7,7,3,6,6,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,3,1,1,1,1,1.285714286,7,4,5,4,4,4,4.666666667,54,Male
75.83.187.234,"Last Christmas my neighbor was invited to join us for snacks and drinks. She had already been drinking and maybe was insecure around my family. She proceeded to insult me several times in a ""joking"" manner, causing me to become defensive, and other guests to chime in. It ruined the mood and really hurt my feelings. I spoke to her about it a couple weeks later and she apologized so I forgave her. ",44896,Yes,6,3,3,5,4,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,2,1,5,5,2.428571429,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,62,Female
69.245.29.65,"My husband unexpectedly left me. It absolutely wrecked me emotionally. I was completely devastated. However, time passed, and the strong emotions faded. I'm doing okay now and I can understand why he left. I have forgiven him, and see that divorce was best for the both of us.","April, 2022",Yes,7,1,1,7,2,5,1,1,3,1,1,1.4,2,6,1,4,5,6,3,3.857142857,7,4,2,3,7,2,4.166666667,35,Female
69.124.59.163,My mom hurt my feelings when she yelled at me and called me a b*tch within the past year. She has dementia and so she acts like a child and I was trying to help her with something and she got defensive and hurt my feelings. I ended up forgiving her because she can't control her behavior but I will never forget it.,44986,Yes,2,2,1,5,3,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,6,3,7,6,1,6,6,5,7,4,6,6,3,5,5.166666667,22,Female
68.116.85.163,"I had a close friend and we were very flirtatious with each other at times. It got to the point where there was some obvious chemistry and we ended up hooking up after a night of drinks  and we both admitted feelings. Well after a few days she completely spooked out and regretted everything and said she saw me only as a friend. I was hurt by this because everyone knew it wasn't true she was just trying to distance herself from me because she's afraid of being in a relationship. I kept wondering what her actual issue was, i was blaming myself but at the end of the day after some time had passed I opened the door to being friends again because genuinely we had a great platonic friendship before we even did anything romantic.",42644,Yes,1,2,1,2,5,1,1,1,2,1,1,1.2,2,5,6,6,5,6,1,4.428571429,7,3,5,5,7,5,5.333333333,31,Male
76.130.97.26,I WAS INTERVIEWING FOR A NEW POSITION IN THE DEPARTMENT I WORK IN AND I FELT THIS WAS AN IMPORTANT STEP IN MY CAREER DEVELOPMENT.  MY SUPERVISOR INTERVIEWED PEOPLE FROM INSIDE AND OUTSIDE THE COMPANY. HE HAD HIRED ME A YEAR AGO AND I THINK HE WANTED ME TO BE THE BEST CANDIDATE FOR THE PROMOTION. HE HAD SPENT A LOT OF TIME AND ENERGY DEVELOPING MY SKILLS AND LED ME TO BELIEVE I HAD MADE PROGRESS TOWARD A PROMOTION AND INCREASE IN SALARY. I FELT MY INTERVIEW WENT GREAT AND COULD HARDLY WAIT TO FIND OUT WHO GOT THE PROMOTION.  AFTER FINISHING THE INTERVIEW PROCCESS HE PICKED ANOTHER PERSON FROM INSIDE THE COMPANY WHO I HAD COMPETED WITH FOR TOP SALES EMPLOYEE. FOR AN EXPLANATION AND HE JUST SAID I WAS NOT THE BEST CANDIDATE. I SET UP A MEETING WITH HIM AND HE EXPLAINED WHAT I NEEDED TO ACCOMPLISH TO GET THE NEXT PROMOTION AND I FELT HE WAS HONEST SO I ACCPETED HIS COMMENTS AND FORGAVE HIM FOR THE DECISION ME MAKE.,"SEPTMEBER, 2021",Yes,6,2,2,6,6,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,2,1,1,1,2,1.428571429,6,6,7,7,6,6,6.333333333,54,Female
131.150.170.130,Well my brother was off living with his girlfriend and doing a lot of drugs. I was suppose to have an extensive heart surgery that would require me to stay in the hospital for a year. Beforer the surgey my parents threw me a goodbye party. My brother never came to that party and never called to ask how I was. Forgently at the last minute they cancelled my surgey because I might die and no might not work. ,fall 2016,Yes,7,1,2,7,1,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,3,1,1,1,1,1.285714286,7,7,5,7,7,7,6.666666667,32,Female
24.189.80.126,A time in where someone has harmed me emotionally was my brother. We were young at the time and he said some really mean things to me. I didn't forgive him for a very long time until recently when I was thinking about my life and where it was going. I just needed to sort things it out and that relationship was one of them.,37956,Yes,5,2,2,2,2,2,3,4,5,5,4,4.2,4,4,5,5,4,5,4,4.428571429,3,5,3,4,3,5,3.833333333,32,Female
216.212.65.214,i had a friend once who i didnt know well but was getting to know better. she was a bright person. at some point she told me she didnt want to be friends anymore and that hurt me. i had thought we were getting close. i ended up forgiving her because she had good reasons for not wanting to be friends with me at that moment. i just didnt realize that at the time.,43466,Yes,2,5,2,4,5,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,3,4,1,2,1,2,2,2.142857143,7,6,6,6,7,7,6.5,35,Female
65.26.50.99,"My husband who was my fiance at the time, had developed a friendship with a waitress near his work. It was innocent until it wasn't and it tore me apart completely. I was angry and devestated and jealous that he had talked about kinks with her. It took me a good year to finally forgive him and be okay. I have borderline personality disorder so this had felt like betrayal to the limit. It took a lot of work on his part to open up to me, and me to practice compassion and forgiveness.","Jan, 2018",Yes,7,2,1,7,3,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,4,7,6,7,7,6.333333333,36,Female
107.2.78.155,"I friend betrayed me by lending money to help out a woman that has actively trashed me to other people publicly, then denied helping her to my face. When I presented this friend with written evidence that they did lend this woman money (that this chick never paid back, by the way,) they had nothing to say. I stewed over it for a couple of years, but ended up forgiving my friend. It helped that this woman went on to totally fuck my friend over. That made me happy and sort of was how I was able to forgive (but not forget.)",42125,Yes,5,2,1,7,4,4,2,1,4,1,1,1.8,2,1,4,3,1,1,3,2.142857143,4,4,4,5,6,6,4.833333333,57,Female
99.74.30.184,My best friend invited me to come and sleep over at her house. As she took a bath later that night she wrote a letter to my boyfriend that he should break up with me because I’m not right for him and that he should be with her. It also came out that she was abusing drugs at the time. I eventually forgave her and we stopped fighting. We don’t talk anymore but we are cordial. ,44166,Yes,7,2,1,7,3,5,2,1,2,1,2,1.6,5,1,3,1,2,3,3,2.571428571,6,5,6,5,6,5,5.5,27,Female
136.226.74.112,"When I was a Senior in High School, my boyfriend went to a party I was not at. At the party, I heard of things occurring physically with another girl in my grade. I was hurt, knowing if I was there the action would not have occurred, as well as had my trust in this person broken. My boyfriend was overcome with sadness and shame, apologizing endlessly. At that point, I knew this would not be my life long partner, however, selfishly, I did not want to disrupt the rest of my year with the drama, so I forgave him.",41275,Yes,6,3,2,5,3,2,5,1,1,1,1,1.8,2,1,7,7,6,5,5,4.714285714,6,6,2,2,5,6,4.5,28,Female
47.183.185.26,"It was my ex boyfriend.  He said some things to me during an argument that were very emotionally damaging.  It hurt me very badly, and I still think about it.  He also embarrassed me very much at work and damaged my reputation. It took several months, but I ended up forgiving him and now we are good friends.","October, 2018",Yes,6,2,1,7,2,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,6,1,1,1,1,1.714285714,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,48,Female
206.190.198.52,"A close friend was very insulting towards me several months ago. The friendship effectively went on pause for some number of months, as I personally deemed the friendship not worth any effort. The friendship has since been mended. The relationship dynamic is still slightly different but is in a better state now than prior.",45078,Yes,4,3,3,5,3,4,3,3,3,4,3,3.2,5,4,5,5,5,5,5,4.857142857,5,4,4,4,4,4,4.166666667,33,Male
74.141.57.113,"Someone I really cared about hurt me a lot. They said things that really cut me fairly deep. It was really tough to deal with all the pain and anger that I was left with from this. But as time passed, I realized that holding onto those feelings was only going to make things worse for me. So, I decided to forgive them.",43831,Yes,5,3,3,5,5,3,1,1,3,1,1,1.4,3,2,5,4,2,2,3,3,4,6,7,3,6,5,5.166666667,36,Male
104.174.5.73,"My mom has been in and out of rehab several times, and each time she promises to do better, she does the very worst, she stole some money I had saved in my room and used it on drugs knowing I would forgive her and not report it.",44866,Yes,6,1,1,7,1,4,2,2,6,2,1,2.6,6,2,7,6,2,7,7,5.285714286,6,4,4,1,2,4,3.5,40,Male
35.147.36.121,"In high school, my boyfriend cheated on me. I tried to leave his house, but I wasn't the one driving. I tried to open the car doors and he was holding my wrists down so I couldn't move. I was crying and he was saying I was crazy and lying to hide his infidelity. I took him back the next day. ",43556,Yes,7,1,1,7,2,4,5,5,5,5,6,5.2,7,6,7,7,7,6,7,6.714285714,1,1,1,1,3,1,1.333333333,21,Female
72.89.6.17,"My ex-boyfriend lied, cheated, manipulated and was very emotional abusive to me over the span of our 5 year relationship. After we broke up I refused to speak to him for years, although he wanted to be friends. I ended up forgiving him after a few years and today we are on good terms. I realized that we were both very young and he's done the work to be a better person and improve. I do think that he still has more work to do and I am hopeful that he will continue that journey. While I've forgiven him for his mistakes ad we are friends now, the trauma I have will never go away, and I would never be able to be with him again in the future, eventhough he's expressed the desire to be more.",42036,Yes,7,1,1,7,3,3,1,1,4,1,1,1.6,3,1,6,2,4,5,5,3.714285714,7,7,6,6,3,6,5.833333333,33,Female
23.112.24.172,"A few years ago on my 23rd birthday, I found out my girlfriend (at the time) was cheating on me. I actually found out about it at my own party where a friend happened to stumble upon a keychain that he knew belonged to one of our mutual friends. I confronted my girlfriend about it, and she gaslit me into believing that I was crazy for thinking she was cheating. We stayed together for another 3 months until I caught her with our mutual friend at a restaurant when she said she was out of town visiting her parents. We broke up on the spot, and it took a long time to forgive her for that. Just last year, we spoke again and she apologized for her actions. I forgave her, but it is still difficult for me to trust other people to this day.","May, 2019",Yes,7,1,1,7,1,6,5,5,5,2,2,3.8,5,3,7,3,7,5,5,5,3,5,1,3,5,3,3.333333333,27,Male
75.188.244.45,"Several years ago I took in a gay man whose parents cut him off emotionally and financially, for being gay. He lived with me for a few years, then when he bought a house, I moved in with him. He is a hoarded and most likely a sociopath, he rented our third floor to a grifter who had Grinder dates over all the time who stole from us - T. was unrepentant, indignant, about the situation, so I had to move out to a studio of my own (I teach children from home and this became a not-safe environment). The emotional toll was staggering and the financial one, the move itself, was enormous. But I've been studying Buddhism and it has helped me to put only Good thoughts into the universe, and that forgiveness is Key. I'm really, really trying to forgive him.",44378,Yes,7,3,1,7,3,4,3,2,3,3,3,2.8,6,5,7,6,4,5,5,5.428571429,4,5,3,4,3,3,3.666666667,49,Female
74.133.10.237,"My friend actually punched me one time.  We were partying and he thought I was trying to steal his gf.  I was not at all, and have no idea why he even thought that.  I allowed him to punch me and I kind of just went on with the night.",42491,Yes,4,4,4,5,4,3,5,3,3,3,3,3.4,2,3,3,3,2,3,3,2.714285714,3,5,5,3,2,5,3.833333333,34,Male
174.166.177.192,Someone would not talk to me for a few months over a situation that I had no control over. I know that I did nothing wrong and did my best to honor a request but it was out of my hands after that as it was up to someone to grant it. I was really hurt and we did end up talking eventually but not sure we ever discussed the issue again. I did try to reach out during those few months. I forgave the person regardless that I did nothing to deserve the treatment. I know they were dissapointed about not getting what they wanted but I believe that they should have been more understanding than just quit communication.,41548,Yes,5,3,1,7,4,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,1,1,1,1.142857143,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,66,Female
47.161.9.188,"My brother has some mental health issues. When I was 17, he got mad at me over chores. He was supposed to do the dishes and had not done them; I knew my mom would be home within an hour or two so I reminded him of his task. This ended up escalating to him chasing me around the house with a butchers knife. He didn't harm me too bad but I did get cut up and had to leave the house and call the police. ","August, 2015",Yes,7,1,1,7,2,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,5,2,5,5,2,5,2,3.714285714,4,5,2,1,3,2,2.833333333,25,Female
50.96.10.208,My ex boyfriend was very awful to me. He would yell at me and drink too much. We got into physical altercations. This was 8 years ago. I have since forgiven him as he is mentally unwell.,42156,Yes,5,2,2,7,2,2,1,2,2,2,2,1.8,2,3,6,2,2,3,6,3.428571429,6,6,5,5,6,6,5.666666667,35,Female
173.184.97.147,"There was an incident where a relative harmed me emotionally. She was very verbally abusive, trying to heap guilt on me for something I didn't do. She said awful things to me, accusing me of things I didn't do. She was manipulative and extremely hurtful. I was harmed by this, and didn't want anything to do with her ever again. But after some time, I decided to forgive her because she was family, and I couldn't avoid her forever ",44682,Yes,7,1,1,7,2,5,1,1,2,1,1,1.2,4,1,7,5,2,5,6,4.285714286,3,4,4,4,3,5,3.833333333,60,Female
12.192.46.118,"My ex-girlfriend cheated on me. She confessed to it right away and apologized profusely, which - after much personal anguish and deliberation - prompted me to give her another chance. We tried for a few months but it was never the same, and I realized we weren't going to work so I broke it off. But I still forgave her for what she did.",43922,Yes,7,1,1,7,2,2,1,2,4,1,1,1.8,7,6,5,7,7,7,5,6.285714286,3,1,1,1,6,1,2.166666667,32,Male
158.62.186.140,"My younger sister frequently disrespects my partner. A couple of weeks ago she did it again. Originally I flew off the handle, and made the situation worse. However, a couple of days later, I apologized and forgave my sister for her behavior. Everything is good now.","October, 2023",Yes,7,4,1,7,1,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,4,1,1,1,1,1.428571429,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,30,Male
131.93.49.27,My brother was really mad at me. He had me pinned against the wall. He swung to punch me but I ducked. He hit the wall hard.,38200,Yes,7,2,2,6,2,3,2,3,2,2,2,2.2,4,2,3,3,2,3,3,2.857142857,4,5,5,5,6,6,5.166666667,52,Female
68.131.104.126,"A person I was dating in high school broke up with me when we went to college together.  I was not the ideal boyfriend but I still felt betrayed by my emotions. I ended up getting very bitter about it for a while, but eventually I forgave and forgot.  It really helped me grow as a person and made me into who I am today.",41153,Yes,2,3,1,5,3,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,5,1,1,6,1,2,5,3,6,3,1,1,1,1,2.166666667,29,Male
108.45.29.6,A friend told me that they did not care when I was expressing that I was having a difficult time in life and it very much hurt. They just scooted around the subject and when I told them that was hurtful they lashed out and told me that I was killing the vibe.,43922,Yes,6,2,2,6,2,5,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,4,3,1,1,1,1.857142857,6,6,3,5,7,7,5.666666667,27,Male
68.191.107.199,"My wife backed out on a trip with me, saying she wasn't ready to leave our son at grandparents house overnight, but a week later said she was going on a trip with some friends.  I felt very disrespected.  I was very frustrated.  I eventually forgave her after she realized how much it hurt me.",43497,Yes,4,4,4,4,4,4,4,4,1,1,1,2.2,4,4,1,1,1,1,1,1.857142857,4,4,4,7,7,4,5,36,Male
167.248.21.2,"When I was in my late teens and early twenties, I was in a long-term relationship. We ended up breaking up and it was somewhat of a messy ending. My former partner said a lot of hurtful things to me and overall, our romantic relationship was not a healthy one. I held a lot of resentment for a long time and it took me a while to heal from it. As we both got older, we got back in touch and were able to have a nice long talk about our relationship. He apologized for his behavior, and looking back, we were both so young and immature. We have a good friendship to this day.",39753,Yes,5,2,1,7,3,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,6,2,3,2,4,1,2.857142857,7,6,6,5,7,5,6,35,Female
130.44.143.14,I got into a fight with my brother a couple years ago. He hit me. He harmed me physically. I forgave hima after.,44378,Yes,6,2,2,6,2,6,2,2,2,2,3,2.2,3,1,2,3,2,2,2,2.142857143,6,6,6,6,6,2,5.333333333,45,Male
47.151.37.95,This person harmed me emotionally through social media. I met this person from another friend of mine at a party. I believed we were getting along and having a good time. The next day I received messages from him to stay away from his friends and himself. I was emotionally hurt by these statements and wanted to fix the issue. It was only after several weeks later when we hang out more that he believed I was a good man and apologized for his rude behavior.,43191,Yes,7,2,2,6,1,6,2,2,2,2,2,2,2,2,3,1,2,2,2,2,6,6,6,6,5,3,5.333333333,32,Male
108.176.216.10,"I had a best friend of mine for 35 years who we were close like sisters. One day all of a sudden she no longer called me, visited me and walked out of my life. We had not had a fight nor any issues so I didn't understand why she avoided me and no longer spoke to me. Three years later I ran into her in a store and she said she wanted to talk to me about what happened. She claimed the reason she stayed out of my life is because she was able to have kids and I couldn't due to infertility issues. I was so hurt over that","August, 2018",Yes,7,1,1,7,1,5,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,3,1,1,1,1,1.285714286,5,5,7,7,6,6,6,52,Female
100.16.83.165,"I told my friend that her stealing thousands of dollars from her mother was wrong. She attacked me physically (punching me in the face and head, pushing me down and kicking me in the back). She was verbally attacking my lifestyle (stay-at-home-mom) and was saying terrible things about my children (they were worthless, I was stupid for having 'them things', they were degenerates, etc). I ended up forgiving her five years later because I found out that she had a tumor on her brain that was causing her to act the way she was. ",41671,Yes,7,1,1,7,1,6,5,1,4,4,5,3.8,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,4,4,4,1,1,3.5,38,Female
174.24.77.26,My family member verbally and physically attacked me. He came at me for no reason other than that he was unhappy and taking out his anger on me. He treated me like I was abusive myself when I tried not to attack back at all. I chose to forgive him because I know he's a lot less perfect than me. ,45261,Yes,7,3,3,5,5,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,1,1,1,1.142857143,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,43,Female
172.56.97.14,"In July 2019, I discovered that my partner had cheated on me with a close friend. The emotional pain was overwhelming, and I initially felt a mix of anger, betrayal, and heartbreak. Confronting them was difficult, but over time, I chose to forgive both of them for the sake of my own healing.

I realized that holding onto resentment was only harming me further, and forgiveness became a way to release the heavy burden of negative emotions. It was a gradual process, and it took months of introspection and open communication with both individuals involved. Eventually, I found it within myself to let go of the hurt and move forward, focusing on personal growth and self-love. Looking back, the memory is bittersweet, but the act of forgiveness has allowed me to rebuild trust and find happiness again.","Mars, 2021",Yes,6,5,3,5,5,6,3,2,5,6,5,4.2,5,5,5,3,6,6,5,5,3,3,6,5,5,3,4.166666667,54,Male
174.101.36.103,"I was hanging out with a group of friends at the movies. While I was there a friend of mine made fun of me for something embarrassing. Everyone laughed at the joke and it made me feel ashamed and sad. However, I let it go and forgave them for the joke.",42095,Yes,6,2,2,6,4,2,2,2,3,2,1,2,4,1,5,2,2,2,3,2.714285714,4,5,4,4,6,4,4.5,34,Male
24.62.150.254,In my senior year of high school my father came home drunk one night. He was abusive towards my mother. I intervened accusing him of being an irresponsible partner and parent. His response to me was the harshest I have ever imagined. A parent should not speak to a child like that. Later he apologized and I told him I forgive him but I am not sure I fully do/did.,40299,Yes,7,2,2,6,1,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,2,6,2,2,5,5,3.428571429,4,4,2,3,3,4,3.333333333,31,Male
71.239.201.96,"My first (and last boyfriend) was a year younger than me and we met on the cross country team. We hung out (NEVER sex), went to homecoming and talked often. We broke up after 3 weeks and he told my bestfriend not to give me his new number. 3 months later, I went to his Facebook page where I saw a ""congratulations"" wall post. He had just had a son and his baby mother didn't go to our school so that's why I didn't know.","October, 2013",Yes,6,4,1,1,4,1,1,1,2,1,1,1.2,5,7,4,2,6,7,2,4.714285714,5,4,3,1,7,4,4,27,Female
24.62.104.67,This friend was one of my closest friends.  We have many friends in common.  I had found out that this friend was talking really bad about me behind my back regarding a certain situation. The friend was always so nice to me regarding this situation and would never show any negativity. When I confronted the person after finding out I realized I should just forgive them this one time. Even though my feelings were really hurt and I had lost some trust I did forgive them for talking so badly behind my back.,45149,Yes,6,2,1,1,3,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,2,2,2,1,2,2,1.857142857,7,6,6,2,6,2,4.833333333,48,Male
68.60.0.246,"My boyfriend of around two years at the time was caught by me flirting with my friends on social media under a fake profile. I discovered only due to his phone number connecting him to the profile, and I was very upset because he would not admit to it even after the confrontation. I felt very hurt that not only was he harassing my friends, he was also lying to me and doing what I would consider to be cheating. I was 18 and had only known being his girlfriend since I was 16, so I ended up forgiving him -- of course, I still held resentment for months afterwards, and did not truly end up forgiving him and not feeling the hurt anymore until around a year and a half later. ","May, 2021",Yes,6,1,1,7,2,4,2,1,2,3,1,1.8,1,1,5,1,1,4,3,2.285714286,7,6,7,7,7,6,6.666666667,20,Female
173.77.74.29,My fiance who I was living with started an affair with someone at work.   I discovered this and it really negatively affected me.   She was fairly brazen about it and we ended up breaking up over it.   She wanted to get back together but I said I do forgive you but no chance,43221,Yes,5,2,1,7,2,4,2,4,3,2,2,2.6,5,5,6,4,3,4,5,4.571428571,4,3,4,3,5,5,4,47,Male
76.216.235.14,"My former roommates were a couple that consistently wanted to engage in a three way relationship with me. I had no desire to commit to their wants and after months of back and forth, we had a falling out that hindered out relationship. They later outed my sexuality on their social media page to many people we both know, mutually. I haven't told anyone but these former roommates about my sexuality, so it was a gut-wrenching experience. As days and months went by we rekindled our relationship, and although we are not friends or roommates anymore, we can talk from time to time. ","April, 2020",Yes,6,2,1,7,3,4,1,2,3,1,1,1.6,5,4,7,5,5,5,5,5.142857143,5,4,3,2,7,3,4,28,Male
72.217.78.71,"I had a physical fight with my roommate while we were both intoxicated. The next morning, my roommate apologized to me. Initially, I was hesitant to forgive him. In time, I was able to.","November, 2016",Yes,4,2,2,6,4,4,1,1,2,1,1,1.2,2,3,3,5,3,5,3,3.428571429,5,4,5,4,6,4,4.666666667,27,Male
172.59.230.230,"My boyfriend of 12 years blew out some disks in his back several years ago, and even though it took a couple of years, he developed a serious opioid addiction. There were many incidents where he verbally and/or emotionally hurt me as he snuck around and lied about his drug use, which by then, had escalated to street drugs. I don't even like to talk about this because it was so traumatic. He'd recently had 10 inches of his colon removed in an emergency operation and had a colostomy bag. He was wildly hallucinating one night, completely out of his mind, and was trying to pull out his intestines, and I barely stopped him from killing himself in the most gruesome way imaginable. I kicked him out the next day but continued to encourage him to get help since this situation was way beyond my abilities. He died alone from an overdose 6 weeks later, and it took a while, but I've finally forgiven him for dying and realized that he was instrumental in shaping who I am today. I'd do it over again to get where I am now. ","June, 2013",Yes,5,2,1,7,2,3,1,1,3,1,1,1.4,2,4,6,4,5,4,4,4.142857143,7,4,4,4,7,5,5.166666667,62,Female
209.159.217.88,had a friend who broke my trust. i told them something in confidence and they shared it with others. was quite upset. they had no good reason to tell anyone else. ,45108,Yes,6,2,1,6,3,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,4,2,2,2,3,2.285714286,6,5,5,5,6,5,5.333333333,49,Male
24.16.233.251,"I had gone through a really rough breakup with a girlfriend, and was having a tough time dealing with it. I had confided in a friend during this time, seeking advice and just a general shoulder to cry on. I later found out that, during this time of my going to them and complaining/seeking advice, they had actually been sleeping with them. It was heartbreaking but I learned later on, to forgive them. We were young and I can't fault them for the actions my ex took, nor for the actions my friend took.",45839,Yes,5,2,1,6,4,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,6,5,2,6,6,7,5,5.285714286,7,7,5,6,5,6,6,29,Male
67.175.58.94,"When I was 15 I went to a sleepover with a bunch of other girls.  One of the girls in the group was basically regina from mean girls.  They were taking turns doing each others hair, and offered to do mine.  After they were done, I saw that they had put nail polish in my hair and other sticky things.  It took me a very long time to get this stuff out and to this day I still occasionally think about it.  Later that year my friend confronted that girl and told her if she messed with me again, they would have her to deal with.",39264,Yes,3,3,2,2,2,3,2,2,2,3,2,2.2,3,2,2,3,6,6,3,3.571428571,3,3,3,3,3,5,3.333333333,31,Female
99.107.252.153,"Last year on fall, my wife left me to go back to her hometown for almost 4 months. I remembered I did not do anything wrong before that. My ex-wife moved out of the house out of sudden without giving me any reasonable explanation. It was the most painful event that I have ever experienced. After 4 months, she came back home, explaining to me that she missed her parents and wanted to spend time with them. Moreover, she would need to spend time to think about the relationship. I ended up forgiving her because I think she may not be ready for a marriage life at that time yet.",44805,Yes,6,1,1,2,3,5,6,2,5,3,3,3.8,5,2,5,3,2,3,3,3.285714286,6,6,5,6,3,6,5.333333333,32,Male
24.143.24.39,"I was emotionally harmed by a person I thought was my best friend.  He stopped calling and texting.  We used to hang out nearly every day either with or without our wives.  When I stopped by his house to see what's up, he didn't want to speak and we haven't spoken since.  I wrote him a letter wondering if there was something I did, but I haven't received a response.","September, 2021",Yes,5,1,1,7,1,5,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,5,1,7,7,1,3.285714286,7,1,1,1,6,1,2.833333333,58,Male
96.19.3.216,"Someone that I wanted to be in a relationship with had led me to believe that they might also be in a relationship with me. I really wanted this, but in the end, they ended up choosing someone else and they weren't very nice to me about it. I was very upset for a long time. But eventually I realized that we wouldn't have been a good fit and it was probably better that we hadn't ended up together, so I forgave them for the way they handled it.","September, 2015",Yes,5,4,2,6,4,3,1,1,4,1,1,1.6,2,3,2,2,2,5,3,2.714285714,6,5,5,5,4,5,5,34,Female
72.187.35.155,"I was caring for my elderly father (99-102) in my home and one day was going through his stuff and found a check book.  I looked in the checkbook and found that he had given each of the children 1,000 and only gave me 100.  I was very hurt by this since I was the one that took him and cared for him not putting him in a home.",41974,Yes,6,3,3,3,4,5,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,3,1,1,1,1,1.428571429,6,5,6,6,6,6,5.833333333,74,Female
207.255.199.117,"A few years ago, a close friend betrayed my trust by spreading hurtful rumors about me, causing emotional distress. The incident took place during a social gathering, and I felt a profound sense of betrayal and sadness. Over time, I chose to confront the person, expressing my feelings and seeking understanding. Despite the initial pain, I eventually forgave them, recognizing the complexity of human relationships and the possibility of personal growth and change. This experience taught me the value of forgiveness for my own peace of mind.","july, 2021",Yes,5,3,2,4,3,3,3,4,3,2,3,3,4,3,2,3,3,3,4,3.142857143,2,4,5,3,3,2,3.166666667,35,Male
173.170.68.131,My mom said something that hurt me about my body. She called my thighs big and this hurt me. This was about four years ago and we have both grown from the experience. ,"October, 2019",Yes,5,2,1,6,3,5,1,1,2,1,1,1.2,2,2,3,1,1,1,2,1.714285714,7,6,7,7,6,5,6.333333333,20,Female
162.231.57.35,A person put a gun to my head and gave me 3 seconds to live. He started counting down from 3 and I had to run on out of there.  I forgave him in my mind cause I never saw the guy again. But it took me years to get over the anger and just forgive him.  ,41821,Yes,7,2,1,7,4,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,4,4,5,4,4,4,4,4.142857143,7,4,4,4,7,7,5.5,39,Male
73.94.85.142,"I was in a car accident with a good friend. They were driving and I was a passenger. They were driving someone erratically like a jackass, and we wound up in a minor car accident. This flared up a back injury and resulted in having one leg paralyzed for a few months. I eventually healed up and got the use of my leg back, and my friend apologized and was forgiven. ",44501,Yes,6,3,6,5,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,4,2,1,4,1,2,6,5,5,5,5,5,5.166666667,35,Male
69.109.230.231,"I was in a relationship a few years ago at the end of which, I was dumped.  He was really not nice about it but had no reason to act that way.  After the fact I wound up forgiving him.",44136,Yes,5,2,1,6,3,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,3,6,4,1,1,6,1,3.142857143,6,5,6,5,6,3,5.166666667,41,Female
98.42.122.126,"My first girlfriend in college ended our relationship and it took quite the emotional toll on me. It was during my freshman year and I moved across the country for school. We met at a campus organization meeting and quickly got along. We started hanging out a lot until I grew the courage to ask her out. We began dating in November 2018. Things were going well, but Winter Break came along and we both went home for the holidays. Upon return, I noticed that she wasn't answering my texts nor was she responding to any of our friends'. She ghosted me, thus effectively ending our relationship without any real closure. I even walked past her on campus, but she looked at me as if she didn't know me. It took me awhile to get over her as she was my first girlfriend. However, time heals most wounds and I found the courage to forgive her despite never speaking to her again.",43466,Yes,5,3,1,6,2,6,2,2,3,2,2,2.2,4,5,5,3,5,6,4,4.571428571,5,6,5,4,5,4,4.833333333,23,Male
98.111.222.117,My neighbor had been tormenting me for three years. He harassed me and harassed my daughter. I eventually took him to court but the judge wanted us to work the problems out ourselves. He called and sort of apologized and provided a way for us to work things through. I was willing to forgive him.,44348,Yes,7,3,1,6,2,6,1,2,2,1,1,1.4,6,2,6,2,1,1,1,2.714285714,7,7,7,6,6,5,6.333333333,39,Male
104.138.136.46,"It was around 4 am and about a month after I broke up with my ex. He did not want to break up at all, but I knew it was for the best. He started texting me and saying all of these nasty things about myself and my personality. One thing in particular that really stuck was when he told me that I was the most boring person he had ever met. ",43952,Yes,6,1,1,6,2,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,5,5,4,4,4,5,4,4.428571429,5,3,3,3,5,3,3.666666667,19,Female
73.137.242.158,"I was asked a simple question by someone argumentative.  I answered the question and was accused of not knowing what I was talking about, that I was lying. The other person claimed to already know the answer to the question.  Don't ask me questions if you know the answer, then always say that I am always right. ","December, 2000",Yes,7,1,1,7,1,7,2,1,2,1,1,1.4,5,6,6,4,3,1,4,4.142857143,7,6,6,5,7,5,6,58,Female
68.7.224.109,"My friend who was also my boss, did not stand up for me at work when pressured by upper management and I ended up leaving that job. I felt that she could have done more to help the situation but since she didn't I was very hurt by that. Also, I felt that she could have talked to me about it either before, during, or after, but she did none of that. I realize that it was her own insecurity and lack of emotional intelligence that caused her behavior so I can forgive her, but I also can't really call her a friend anymore.",44652,Yes,5,3,2,7,4,3,1,1,2,1,1,1.2,6,3,6,5,4,6,5,5,5,1,3,1,4,4,3,58,Female
72.82.29.101,"I remember that a classmate in our last year of high school threw a ball to my face after I made him trip during a basketball match, I ended up forgiving him since it was not really worth it fighting with him.","February, 2019",Yes,6,3,3,5,4,2,2,1,5,2,1,2.2,5,3,6,1,1,5,5,3.714285714,5,5,4,5,6,2,4.5,22,Male
70.118.131.204,My mom abused me my entire teens. The police were involved often. I forgave her and still talk to her because that was a complicated time for everyone. She recently has realized how horrible her behavior was. ,entire 2013 is when it started ,Yes,7,1,1,6,2,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,3,3,4,3,1,2,3,2.714285714,7,6,7,7,7,7,6.833333333,29,Female
71.185.20.138,"When I was a teenager, I was playing in a pick up football game with my friends. After catching a pass, one of my friends who was on the other team tackled me under the waist. Unfortunately I ended up breaking my ankle due to the hit. I was a bit angry with them for hitting me low like that, but over time I recognized that it was just an accident and he did not mean to hurt me. I forgave him.",42309,Yes,3,1,1,7,2,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,24,Male
47.149.154.223,One instance I can think of is with my ex girlfriend. I had found out she had went to see her ex boyfriend to buy some product for her. I was very hurt but she came clean about everything. I ended up forgiving her because I believed that it was strictly business.,44013,Yes,6,1,1,5,2,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,4,3,1,4,6,5,2,3.571428571,7,5,7,4,2,4,4.833333333,27,Male
72.177.203.85,I was emotionally harmed by an ex-significant other of mine. They would gaslight me into thinking things and manipulate me. They made me have no self-confidence and made me rely on them. Ultimately I forgave them for my own peace of mind. ,43952,Yes,7,1,1,7,1,1,1,1,4,1,1,1.6,7,7,7,7,7,7,4,6.571428571,4,4,1,1,4,1,2.5,29,Male
74.132.107.24,"The memory I am thinking of is about my past best friend. I had recently gotten a boyfriend. We were together for only about a month at the time. My past best friend just treated him horribly. He had never done anything to her to cause any conflict, she was simply just mean to him. I care for him a great deal so it really hurt me she acted this way towards him. Unfortunately, I had to cut her off. She was supposed to be my best friend and she wasn't acting like it.",44774,Yes,7,2,1,6,2,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,2,4,1,2,2,4,2.428571429,5,5,5,5,5,4,4.833333333,19,Female
24.168.226.165,"A friend of mine became angry at me for not going to a concert with another friend and he said terrible things about me in from of a group of people. 
WE eventually talked it out and he apologized for what he had done. ",43678,Yes,6,2,1,7,1,6,2,2,1,1,1,1.4,2,2,3,2,2,1,2,2,6,6,6,6,6,5,5.833333333,64,Male
73.210.148.125,my childs father is emotional abusive and calls me names. he can be so mean to me and i alays go back. i guess it is because we share a child,44652,Yes,7,1,2,7,1,7,6,7,7,7,6,6.6,6,7,7,7,7,7,7,6.857142857,3,6,7,7,7,7,6.166666667,36,Female
24.205.63.85,"My ex husband moved me and my young children from the west coast to the east coast promising that it would only be for 2 years.  I had to put my career on hold, rent out our house and start raising my kids away from friends and family.  After the 2 years were up I wanted to move back and he refused.  I forgave him because I knew he was working on growing his business to benefit all of us but eventually his disrespect for me continued and I divorced him.  A few years after that, I moved with the kids back to California and now we are finally close to family and happy!",40391,Yes,6,2,1,7,1,6,1,1,3,1,2,1.6,7,7,7,7,7,7,6,6.857142857,3,2,5,3,3,3,3.166666667,54,Female
24.115.182.45,"In high school another student commented on my quietness and though there was something said there must be something wrong with me. It bugged me a little at first, but I forgave them in the end. This is because in the end I know their opinion is wrong. Also I know they have problems of their own  so it is best to just let it go.",43344,Yes,5,4,3,4,4,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,3,6,5,4,4,6,4,4.571428571,4,2,2,1,4,2,2.5,23,Male
100.2.56.175,"I dance in a company, and often we can injure each other during the job. One of my bigger dancers used way too much physical force in a connection exercise, in which we weight share using each other's shoulders. I went toppling to the ground and got a huge bruise on my behind. I forgave my dancer, and we had a chat about how much force to use in the future to become more successful. ",44470,Yes,2,4,3,3,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,5,1,6,1,1,1,3,2.571428571,5,7,7,6,7,6,6.333333333,20,Female
98.204.144.186,"I was hurt when my sibling did not acknowledge my child graduating college. My child was also hurt, and that made it worse for me. I ended up forgiving this person. I tried to imagine this person was just too busy to remember . ",42522,Yes,3,2,2,4,3,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,2,3,3,3,3,2,2.571428571,6,5,5,4,5,5,5,58,Female
172.1.65.34,I was kind of looked down on by another streamer on Twitch. I was told I could not be a good streamer. The person is kind of a big streamer on Twitch. What the person said really hurt my feelings. I eventually came around and forgave the person.,43252,Yes,4,3,4,2,4,3,2,1,4,3,4,2.8,4,3,3,4,3,4,3,3.428571429,3,2,4,4,4,3,3.333333333,37,Male
71.224.78.6,"It was earlier in the year of 2013, but I remember when my brother stole my Xbox 360 and sold it because of problems he was going through which deeply hurt me and shattered the trust in him, and for the longest time I let that bridge burn between us. Sadly it took him passing away that same year for me to forgive him (though it was months after he passed that I forgave him).","April, 2013",Yes,7,1,1,7,3,5,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,4,1,1,1,1,1.428571429,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,31,Male
172.56.105.116,"My friend Ali has a jealous side, and a lot of her insecurity is really uncalled for.  At one point in time, we worked for the same employer.  Her boyfriend also worked with us.  A new coworker joined the team, and was working alongside the boyfriend.  Ali got very, very jealous.  She started to pull a mean-girl attitude towards the new coworker.  I befriended the coworker, and Ali turned her hate and anger towards me as well.  One night she became very drunk, and confronted me on loyalty to friends and other such topics.  I pushed back and told her to leave me alone and that she was being ridiculous.  She said some nasty things, and I went home feeling upset.  I unfriended her from social media, etc ... long story short, we reconnected a couple of years later during the pandemic and for a spell had a much better friendship.  She's moved across the country and we've since drifted apart, but all is forgiven.","May, 2018",Yes,5,2,1,6,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,4,5,4,5,5,5,5,4.714285714,5,5,4,4,7,4,4.833333333,46,Female
68.1.148.133,"I was with this relationship and the person lied to me about having a drivers license and I let them drive my car, they ended up getting pulled over and arrested because of this. I had to bail them out. I shouldn't have forgiven them for lying to me but I did. ","March, 2016",Yes,6,1,1,6,1,5,6,7,7,7,7,6.8,7,6,7,7,7,7,7,6.857142857,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,34,Male
75.115.132.183,"A few years ago, I found out my husband was cheating on me.  I was devastated and asked him to leave.  During his time away from home, about 6 months, we slowly started talking again and working on why it happened.  Eventually, I was able to forgive him due to his willingness to open up completely and work on himself.  It was hard work and even after he moved back in, I had to keep working on the forgiveness.
",43556,Yes,7,4,1,7,3,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,1,1,1,1.142857143,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,55,Female
76.36.28.24,My ex-husband secretly filed for divorce without ever talking with me about problems in our relationship. He worked to have me thrown out of our home. He went out of his way to make this process as painful and impossible for me as possible. He did this during the covid pandemic lockdowns in order to ensure I'd have no access to aid.,44044,Yes,7,1,1,7,2,5,1,5,5,1,2,2.8,7,7,7,1,7,7,4,5.714285714,2,1,1,1,5,1,1.833333333,38,Female
216.51.169.169,"I had a family member harm me emotionally and physically over and over and over again. It took a long time but, I did forgive them for it through religion. ",36861,Yes,5,3,5,7,2,6,2,2,2,6,6,3.6,6,6,7,6,6,7,7,6.428571429,2,2,2,6,7,6,4.166666667,46,Male
24.163.25.212,My girlfriend cheated on me a few years ago. I was hurt emotionally by her actions. I felt betrayed. It took time but I eventually forgave her. She made a mistake and I understood that.,44409,Yes,6,2,2,6,3,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,38,Male
76.124.224.156,"There was a time during my childhood around 16 when I had a poor relationship with my father. He was not very present in my life emotionally, which bothered me at times. A situation had occurred with him hindering my ability to go to the school I wanted because he was in a different area. We had gotten into an argument and exchanged some words which were pretty hurtful. I had been upset with him for a while after that, but eventually forgave him.","July,2016",Yes,5,2,2,4,3,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,3,3,1,4,5,3,2.857142857,6,3,4,5,7,7,5.333333333,23,Male
172.56.25.30,"I can recall when someone I called a ""friend"" stole my Nintendo DSI I received for Christmas. I showed it off to others and allowed them to play with it if they asked. I found out when I noticed it was missing from my backpack and I caught him playing with the game system during lunch (it was special limited edition with my name on it so I knew it was mine). This hurt me emotionally as my trust completely went out the window with this person. Nevertheless, after talking with them, I did get it back and I forgave him in the end. ",42005,Yes,5,3,4,5,3,3,2,1,1,4,1,1.8,3,1,4,4,4,3,4,3.285714286,5,4,4,4,4,4,4.166666667,27,Male
184.17.89.150,"She wrote a scathing email telling me how awful a person I am. How I was a user, that I lied to them and everyone else. That I deserved every bad thing that happened to me. That it was them that kicked me out, not the someone they had blamed. It was awful. She is family to me.", May 2019,Yes,7,1,1,7,4,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,58,Female
136.60.163.72,"A friend accused me of something I did not do. She told other people that she thought I did something shameful, but never asked me about it directly. I found this out only because others told me. They never believed her and dismissed it, but I was very hurt that she not only thought this of me but didn't bother to ask me and spread this vicious rumor to others.  A few months ago, I told her that I knew about it and told her how much it hurt me. She told me the reason she came to her conclusion and apologized. ",42064,Yes,6,1,1,7,1,1,1,3,4,3,3,2.8,4,4,7,5,4,5,5,4.857142857,5,4,4,4,3,3,3.833333333,48,Female
24.216.107.189,"My daughter in law was incredibly rude to me through text, it came out of nowhere and I was shocked and hurt. I immediately put my phone down and walked away because I knew if I said anything it would just get worse. I backed way off from engaging with my daughter in law for months until one day she texted and apologized, it took a lot but I did forgive her to keep the peace in the family.",44166,Yes,6,2,1,7,3,5,2,1,3,1,1,1.6,4,4,5,5,3,5,5,4.428571429,4,4,5,5,4,4,4.333333333,61,Female
69.180.80.6,"My ex wife had an affair. It was devastating and caused me so much spite and resentment. I divorced her shortly after but I was still angry for a long time. Through my own soul searching I eventually allowed myself to forgive her. Although I don't care to ever see her again because of the trauma she caused me, I have learned to forgive because it was harmful to myself to carry aversion. I truly believe everything happens for a reason.","October, 2018",Yes,7,4,1,7,4,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,4,7,7,7,7,7,4,6.142857143,7,4,1,1,7,1,3.5,34,Male
75.132.247.168,i remember getting in a schoolyard fight. afterwards we became friends. it was a glorious experience because he became one of my closest friends. he destroyed my jaw with his fist before we got into a full on boxing match. turns out its a fond memory.,"sept, 1989",Yes,3,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,2,1,1,1.2,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,53,Female
72.199.156.153,"i was supposed to hang out with a friend of mine but they called at the last minute and said they were sick and cancelled. no big deal i thought. a few hours later i check facebook and she's posting hanging out with another friend drinking beers. i was very upset, because i would have happily got drunk with her. turns out she was on a bender for several days. she later admitted to being an alcoholic and went into recovery so i forgave her",43586,Yes,5,3,2,6,3,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,39,Male
148.170.205.83,"About 8+ years ago my father was going through an extremely difficult time. He (at the time) had an undiagnosed mental disorder (CTE) and was acting in an extremely aggressive and hostile manner. He never got physically aggressive but he would scream and explode with anger over the slightest of things which made him very volatile and difficult to be around. His rage was on at least one occasion directed at me for a minor slight which lead him to say extremely nasty and hurtful things as well as threatening to kick me out of the home we shared.

I just had to weather the storm and eventually our situation improved AND we were able to discover what was wrong with him. Although I was hurt by his behavior I forgave him because he had a disorder that made it very easy for him to lose control.","August, 2015",Yes,7,2,1,7,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,6,7,6,7,7,6.666666667,32,Male
172.59.96.144,"A guy added me on Facebook a few years ago. We went and hung out at his place, where he was extremely vulgar. I recently added him again, not recognising him as the same person; his appearance had changed a lot. He apologised for how he treated me and said he'd taken the last few years to do a lot of growing and self introspection. I agreed to be friends because he seems like he genuinely has changed.",44105,Yes,7,1,1,6,3,2,1,1,2,1,1,1.2,2,1,2,2,1,2,2,1.714285714,6,7,7,7,6,7,6.666666667,34,Female
73.21.245.36,My sister lost her husband to cancer. At the time she began to drink. We took in her son who was 6 at the time. We then raised him for the next 4 years. We told her we were moving and she slapped me.,42856,Yes,7,2,1,7,1,5,2,2,2,1,1,1.6,6,5,6,7,6,6,5,5.857142857,5,3,4,2,5,1,3.333333333,46,Female
136.49.34.244,She was the director of a non profit.  She was never satisfied with my volunteer work and would verbally abuse me over my actions.  The non profit was supposed to be about empowerment making this really painful.  I was doing my best.  I left and forgave her.,44378,Yes,6,2,3,3,2,5,3,4,5,4,5,4.2,6,6,6,7,5,7,5,6,2,1,1,1,4,3,2,44,Female
98.118.186.168,That was when I had a break up and I went through a lot and that made me sad and also depressed and at the end I forgave him.,"July,2015",Yes,5,3,5,5,5,5,5,5,3,3,3,3.8,3,3,3,5,3,5,5,3.857142857,5,5,5,3,5,5,4.666666667,48,Female
67.141.26.167,"I had an ex boyfriend who was one of my first loves and from the first few dates i fell deeply in love with him and felt the same from him put as time when on i got to know him more and he was also a few years older than me. He was more experienced than me and found out he actually had a kid and still occasionally spent time with him baby mother so that hurt me a lot finding out from some other source other than him. I would always go above and beyond for him and one day we planned to spend the day together and he told me he would have to cancel since he was going to spend time with his soon, so i was ok with that, at that point i had accepted the fact and was ok with that situation. Later than night i was out with family and happened to open facebook and scrolled a bit and saw a post with my boyfriend, it was a tagged pic of him out with some other guy, i was so heartbroken that he did that to me and as the days went we talked and cried a lot together and i couldn't get over that","january, 2014",Yes,5,3,2,6,4,3,3,2,4,3,3,3,6,6,5,5,6,6,5,5.571428571,5,5,4,4,5,4,4.5,27,Male
12.251.116.118,A family member slapped me across the face really hard during an argument we were having. They later apologized and I accepted it.,44044,Yes,7,1,1,7,1,5,1,1,1,1,1,1,4,1,3,1,1,1,2,1.857142857,4,7,5,7,7,7,6.166666667,30,Male
173.172.44.161,Someone at work hurt me with a tool. It was pretty traumatizing. But they apologized for it. So then I forgave them even though it was bad.,44044,Yes,6,2,2,3,3,3,3,4,4,3,3,3.4,6,3,3,5,3,3,5,4,4,3,4,4,3,2,3.333333333,33,Male
50.209.42.249,"I was told by my mom when I was 15 that she was divorcing my father, she told me before any of my other family, putting the emotional weight on me. I have forgiven her because I love her and want her to be happy above all.",42186,Yes,2,2,1,7,3,3,1,1,3,1,1,1.4,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,1.142857143,6,5,7,6,7,5,6,23,Female
72.231.16.195,"I was in relationship with women younger than me. At some point she started to avoid me, often without providing a reason. Later I learned that she found a man thru online dating site and started date him. Something didn't work out as she hoped, and she returned to me. I forgive her but our relationship was never the same","August, 2018",Yes,6,5,3,4,4,5,3,3,4,3,4,3.4,4,5,5,5,4,5,5,4.714285714,5,4,4,4,4,5,4.333333333,67,Male
108.66.253.40,"My sister told me that I was fat...it hurt my feelings and made me feel bad about myself...I kept the bad feelings inside for a while....Then I told her that she had hurt my feelings....she said that she was sorry,that she was in a bad mood that day...I forgave her.","july,2022",Yes,4,3,2,5,1,3,1,1,1,1,2,1.2,3,1,6,1,1,2,2,2.285714286,5,6,6,6,3,5,5.166666667,55,Female
72.71.223.103,"In college, I was music directing a musical, which means teaching the music to the actors and making sure the pit orchestra rehearses and is ready for the show. One of my cast members didn't like that we hadn't cast her as the lead, so she started spreading rumors about me being a horrible abusive person to the rest of the theatre community. ",44501,Yes,7,2,1,5,2,4,2,4,4,1,3,2.8,7,7,6,7,6,6,3,6,5,2,3,3,3,3,3.166666667,22,Male
152.160.163.130,"I had a close friend that ended up getting physical with me one night. We had a disagreement about how a situation with one of our female friends should have been handled. He felt like his activities with her weren't wrong and I felt quite differently. I got so angry I punched a wall and ended up breaking my hand. Yet, at this outburst he ended up hitting me and also bruising some ribs. There was a bit more of a scuffle and some choice words said. For months after the incident, we didn't speak. After the girl was no longer in the picture we ended up making amends and still see each other today. ","August, 2020",Yes,6,1,1,7,1,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,3,1,1,2,1,1.428571429,6,5,7,7,6,7,6.333333333,40,Male
69.14.129.15,"Due to an extreme misunderstanding on their part, a friend thought I had betrayed them in a way that warranted a severing of our friendship. They were quite blunt and direct in their feelings. It hurt to hear a friend say the things they said. After some good time had passed information was made available to them and they realized what had really happened. I of course forgave them because that is what friends do. And if I had done what they thought I had, their response was perfectly reasonable.","January, 2015",Yes,1,3,1,7,5,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,39,Male
70.113.35.104,I was in a relationship with another person and that person did something that hurt me very much emotionally.   Over time I was able to move on (after ending the relationship) and forgive the person.,42767,Yes,5,2,1,6,3,2,2,1,4,1,1,1.8,3,6,4,2,6,7,4,4.571428571,4,6,4,4,6,4,4.666666667,48,Male
69.213.191.116,"My son was visiting for a week but spent most of his time with his old friends and sister. It was the last day and I had taken the day off work to spend time with him. He was at his sister's the night before and they were supposed to come in the morning to spend the day with me, but didn't show up until late in the evening. I was very hurt by both my children ignoring me but I forgave them. ",43191,Yes,4,2,1,7,3,4,1,1,4,1,1,1.6,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,65,Female
174.216.7.4,An uncle bought me a suit. He noticed it was wrinkled when I wore it. He deeded  wasn't taking well enough care of it. He punched me for it. Later he died of cancer. Then I forgave him for punching me.,30529,Yes,5,3,3,5,4,5,2,5,5,2,5,3.8,6,6,6,2,5,5,5,5,4,3,3,2,6,2,3.333333333,61,Male
66.177.104.81,In July of 2018 my fiance left me without any warning. Shortly thereafter my father died and he (the ex) began to come around again. I believed we might be working thinks out but it turned out he was just using me. It hurt so much and I realized I had to truly let him completely go. ,43282,Yes,2,3,1,7,3,3,1,1,2,1,1,1.2,6,6,5,7,7,7,3,5.857142857,6,2,2,2,4,2,3,44,Female
98.103.183.138,My alcoholic father yelled and called me many names. He always did this when he was drunk and he was drunk a lot.  It was so hurtful and painful and I would cry.  But when he was sober and loving he would apologize and I would always forgive him hoped it would never happen again.,42385,Yes,7,1,1,7,1,7,2,2,2,3,3,2.4,4,2,5,3,3,3,3,3.285714286,5,2,3,5,3,3,3.5,39,Female
70.126.181.76,"My friend and I had an unpleasant experience. She is one of my closest friends. I got offended, jealous, and baleful when we crossed our interests in another friend. After a fight, we stopped contacting each other for two years.",43252,Yes,5,6,1,7,5,5,3,1,2,1,7,2.8,1,4,2,1,1,1,1,1.571428571,7,7,7,5,4,7,6.166666667,43,Female
66.74.220.83,"A time when someone harmed me emotionally was when I had planned a birthday dinner for a boyfriend. I made sure they were free that night. Since they could be flaky, I asked them several times if they would definitely be coming to dinner that night. They repeatedly promised they would. However, that night they never showed up. Although they didn't even have an excuse for not being there, I forgave them anyway.","October, 2015",Yes,5,1,1,7,1,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,5,5,6,5,4,5,6,5.142857143,4,2,4,4,3,3,3.333333333,53,Female
107.205.236.134,"When I was doing my internship to become an ordained pastor, my supervising pastor emotionally harmed me. It was quite severe and has scarred me for the rest of my life. I was 6 months from finishing but I could not. I was between the proverbial rock and hard place. She made it hell for me so I had no choice but to resign and start again somewhere else. Very painful to this day.",42036,Yes,5,1,1,7,3,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,5,3,6,5,5,3,6,4.714285714,3,5,3,2,5,5,3.833333333,70,Male
99.169.160.80,"Back in October 2017 I went out on Halloween with a group of friends from work and my current Paramore. While we were trying to get into one of the clubs, my lover was stopped, and we were unable to proceed as the security guard would not let him through the front door. They had allowed the rest of the party and decided that they did not like him at all, so he stayed outside. This caused an altercation to break out between myself and the security guard, where they tackled me to the ground after trying to grab my legs.",43009,Yes,7,1,1,7,1,5,6,7,7,7,7,6.8,6,7,7,7,7,2,7,6.142857143,3,3,2,3,3,2,2.666666667,32,Female
24.147.205.93,"I was getting a cup of coffee from the kitchen and walking into the living room when my child ran from one room into the other. They crashed into me, spilling hot coffee all over my arm. My skin didn't blister, but it was very painful and red for two days afterward. I was upset when it first happened, but I was able to calmly remind my daughter that they weren't allowed to run in the house precisely because accidents like that could happen. They were very upset, as well, but I forgave them quickly. They didn't run in the house again...much.","May, 2019",Yes,1,4,3,3,6,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,46,Male
174.238.161.247,"My mother and I have always had a strained relationship dating back to when I was a kid just due to the sheer differences in our personality types. Not long after my dad passes away in July 2021, my mother and I were arguing about how to divide up my dad's life insurance check. I'm better at money than she is, so I offered to help but she exploded at me accusing me of all sorts of nonsense, like I was out to get her. Ended up just walking out the door before I said something I'd regret rather than argue with her. She phoned me the next day apologizing for going off on my, that she's going through alot. I forgave her as in this situation, I'm going through as much as she is.  ",44409,Yes,6,2,3,5,4,5,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,1,1,3,1.428571429,6,5,7,7,1,6,5.333333333,42,Male
97.124.78.24,"When I was 17, I got in a fist fight with a close friend. We were fighting over a girl. It was something stupid that we both immediately regretted after. Hours after, we talked and were able to forgive each other. We both agreed it was stupid.","September, 2015",Yes,3,4,2,6,5,5,1,1,1,1,2,1.2,1,1,1,1,1,2,7,2,6,7,7,7,7,7,6.833333333,25,Male
68.202.57.152,"I have often been treated by my dad as if i am supposed to make him look good in the eyes of others. Despite my effort, that's not something i have been able to do in my life. So from time to time he would say little things to try and get me to prove him wrong. I never knew how low he saw me until a few months ago when he got worse with his words and started telling me how others are better than I am and how i am worse off than someone from a third world country. ",45108,Yes,6,2,5,4,2,5,3,1,3,2,2,2.2,4,1,4,4,2,4,5,3.428571429,6,5,4,5,4,4,4.666666667,34,Female
68.1.124.29,"In my early to mid 20's I got into a stupid argument with my brother over a video game. I honestly don't even remember what the argument was about, but I do remember what happened during it. We were arguing with each other, and he ended up calling me fat, in a much more offensive way than just saying I was fat. I was taken aback, and I was very hurt by this. It felt like something that was very mean spirited and taking things way too far for an argument over a video game, making things personal. He did apologize after he had cooled down for a day or two, and I forgave him, but I did end up losing weight, and I think this was definitely one of the reasons why.","November, 2015",Yes,4,2,2,5,4,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,3,4,4,3,1,3,2,2.857142857,6,5,7,4,7,4,5.5,32,Male
184.96.230.69,"When i was in my mid twenties, i had a girlfiend whom i really cared for. Out of the blue on day, she broke things off with me without explanation. I found out a week or so later that she had been cheating on me with a friend of mine and ultimately left me to be with him. It took several years, but she reached out to me to apologive and i did forgive her. ","October, 2014",Yes,6,3,1,6,2,4,2,2,4,1,2,2.2,3,5,5,3,3,3,3,3.571428571,6,6,4,4,6,5,5.166666667,35,Male
76.204.69.212,"I had a medical event involving a rare brain disorder. When I tried to get medical attention, my mother decided to try to drop me off at a women's shelter instead. It resulted in me wandering my city for several hours and being mentally hospitalized although I had a medical, not mental, condition. I forgave my mom for not knowing what to do.",43556,Yes,5,1,1,7,1,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,5,7,7,7,7,7,7,6.714285714,6,2,5,1,1,1,2.666666667,58,Female
172.59.73.12,"My ex-husband, who I had been with for fourteen years, told me he didn't love me anymore and he wanted a divorce. He had fallen in love with someone else. It devastated me emotionally and I was very hurt and angry.","October, 2016",Yes,6,1,1,7,2,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,2,3,3,4,4,2,2.857142857,6,4,4,4,7,5,5,46,Female
172.59.168.131,My grandmother hurt my feeling severely when she decided to let my brother be the one that moved into the house next door to her. My grandmother and I had always been close and it was very hurtful that she wanted my brother and his wife and kids to live there.  I did end up forgiving her and deciding it was he choice.,43374,Yes,4,4,1,6,3,3,1,1,4,1,1,1.6,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,43,Female
73.14.8.203,"Earlier this year, my cousin moved out here and stayed with us for a few months. At the very start of her stay, we got into a fight, and she told me I was annoying and that I always had been. It was very hurtful, and honestly reminded me of some of the things my ex-husband used to say to me. Then, it later turned out that she didn't even remember saying that to me, which hurt me all over again. I have forgiven her, because she was very tired and stressed at the time, and obviously she didn't mean it.",45139,Yes,3,2,1,7,2,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,5,1,4,4,1,5,3,3.285714286,7,7,7,6,3,3,5.5,54,Female
174.251.208.243,"my ex punched me in the back while I was laying on the ground, breaking my ribs. I forgave him because I used to be a dumb person",43739,Yes,7,2,1,7,1,2,1,1,2,1,2,1.4,6,7,7,1,6,7,4,5.428571429,6,1,2,1,7,3,3.333333333,38,Female
99.75.107.157,"We were in a restaurant and the other person was in a horrible mood. She spent the entire time complaining about everything. She was insulting her boyfriend openly and people at other tables were noticing and beginning to get uncomfortable. She told her boyfriend that his daughter was ""fucking that (very bad word for a boy). My children were there and I stated that she can't talk like this in public. She then began to tell me what wrongs I have done in my life. I got up in the middle of her speaking, grabbed my kids, and left.",45108,Yes,7,2,1,7,2,4,2,1,1,1,1,1.2,7,7,7,7,7,7,3,6.428571429,4,1,1,1,6,4,2.833333333,49,Male
192.24.156.131,"This woman was my best friend from kindergarten. We were best friends for almost 25 years. But I started having a successful business selling bath bombs, body butters, bubble bars, and other body care items. I also started selling things like candles. I had a personal reason why I started my business. My friend saw my success and saw that I was able to do all this from my home. She thought, ""Perfect! I can sit at home all day and make money just like she is!"" And she started researching how to make bath bombs and body butters and candles. She then tried to sell them at a cheaper price to undercut me. She's a lot more popular than I am (I was the shy, fat kid in school no one liked) and she ended up making massive sales, and also because she had her prices cheaper. She tried to ruin my business and take all my customers with no knowledge so I confronted her. It ended our friendship. ",42917,Yes,7,1,1,7,1,7,3,1,5,1,1,2.2,5,3,7,5,4,5,5,4.857142857,5,3,4,4,5,4,4.166666667,35,Female
172.56.77.135,"A boyfriend cheated on me & I forgave him & started seeing him again. I really liked him & he explained it was a big mistake & he loved me. I gave him money too, I was an idiot. He cheated more & I stayed. I finally left but to help my own psyche, I forgave him yet again. I think he was mentally ill.",42491,Yes,7,3,1,7,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,6,7,1,1,6,1,3.666666667,52,Female
108.231.33.230,"This just happened. This situation involved my sister. We were talking about holiday plans, and she hurt my feelings about the amount of time I would be able to spend with the family. We made up almost immediately, but my feelings were hurt.",45261,Yes,2,4,3,2,3,3,1,1,2,1,1,1.2,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,38,Male
65.99.120.151,"My father cheated on my mother twice during covid. While we were stuck at home wondering if everyone would be safe, he was out seeing another woman. We all had said we would limit interactions with other people because of my sister recovering from a stroke, so we could not risk her health with a sickness like covid. I remember him leaving his email up and looking through it to find the motel receipts, and  gift baskets that he was sending her. Then we saw through the text messages on his phone and the damage that he did to everyone was large. It took many months of discussion and counseling for all of us to learn to forgive him, mostly because he's our dad and we can't just pretend he doesn't exist.",44013,Yes,6,2,1,6,2,5,2,1,2,1,1,1.4,2,1,3,1,1,2,2,1.714285714,6,5,6,5,3,6,5.166666667,27,Male
172.220.117.129,"I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend/partner/father of my son for 20 years. Of course, in the last ten years we have had our share of disagreements. He has a problem with anger and has escalated that anger to a point of harming me emotionally and physically in one instance a couple years ago. He was arrested and I forgave him - he acknowledged his mental health issues and became aware of how they affected everyone around him. We have had minor arguments since then, but nothing outside of adult heated debates.",44317,Yes,6,4,3,6,4,2,3,2,2,2,1,2,4,3,3,3,1,2,3,2.714285714,4,5,6,6,4,6,5.166666667,40,Female
68.51.55.249,"A guy that was my friend and roommate harmed me emotionally when I lived with him. He had had feelings for me, and didn't like that I didn't reciprocate them. I was dating someone else, and he would make things up to try to make my boyfriend look bad. He would treat me very coldly and would say nasty things about me behind my back. I did forgive him, but we are no longer friends.",All year 2015,Yes,6,1,1,7,1,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,6,7,7,7,7,7,7,6.857142857,2,2,1,1,5,3,2.333333333,33,Female
73.16.115.47,"My friend had harmed me emotionally and physically when he was under the impression that I had been flirting with his girlfriend. He struck me in the back of the head, and I was shaken up emotionally and physically. I ended up forgiving him once he realized it was a misunderstanding.",43009,Yes,5,2,2,7,3,6,3,2,3,2,2,2.4,5,2,3,2,1,2,3,2.571428571,6,7,6,7,6,5,6.166666667,32,Male
98.10.71.102,"I had a friend who began to be a bully and created a group of peers that assisted in bullying me through using social media (AIM at the time) to harass, bully, and hurt me.
 Throughout several years of us not speaking and ""hating each other"" we eventually made up due to a mutual friend and he is now one of my best friends. ",38777,Yes,6,1,1,7,2,5,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,4,7,6,7,7,6.333333333,34,Female
204.186.68.80,This is the case where my ex cheated on me and was caught with evidence which cause me  heart broken to me but with a lot of pleading i was able to forgive her,43709,Yes,5,6,3,5,5,5,3,5,5,5,5,4.6,6,3,5,5,5,5,5,4.857142857,6,5,5,5,3,5,4.833333333,24,Male
174.170.200.113,It was about a girl online who hurt my feelings when I posted my picture. She rejected me very harshly due to my appearance. She told me that she would never fall in love with someone like me and would rather shoot herself instead of going out with me This devastated me but I eventually forgave her. It did take a while for me to forgive her though. ,43525,Yes,7,1,1,6,2,7,4,7,7,4,7,5.8,7,7,7,6,7,7,7,6.857142857,2,2,1,1,4,6,2.666666667,29,Male
99.28.98.68,"Back to my trip to South Korea, this person ended up getting very drunk. This person belittled me by calling me names and talking about my weight. I asked them to stop talking to me, though they kept going on. Later I ended up forgiving them for it, though it still hurts me.",42826,Yes,6,2,2,6,3,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,4,1,4,1,1,3,3,2.428571429,6,5,5,3,3,5,4.5,24,Female
68.80.43.15,"My brother was going through a manic depressive episode. I was trying to calm him down, and also stop him from drinking which only exacerbates the condition. He is much taller and stronger than me, though I am older. He was very argumentative and extremely rude, cursing at me and bringing up my own bi-polar diagnosis. At one point he shoved me and I fell. He was very apologetic as soon as I fell. I was angry, but I forgave him because he is my little brother, and I understand he is going through a difficult time.","April, 2023",Yes,5,2,1,7,3,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,3,2,1,1,2,1.571428571,7,7,7,7,6,6,6.666666667,44,Female
162.237.234.147,"My deceased husband was a Narcissist,very controlling, mentally, physically and verbally abusiveness and great at gaslighting. I didn't know he was a narc. until I realized how much he acted liked trump. I looked up the actual description and there was my husband. He did an awful lot of damage to me,but I'm getting better as time goes by. I forgave him somewhat due to him being mental and most importantly, it's just not healthy to carry around that much negative energy.",24 years,Yes,7,2,1,7,4,5,1,2,4,1,2,2,7,6,7,7,7,7,6,6.714285714,3,1,1,1,5,1,2,48,Female
97.103.101.26,"My first relationship ended by my significant other breaking up with me. At first I was very upset and felt emotionally harmed. As time went on though, I understood why he did it and was okay with it. I eventually forgave them.",43497,Yes,2,4,2,5,4,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,4,4,2,4,5,5,2,3.714285714,6,4,4,3,6,2,4.166666667,25,Female
99.57.142.235,"This happened about 4 years ago, when one of my best friends was caught catfishing me for over 10 years. This hurt me emotionally and caused me to lose trust in people. This person who I thought was my friend, pretended to be a beautiful woman and played with me emotionally over the years. It was an on and off, toxic relationship. I felt completely fooled and honestly quite embarrassed about the whole situation. After confronting him about it, he confessed and apologized because he was a gay man that just wanted to be born as a beautiful woman. I forgave him, but I also could not be friends with him again after that. ","August, 2019",Yes,7,1,1,6,1,4,1,3,4,3,3,2.8,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,4,1,1,1,3,1,1.833333333,34,Male
76.152.172.19,My boyfriend at the time told me he stop smoking as I do not support it. He emotionally harmed me as I found out he had lied and continued to smoke behind my back. I ended up forgiving the person who harmed me as I know his intent was not ill and he had smoke more mental health reasons. ,44713,Yes,5,4,2,5,3,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,2,1,1,1,1,1.285714286,7,4,7,3,6,3,5,25,Female
50.209.29.137,I had a high school friend who was upset by incorrect information about me that she had heard from another mutual friend. She told me I was a bad friend and told all my other friends not to be friends with me. Eventually she realized she had incorrect information and apologized. I felt hurt by it for a while but eventually forgave her. ,42430,Yes,4,2,2,4,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,2,4,2,2,3,4,2.714285714,5,4,4,4,7,4,4.666666667,29,Female
50.196.38.65,While employed I experienced an episode of depression. This made it difficult for me to perform my job duties. My boss decided to take away my job. This was devastating to me because I valued my job. I forgave my boss.,43101,Yes,7,1,1,7,1,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,64,Female
70.175.93.13,"One of my friends I've known almost my whole life started talking to me every day through social media, and acted like she was interested in a relationship with me. We both lived on opposite sides of the country, so I planned to visit her. But when I finally got there, she acted totally aloof and different towards me, and was only interested in obtaining material things from me, and did not want to be in a relationship with me. It hurt me very badly, but I forgave her and vowed never to let her put me in that situation again.",45200,Yes,5,3,2,6,2,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,6,6,7,7,6,7,7,6.571428571,7,4,2,2,5,2,3.666666667,40,Male
172.58.221.254,The incident happened when I was in high school. A classmate bullied me over my food for he forgot to bring his own during break time. I ended up forgiving him because I have seen how hungry he was.,31229,Yes,5,3,3,5,4,5,1,1,2,1,1,1.2,2,1,2,2,1,1,3,1.714285714,6,7,7,7,7,7,6.833333333,51,Male
24.217.25.149,One of my friends basically took something from me and we got into an argument over it and got into a mini scuffle.  We were working at the same job at the time and I was ignoring him and he me. I ended up getting a shift change after awhile.  After some time I talked to friends that were friends with the both of us and got them to talk for me so that I eventually could apologize.  I ended up forgiving them in the end,"March,2015",Yes,4,6,3,5,4,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,4,7,4,7,7,6,37,Male
24.126.69.155,"A friend said and laughed about something that they know is emotionally harmful about me, behind my back to multiple others. I was told by some of the people present, but it was denied by the friend in question. I eventually forgave them.","July, 2018",Yes,6,1,1,7,3,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,44,Male
75.179.165.66,A person I know a few years ago that I trusted and had a lot of respect for turned out to be someone who hurt me the most and I loss all trust and respect for. I was emotionally torn apart and never thought that I could ever forgive this person for hurting me and abandoned me in my most time of need. I was young and lost and needed help more than ever and I never felt so abandoned and hurt in my life ,42278,Yes,7,1,1,7,1,7,5,7,6,2,5,5,5,7,6,7,3,6,6,5.714285714,1,1,4,5,3,3,2.833333333,46,Female
204.186.126.181,It was about 6 years ago. I was stabbed in my thigh by a drunkard. It was very fortunate to be taken to the hospital very early. There was no complications though,"april, 2017",Yes,5,5,5,4,5,5,2,1,3,2,2,2,1,2,5,2,3,2,3,2.571428571,5,4,3,5,4,2,3.833333333,50,Female
66.91.210.148,A friend of mine ended our friendship by ghosting me. I was very hurt y this. But eventually I forgave her. I didn't want to hold on to my hurt and my anger. ,42156,Yes,6,3,1,7,3,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,4,4,4,4,7,7,4,4.857142857,4,1,1,1,6,1,2.333333333,43,Female
97.118.86.6,"This was with an ex best friend. They had continued to manipulate me in the friendship and when they hurt me made me forgive them as if it were my fault. In every fight we had, I was the one who had to forgive them otherwise they would drop me. In the end this caused way too much emotional damage for me.","August, 2015",Yes,7,1,3,6,5,3,3,3,5,2,6,3.8,7,2,4,7,3,5,3,4.428571429,1,5,1,4,4,3,3,20,Female
67.234.178.118,"I was on a trip 4,000 miles away from home visiting a very good friend whom I'd met on the internet. This was not my first visit there, I'd been before and had a wonderful time. This trip we decided I'd rent a motorcycle and ride with him throughout my visit. We had a great time riding in his country. On the trip to return the motorcycle, we were on a highway when my bike's low gas light came on. I tried to indicate this to my friend but he misunderstood and thought I just wanted to slow down. We pulled into a byway and I just mentioned I didn't want to get run over. I didn't realize he didn't know my gas light had come on. We continued on without stopping at a gas station, and eventually the bike ran out of gas just a few miles from the bike shop to which we were returning it. He was furious and thought I'd made it all up. The light had indeed come on very early and the bike continued for much longer than the usual 20 miles, but I researched and saw that was a common problem with this particular bike. He never accepted my explanation and, although I knew what happened with our misunderstanding, it still hurt immensely that he thought I had lied to him. He refused to discuss it further.",42186,Yes,3,1,1,7,2,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,5,1,1,1,1,1.571428571,7,7,7,7,6,5,6.5,62,Female
76.130.151.151,"I had a girlfriend, who I was going to ask to marry me on Christmas, break up with me on Christmas eve. She had no idea I was going to pop the question. I was hurt like nothing before and it took me a while to get over it. Eventually I forgave her, we got back together, but later realized it was just not working.",41609,Yes,3,1,1,7,4,2,2,2,2,1,1,1.6,5,4,4,5,7,7,4,5.142857143,5,4,3,4,7,4,4.5,38,Male
162.247.107.224,"Was just having a normal conversation with a friend that kept goin on about certain things. It eventually got to a point where they basically ignored everything about what I was doing or dealing with and because I was not on par with them, went as far as degrading my situation. They went in telling me that I need to get off my ass and do something with my life, all because I was not actively working a physical job like they were and was looking for something better. Felt like they absolutely did not care for what I want and that I need to just follow through like everyone else instead of looking for something that I actually want to do and pursue.","June, 2021",Yes,7,1,2,7,1,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,3,2,1,2,2,4,4,2.571428571,5,4,3,4,2,1,3.166666667,34,Male
70.188.43.9,I had a major fight with my sister when she asked my honest opinion of the man she was dating. My sister did not like my answer and began screaming at me telling me she would never want to be like me and pointing out all the mistakes I had made in my life. I was so hurt by some of the nasty things she said to me. As time went on she finally apologized and told me she didn't mean what she said and was just upset about how awful the relationship she was in was.,43313,Yes,6,2,1,7,1,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,42,Female
172.56.84.181,"one time I had a big fight with my brother he harmed me physically and emotionally, but he asked for forgiveness and I forgave him. everything was ok after that but I still remember it ","august, 2014",Yes,7,2,1,1,3,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,1.142857143,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,35,Male
24.227.44.162,i did an investment with a friend of mine and when it was time to get my returns she kept coming up with flimsy excuses and i later found out my friend channeled the money towards some personal problems and i got so angry but ended up forgiving her even though i would never trust her anymore.,"August, 2021",Yes,7,2,2,7,2,7,2,1,6,2,2,2.6,3,1,6,2,2,2,2,2.571428571,6,5,6,6,6,5,5.666666667,23,Female
81.161.7.111,Well about 2 years ago my wife and i had an arguement and she left he for about 3 days i was really shocked ,44317,Yes,3,5,5,4,4,5,5,2,2,2,3,2.8,3,2,2,2,2,3,2,2.285714286,2,2,2,2,2,2,2,47,Male
170.205.158.160,My boyfriend cheated on me. I found out after his friend told me . I questioned my boyfriend and he admitted it. I was sad and this felt like being stabbed in the back.,"February , 2010",Yes,7,1,1,7,1,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,1,1,5,1,4.142857143,7,1,1,1,7,1,3,37,Female
172.59.168.114,Someone was making me feel really sad and humiliated. They always acted like we were in a competition even though they were someone I really trusted. They made me feel like I did not deserve to be in a happy relationship with someone I really loved and cared about.,"February, 2019",Yes,5,1,1,6,1,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,5,1,5,1,1,1,1,2.142857143,5,7,7,7,6,6,6.333333333,24,Female
73.67.177.145,"Someone I was in a relationship with became abusive, and each time there was an episode, they apologized afterward and said they had not quite been themselves when it happened, and they were going to try to do better. After a few weeks the same thing happened, and it was just a repeat. They begged for forgiveness and pointed out how many problems they had from having grown up in an abusive household. ",42644,Yes,5,2,1,6,3,4,3,2,4,2,2,2.6,6,2,7,7,5,6,6,5.571428571,3,3,2,2,6,4,3.333333333,51,Male
174.198.149.62,"I found messages in my husband's phone to and from another person about a planned encounter. I was completely caught off guard and I was devastated. I was hurt, scared, and honestly just lost at the thought of what I was supposed to do with that information. At the time, we had two young tweens and being a single parent just wasn't....couldn't happen. He agreed to go to counseling and after a very long time I did allow myself to forgive him for his indiscretions. That doesn't mean that I have forgotten or that I allow myself to be vulnerable anymore, but to an extent, forgiveness has happened. ","April, 2017",Yes,7,1,1,7,1,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,1,1,1,2,2,7,7,7,7,4,6,6.333333333,49,Female
75.118.121.253,"My long term girlfriend dumped me after so many years of dating and it was very devastating to accept,but a point I had to understand her perspective and agree with the decision cos she was rather in love with someone else",44317,Yes,6,2,6,5,3,5,5,3,5,6,6,5,7,6,5,6,6,5,6,5.857142857,5,3,6,3,5,5,4.5,34,Male
71.117.31.77,A person I considered a close friend tried taking advantage of me. I could not believe someone I felt this close to would do this. I would have happily helped them if they had just asked and were authentic about it. I forgave them but I do not consider them a close friend anymore. ,"May, 2018",Yes,7,4,1,7,2,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,30,Male
172.56.2.20,When I was in the 10th grade and some dude started called me the b word for nothing. I wasnt really offended by the statement because it wasn't true at all. I was offended by me not doing nothing for a response like this.,42767,Yes,4,3,3,5,6,5,4,1,4,4,4,3.4,5,4,5,4,4,4,3,4.142857143,6,4,5,4,4,4,4.5,22,Male
108.18.145.54,My girlfriend of a few years was still with her husband but had told me she was no longer together.  We were out one day at Home Depot and ran into her husband which turned into a very awkward event.  I was worried that he might attack me so I just acted like she was my friend although we had been holding hands which would be really weird.  They left together and I left separately but there was more drama to follow. ,42309,Yes,5,3,2,6,3,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,4,1,1,1,1,1.571428571,5,6,6,6,6,5,5.666666667,50,Male
172.100.121.67,"While attending a high school graduation ceremony, I was with a group of friends. After the ceremony, we walked as a group to the exit of the building. On the way there, my friends stopped quite a bit to greet and say hi to friends. It was crowded so I ended up getting lost eventually. They left without me. I was hurt emotionally, but they apologized and I quickly accepted.",I don't really remember the year. I think it was 2018 or 2019.,Yes,4,1,1,7,1,5,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,5,5,6,7,5,5.833333333,21,Female
24.197.132.189,"There was a person I was dating back when I was around 21 years old. I had become very fond of her and we were together quite a while. Eventually, my friend Mike talked with her too. I found out later on that she had cheated on me with him. I was crushed at this. I didn't even want to talk to her or him. Eventually, after time had passed, I did forgive her. In that i let go of the anger and sadness I had towards her. I even talked to her a bit.","May, 2007",Yes,7,1,1,7,2,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,4,7,1,7,7,1,4.142857143,7,5,1,1,7,1,3.666666667,37,Male
71.29.231.125,My wife wanted a divorce because she said I was a problem in her life. We ended up divorcing. Later I found out that during the last year we were married she was having an affair. This really upset me emotionally. We had been married and faithful to each other for thirty six years. I have forgave her and now we are still good friends that get along very well!,"December, 2021",Yes,7,1,1,7,2,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,1,1,1,1.142857143,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,61,Male
98.215.136.94,"When I was 20, I was emotionally harmed by a girl I knew. I had feelings for her and she had feelings for me. We decided to try it out. It worked for awhile but in the end, she ended up breaking up with me. It seemed to be going so well, no fights, nothing bad. But I guess she wasn't feeling it. I was emotionally destroyed. At the end of the day though, I did ended up forgiving her. It was hard, but I did. ","July 8th, 2014",Yes,1,3,1,1,4,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,2,2,2,2,2,1.857142857,5,4,3,3,6,4,4.166666667,29,Male
172.56.208.16,"I was in a relationship with Shannon the mother of my kids for 14 years. I have been diagnosed with depression. During the summer of 2018 I was having a hard time with my problem and checked myself into a psychiatric hospital. When the doctor called Shannon about me coming home, she told the doctor I wasn't welcome back home. At the time My kids were 13, 11, and 11(I have twins).","July, 2018",Yes,5,2,2,7,3,5,1,1,2,1,1,1.2,4,2,2,3,1,3,3,2.571428571,5,3,6,3,6,6,4.833333333,61,Male
67.216.124.22,"Roughly 5 years ago, I met someone who I believed was likely going to be the person I'd spend the rest of my life with. She was perfect in every way to me and I was under the impression that we shared an unbreakable connection. Probably a year or so after we began dating, I found out that she had still been talking to an ex-girlfriend of hers. I was completely shattered by this and we broke things off almost instantaneously. It took me a year or two to finally recover from that emotional blow, and I even inevitably ended up forgiving her for that. It wasn't easy at first, but I found the strength inside to finally forgive her and move on with my life.","November, 2018",Yes,7,2,1,7,2,4,2,2,3,1,2,2,6,7,7,7,7,7,4,6.428571429,5,4,1,1,5,2,3,35,Female
50.106.161.75,"One sunny afternoon at the park, my brother and I decided to enjoy a bike ride together. As we were pedaling through the winding paths, an unexpected turn led to a collision between our bikes. Suddenly, my brother crashed into me, causing me to be knocked off my bike and onto the soft grass. It happened so quickly, and my arm took the brunt of the impact, resulting in a painful injury. Despite the initial shock, my brother rushed to my side, expressing concern and regret for the accident. ",34790,Yes,3,3,4,5,3,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,2,1,1,1,1,1.285714286,5,5,6,6,6,1,4.833333333,44,Male
76.36.51.77,"My husband wrongly thought I had cheated on him. He ended up snapping and repeatedly hitting me with a stick. I separated from him for about a year. Meanwhile, he ended up being charged by the state for domestic violence. He was in jail for several months. He was released on probation. As part of probation he had to undergo counseling for anger management. We started talking again. I have forgiven him and have given him a second chance. So far our relationship is better than it was before.",44013,Yes,7,4,1,7,4,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,4,1,1,1,1,1.428571429,7,7,7,7,6,6,6.666666667,55,Female
24.251.40.154,The event was a verbal interaction with a family member in which they said insulting and derogatory things about me not to me face but within my hearing range.  This person was very close to me and I had helped them a lot financially and emotionally and was very hurt by their comments.  We had a verbal blow up and didn't speak to each other for a couple of years.  We reconciled and I forgave them and understood that we were both under stress.,43009,Yes,6,2,1,7,5,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,1,1,1,1.142857143,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,70,Female
73.53.217.109,I had a good buddy at work.  I considered him a good friend and we even hung out outside of work.  A promotion came up at the job and we were basically the best candidates for it.  He betrayed and deceived me in order to get it. ,"August, 2019",Yes,6,2,1,5,3,4,5,2,4,4,4,3.8,5,5,7,6,5,5,5,5.428571429,3,3,2,2,3,3,2.666666667,39,Male
72.178.212.27, I had a great friend about 17 years ago where we had a physical fight over something stupid I was drinking that day and said some mean things but that still doesnt mean that my friend wasnt in the wrong either it was like it needed to happen because after that we got more close.I apologized for my behavior and we are still friends to this day.,38881,Yes,2,6,3,6,3,6,2,2,2,2,2,2,2,2,2,2,2,2,2,2,6,6,6,6,6,6,6,43,Male
70.179.89.144,"There was a woman who I was casually dating when I was a college student (we were intimate).

I say ""casually dating"", although I took the relationship rather seriously, and was faithful to her. 

At one point, the relationship got serious enough to the point where I thought we were no longer casually dating, as did people around us.

One night, after we had been out drinking together with mutual friends, we went back to her apartment, and she invited another man into her room right in front of me.

In retrospect, this horrifies me, but at the time it was sort of normal for the lifestyle that she was leading, and I was very naive.

It's hard to explain why, but I forgave her for this (to myself, not explicitly to her), and I don't feel bitter or resentful.",41944,Yes,5,1,1,7,3,3,2,4,6,1,5,3.6,6,4,7,6,6,6,3,5.428571429,5,4,5,4,5,4,4.5,37,Male
172.59.125.44,"i had a friend that was in a bad mood and snapped at me for no reason.  i am sensitve i get hurt easy.  i cried from the pain.  i did not speak to the lady friend for a while.  god told me to forgive her.  it was hard but felt a little better afterwards.  i never forget, i may forgive.  ",41487,Yes,4,2,2,6,1,6,3,2,5,5,4,3.8,6,4,2,4,4,4,3,3.857142857,4,5,4,4,3,5,4.166666667,50,Male
108.176.102.59,there was this time my partner cheated on me. this was very emotional for me but i ended up forgiving him,44652,Yes,6,2,3,5,3,5,6,6,6,5,2,5,5,3,6,6,6,6,6,5.428571429,6,6,6,6,3,6,5.5,48,Female
72.174.24.218,"About 8 years ago, I had a coworker we will call Alex. Alex constantly undermined my work, dismissed my ideas, and even took credit for some of my accomplishments. They would make snide comments and belittle me in front of other colleagues, which left me feeling humiliated and hurt. The emotional harm caused by Alex's actions affected my confidence and overall well-being at work.",42036,Yes,6,2,3,2,2,2,3,3,5,4,4,3.8,6,6,5,6,6,6,5,5.714285714,2,3,3,2,4,3,2.833333333,31,Male
73.38.134.210,"My oldest son had an argument with me over things that happened to him as a child which I had little control over. I understand children often blame parents for things that occurred in the past. I was very sick for a period when he was younger, and I know he harbors resentment, but I do know he has sympathy for me as well.I do forgive him as he always feels guilty after an outburst.",44835,Yes,2,4,6,6,5,3,2,1,1,1,1,1.2,1,1,2,1,1,1,1,1.142857143,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,51,Female
86.106.87.106,"Some time ago I was hurt by my partner, he was unfaithful to me with another person and it hurt me a lot, but then over time I managed to forgive her and heal wounds.","april, 2015",Yes,7,1,1,7,1,7,5,5,5,3,6,4.8,4,2,5,6,5,3,4,4.142857143,6,4,4,5,6,5,5,34,Male
172.58.166.150,I was betrayed by a person closest to me. This individual went to say lies about me to a person i see as a benefactor.,"August, 2018",Yes,6,5,1,6,4,5,2,2,3,2,2,2.2,6,6,5,6,5,5,5,5.428571429,6,2,1,2,5,2,3,39,Female
47.155.80.47,This is regarding my ex-boyfriend who had lied to me for the first time. We had graduated college together and were long distance. We both shared a mutual friend who at the time was much closer to me. They went off to a concert together and I couldn't go due to being physically far away. My ex-boyfriend assured me it'd be a normal event but he wouldn't drink due to having an important job interview the next day. I find out accidentally from the mutual friend that he did drink and also missed the job interview due to this. I was extremely upset and hurt by this but eventually decided to forgive him despite being lied to.,42948,Yes,4,3,1,6,2,4,2,1,2,1,2,1.6,4,7,5,2,5,5,5,4.714285714,6,2,3,2,4,3,3.333333333,28,Female
72.207.101.197,"A few years ago, I was going out of town for several days to visit a friend, and I needed someone to dogsit and housesit for me. One of my good friends from work decided to drive down and stay at my house with another mutual friend to watch the house and take care of my dog for me. In return, they'd be able to explore my hometown and I would her for the job. During one of the mornings, my friend called me and I could tell by her tone of voice that she was sad and on the verge of crying. She explained to me that she and her friend invited two guys over to the house that they had met at a bar the previous night and she slept with him in my bed. I felt emotionally violated and betrayed and was furious that my dog could have also been harmed.",44378,Yes,7,1,1,2,1,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,1,1,1,1.142857143,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,30,Female
172.58.0.207,"well i remember when gin took away my bike without my consent, i was hurt because i had to arrive at a meeting earlier that day and that made me felt very bad and emotionally down.","july, 2019",Yes,6,3,5,5,5,5,3,3,3,5,2,3.2,3,3,3,3,2,2,3,2.714285714,5,6,5,5,6,6,5.5,39,Male
172.58.240.246,"At work, there was someone who threw a box of sharp instruments down the recycling shoot while I was cleaning it out in a frustrating manner. I luckily had gloves on so it wasn't that bad, but one of the sharp instruments were exposed enough to pierce through my glove and I started to bleed a little. But right before I could treat it, a box of home depot tiles came down right after it, causing a little more pain to my hand before I could move out of the way. I walked over to the responder center so I can clean my hand and patch it up a little. I put some gloves over it so the person in question didn't know about it, so it didn't seem like it was on purpose.","May, 2022",Yes,1,4,3,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,6,2,1,1,1,1,1.857142857,5,7,6,7,7,1,5.5,23,Male
209.141.46.252,My friend I confided in betrayed me. I told him my secrets and hoped he kept them secret too. He told my enemies about what we discussed for them to use against me. I felt betrayed to hear my secrets from my enemies when I had only discussed them with my best friend. He apologized to me when I confronted him. I forgave him but I learned my lesson., February 2021,Yes,7,4,2,2,3,5,2,2,6,4,1,3,4,2,2,2,2,1,2,2.142857143,7,6,7,7,5,5,6.166666667,50,Male
69.246.88.94,well i was at home with my mom she was always so judgmental. i was eating a sandwich or atleast trying too. she was not content with me she started talking about her goals for me and she wouldnt stop talking and let me be a kid. and i told her too shut up and she grabbed her belt and i tried too block it and she ended up smacking me in the face with the belt by accident. and she never used another belt again but it was so upsetting for me. ,i have really no clue im sorry ,Yes,7,1,1,7,1,7,1,1,1,5,1,1.8,7,5,6,7,1,5,1,4.571428571,7,6,5,6,6,5,5.833333333,36,Male
76.88.24.124,"Just about 10 years ago, my husband cheated on me. I had already suspected that he had formed an emotional attachment to someone and I thought he was planning to cheat physically. I was trying to find evidence via credit card bills, search history, phone records, etc, when I found that he was looking up hotels. That's when it hit me how real it was and I was in a stupor. When he came home from work, he found me on the couch and he knew something was wrong by my expression. I asked him about the hotel. ""Are you planning to meet her at a hotel?"" He responded that he already had. I was devastated.","March, 2014",Yes,6,1,1,7,1,6,1,2,1,1,1,1.2,5,5,7,5,1,5,7,5,2,3,4,3,1,1,2.333333333,50,Female
73.104.16.111,"When I was about 17 years old some of my good friends and I was playing basketball. One of my friends got mad because I was winning and he started to insult me and call me names. After a while into the situation, I said something he didn't like and he actually swung at me but he missed. Even though I was mentally hurt because I thought he was my friend, I ended up forgiving him for his actions.",37803,Yes,6,2,1,7,2,3,3,2,4,4,2,3,5,6,7,5,6,6,5,5.714285714,3,4,4,4,4,3,3.666666667,37,Male
172.101.230.177,"About six years ago, during a challenging period in my life, a close friend betrayed my trust by spreading rumors about me. The emotional harm was significant, and it took a toll on my mental well-being. Over time, I realized that holding onto resentment was only prolonging my pain. After a series of honest conversations, I discovered that my friend was struggling with personal issues and lashed out in a misguided attempt to cope. Choosing empathy over anger, I forgave them, understanding that we all have our struggles. This act of forgiveness allowed me to move forward and rebuild trust in our friendship.",45047,Yes,2,6,6,6,6,6,6,2,5,4,4,4.2,6,6,2,3,4,4,5,4.285714286,6,6,6,5,4,4,5.166666667,49,Male
69.221.130.74,"My job at a correctional facility had been misplaced due to the facility closing. From driving 5 minutes away to work at another facility to driving 60 minutes away. When I began working there, the female that was working in the area had to train me on the way’s that the job was performed there. She was very rude to me and completely left me out of any conversations that was had with fellow employees which really affected me so badly that I would cry half the way to work. My nervousness had made me sick to my stomach until I arrived at work. I had to pull myself together so no one would notice how I was feeling. After a couple of months of being mistreated, I finally held my ground and I let her know my feelings and let her know how inappropriate she was. She then apologized for her actions and I forgave her for it. ",41913,Yes,7,1,1,7,1,7,4,3,7,1,5,4,6,7,7,7,7,7,6,6.714285714,4,4,2,3,3,2,3,65,Female
174.59.32.234,I was dating my ex girlfriend and she cheated on me. This occurred while I was at work working overnight and she messaged me and I saw it during my break. She had sent me a message saying she cheated on me. It was a bit difficult to deal with at first but within a few hours after getting home from work and talking about it with her I eventually forgave her for it and tried to move past it. It didn't exactly work out because she kept doing more but this initial one I forgave.,42064,Yes,7,2,1,7,3,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,5,7,7,7,7,6,6.571428571,6,1,1,1,6,1,2.666666667,32,Male
69.131.104.87,"I got into a feud with my best friend during finals week in college. We were in the same class and working on a final project together. I made a comment that my friend misinterpreted as a shot against his abilities, and he really laid into me verbally. He didn't hold back, bringing up several grievances he had against me and attacking many of my soft spots. To make matters worse, this happened in a semi -public place with others around. We didn't speak for a few days, but eventually talked about it and pretty much made amends.","December, 2014",Yes,6,1,1,6,2,5,1,1,1,1,1,1,3,3,2,3,2,3,2,2.571428571,6,6,6,6,7,6,6.166666667,30,Male
96.228.30.3,"There was a time about 5 years ago where I was living in a house with 3 friends. There was a season where I liked someone romantically and was trying to pursue a relationship with this person. It didn't work out. But in the process, I found out that behind the scenes, one of my friends that I lived with also liked this person, but he never disclosed his feelings for her to me either. And I remember telling him about liking this person (while he liked her too).

Later, I find out that they started dating, and I felt emotionally hurt from that. More than the fact that she liked him in comparison to me, but rather that my friend would go behind my back. I felt like our friendship should've came first and that it would have not been a big deal at the end of day that they liked each other.

But over time, I was able to forgive him because it wasn't worth having a grudge and that being a Christian, it was better to forgive than to have grudge.

",43101,Yes,5,6,3,5,5,5,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,1,1,1,1.142857143,6,7,7,4,7,7,6.333333333,29,Male
70.120.5.160,"I was harmed by a former manager who threatened to terminate everyone. Though this would have been illegal and she was a totally incompetent in her role, it caused emotional harm to a lot of us. However, I don't believe in holding grudges, so I forgave her.","March, 2015",Yes,7,1,1,7,1,3,1,1,4,1,1,1.6,7,6,7,4,1,4,5,4.857142857,4,7,7,7,7,7,6.5,63,Male
174.218.56.134,a girl i loved and wanted to marry rejected my proposal and went off to marry another man,"December, 2014",Yes,7,7,2,7,6,2,1,1,5,1,1,1.8,3,5,2,3,6,7,3,4.142857143,5,2,3,1,7,7,4.166666667,32,Male
69.115.81.123,"My ex husband is an alcoholic, and whenever he got too drunk he’d provoke people around him. There were countless times, he put me down and spoke to me abusively. Not only he mentally tormented me, he also physically abused me once. I was angry at the fact that he’s not willing to get help for the longest time. I even went to a deep depression myself because I couldn’t change anything. I ended up forgiving him as I know he had carried a lot of hurt himself.","October, 2018",Yes,7,1,1,7,1,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,1,6,4,1,2,6,3.857142857,7,7,7,6,6,6,6.5,51,Female
76.143.173.75,"My girlfriend cheated on me with another guy. I grew up with my girlfriend. We grew up together and practically did everything together. We started dating when we realized we love each other, only for her to go behind me and sleep with another guy she claim its just a friend. ",41579,Yes,7,1,1,7,6,1,1,1,7,1,1,2.2,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,33,Male
99.38.115.188,this was when my current organization decided to overlook me for a position i was very well deserving because the managers found out that i was a gay. this  really hurt me emotionally and also affected how i use to work physically.,"Jan, 2018",Yes,6,5,6,5,6,5,5,6,6,5,5,5.4,6,4,6,5,5,5,6,5.285714286,5,5,5,6,4,6,5.166666667,30,Male
71.162.6.120,I fought with my sister and she said some very insulting things. It caused me to lose trust. I questioned if she really even cared about me. It was very frustrating and hurtful. We eventually talked about it and I did forgive her.,43313,Yes,6,1,1,6,2,5,2,1,1,1,1,1.2,3,1,3,1,1,1,1,1.571428571,7,7,7,7,5,7,6.666666667,25,Male
212.102.40.177,A while ago a family member said a lot of bad things about me and that led us to hate each other. After a while he apologized and I was able to forgive him.,44713,Yes,7,2,2,7,4,4,2,1,1,1,1,1.2,1,1,2,1,1,1,1,1.142857143,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,33,Male
51.81.200.149,A while ago a relative fought with me over a dog that was killed. They told him it was me when it wasn't true and we went to blows.,44713,Yes,7,1,1,7,1,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,6,7,7,6.833333333,57,Female
172.56.153.148,"I was best friends with a girl since I was 4 or 5 because our parents dated for around 10 years. When they broke up we stayed friends and were inseparable, I was even her daughters god mom. However one night she was drunk and hit me in front of a bunch of people trying to act cool. I ended up forgiving her even though I was really hurt by her actions since shes like a sister. ",44652,Yes,7,1,1,7,2,5,2,1,1,1,1,1.2,2,2,2,1,2,2,3,2,6,7,6,6,5,6,6,23,Female
108.181.62.245,"A co-worker a few months ago spoke badly about me to my boss, that made me feel bad because I trusted him and I liked him as a person.",45017,Yes,7,2,2,6,2,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,3,2,1,2,2,1.857142857,6,6,6,7,7,7,6.5,22,Male
185.150.191.111,"A few months ago a family member was cheating on finances, that made me feel very bad so much that we stopped talking completely.",44927,Yes,6,2,2,6,2,4,2,1,2,1,1,1.4,2,2,4,1,2,1,2,2,6,6,6,6,7,7,6.333333333,30,Male
76.49.10.96,I had a friend yell and curse at me in front of my child about nine months ago. I was so upset and hurt because it made other friends take sides and just made my relationships with others worse. I ended up thinking about what happened over time and wanted to make amends with my friends and we did and I think that helped us become even better friends.,45017,Yes,6,2,2,6,2,5,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,2,1,1,2,1.428571429,7,7,7,7,7,6,6.833333333,50,Female
73.168.108.4,"I had someone who I thought was my friend who I wanted to hang out with because I had moved from another city to a new one, and wanted to spend time with others. I thought this person was my friend because they would say stuff like ""oh you're my best friend!"" and ""You're the only person I can talk to you about this kind of stuff!"" but then I started noticing over time whenever I would ask her to hang out she'd always have an excuse. At first I thought she was really having issues with her car or just genuinely could not make it, but after years of excuses, her finally making a plans twice then flaking out on me last minute or apologizing to me days later, I realized this person was not my friend but just wanted to use me to vent about their problems and then never talk to me again unless they needed something. I decided to give this person another chance, despite really thinking they were a crappy friend, but I ""demoted"" them to an acquaintance and someone I would rarely talk to, never invite to anything, and just decline any invitations she gives me.",45139,Yes,5,1,1,5,1,6,2,1,1,1,1,1.2,7,6,7,7,6,7,7,6.714285714,4,2,2,1,3,4,2.666666667,28,Female
76.34.226.172,Someone told very harmful lies about me that ostracized me to my son's entire family,"june, 2013",No,7,1,1,7,1,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,4,7,7,7,7,7,6.571428571,7,4,7,1,5,5,4.833333333,39,Female
75.142.49.165,"I was in my senior year of college and I was very in love with my partner of the time. They were supposed to come visit me at school but they called me a couple days before their visit and broke up with me over the phone. I was devastated. They gave no specific reason for the break up and told me they still loved me, but couldn't do it. I was in my bedroom when they called, sitting on my bed. I never saw them again.",43739,No,6,1,1,7,3,6,1,1,5,1,1,1.8,5,3,7,5,7,7,6,5.714285714,3,5,2,1,3,3,2.833333333,25,Female
67.48.17.140,My father started a fight with me on my birthday.  He began yelling at me and told me some mean things.  It was in front of my husband which was embarrassing.  It was at a party at my house.,"June, 2021",No,6,1,1,7,4,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,6,2,6,5,3,6,4,4.571428571,2,2,4,2,2,2,2.333333333,49,Female
64.139.249.170,"My mother decided one day to find a new place to live. She didn't tell me, and the only hint I got was her leaving a paper detailing her new address on the table. It was a cowardly move, especially she previously tried to evict me from an apartment I was co-leasing with her. She never tried to get along and she never tried to fix our relationship. She always hated me and I to this day still don't know why. I will never forgave her for what she has put me through, following that incident.",41122,No,7,1,1,7,1,7,4,4,4,4,4,4,7,7,7,7,4,6,7,6.428571429,2,2,1,2,2,3,2,31,Male
160.3.43.120,"I am the only biracial person in an all white family. I have a half brother who has always been a problem. Over the past years, the half brother had seemed to grow prejudice even racist towards black people. In high school, I would have to hear his racist bantering all the time while everyone else was gone. He was violent and a full blown narcissist with not much to lose. He could've done anything to me fueled by hatred. I know he has a disdain for me. I will never forgive him for becoming such a cruel person and giving up on life it seems.",May 2015 to now,No,7,1,1,7,1,4,6,6,7,4,5,5.6,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,22,Female
76.124.244.115,"In college, the ex girlfriend of my boyfriend stalked me on our college campus.  She also stalked my social media which resulted in me having to shut down the Facebook I had at the time.  This was a situation that scared me and affected the relationship with my then boyfriend and my friends.  Even my parents reached out to the school because they were so concerned about this person coming after me and even vandalizing my car.

Unfortunately, this person assaulted me on school property because I told her that I was sick of her following me around.  It resulted in me nearly being expelled from that college because administration thought that it was a ""cat fight"".  This drove home what the definition of ""victim blaming"" is, as I was being accused of being just as responsible for the incident as someone who had been essentially stalking me for a period of time and eventually put their hands on me.

In the end, I was not expelled and neither was that person, although the entire experience taught me a valuable lesson about how malicious people can be.  Even more was how broken disciplinary systems are and how that harms victims from coming forward when they experienced injustices.",40299,No,7,1,1,7,1,7,5,2,6,2,3,3.6,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,2,1,1,1,3,1,1.5,36,Female
76.213.126.82,"I was casually dating a guy I went to college with. We had gone on numerous sushi dates, and were moving at a moderate pace. We went back to my apartment after one date to watch a movie. He was seemingly fed up with moving too slowly sexually, and raped me. He gaslit me after until the point where I questioned if it even happened, or if I did enough to stop it.",Unsure / July 2019?,No,7,1,1,7,1,4,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,6,7,7,7,7,7,6.857142857,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,25,Female
71.162.250.138,I worked for my husbands family business. My father in law ran the store but my sister in law was his right hand person.  I worked primarily at the store front and was the point of contact for everyone that visited the store.  My sister in law somehow convinced my father in law that it made sense for him to put the business in her name for inheritance purposes and taxes and when that happened she forced me out of the company and I no  longer had a job,November November 2017,No,6,2,2,1,1,7,3,4,6,1,3,3.4,7,6,7,7,7,7,7,6.857142857,3,3,3,3,3,3,3,60,Female
69.53.49.137,"My best friend at the time cut me off completely from all communication. He blocked my phone number, he blocked me on social media, he even blocked me on Skype. He never gave me a reason for it. After a few years, he reached back out to me, and I asked him why he'd cut off communication. He told me he couldn't remember.",41944,No,6,1,1,6,2,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,5,5,5,5,5,5,4,4.857142857,3,3,3,2,6,4,3.5,40,Male
38.40.0.112,"I was sitting in my girlfriend at the time's bedroom, and we were talking. She told me she had to take a phone call, which was fine, so she took it. She then started laughing as she was talking on the phone, and when I asked what was so funny, she waved me off. The call lasted ten or so minutes, and when she came back, she told me she'd been talking to the guy she was cheating on me with. It felt like I'd been punched in the stomach.","October, 2018",No,7,1,1,7,3,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,6,7,7,6,6,6,7,6.428571429,1,1,2,1,1,1,1.166666667,25,Male
73.98.189.5,"A few years ago, I was in a relationship with S. We had only been together for a couple of months, but I really liked him and had for a long time. M was a friend of mine, and I always thought I could trust her. However, she was jealous that I was with S and she was not. At a party, while S was drunk and I was not around, M made a move on him and kissed him. She then posted online about the kiss, and ended up convincing S to break up with me.",43191,No,6,1,1,7,2,4,5,4,6,4,5,4.8,7,6,7,7,7,7,6,6.714285714,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,22,Female
174.218.170.45,"Just a few months ago, I was having an emotional breakdown and my husband replied with, ""I cannot be here right now, I will see you when I see you."". My husband took the keys and left my parent's house and went back home. I was expecting him to be there for me like I am for him when he needs someone. That hurt me emotionally and I never forgave him for it and do not really confide in him or go to him when I am in need. A sense of trust was damaged that day.","August, 2023",No,5,1,1,6,1,4,2,1,1,1,1,1.2,3,2,6,3,1,5,5,3.571428571,7,5,6,7,3,4,5.333333333,35,Female
99.146.37.127,In high school there was a girl who I was best friends with. She then became really mean and wanted to be friends with the popular girls. She no longer wanted to be my friend. She stopped hanging out with me and talking to me.,42644,No,5,2,2,6,4,4,2,1,1,1,1,1.2,4,6,5,3,4,6,2,4.285714286,6,6,6,3,6,3,5,24,Female
68.43.103.223,"The person who harmed me was one of my friends in school. They did not have my back or felt embarrassed to talk to me in front of a group of people I cannot stand fake friends or people that want to pretend to be someone they are not. I will never forgive a person who cannot show their true colors initially and at least if you are blunt, I can accept that because at least you know what you want. ","May, 2014",No,5,2,3,5,2,5,2,1,5,1,1,2,7,5,7,6,7,7,1,5.714285714,2,2,1,5,6,1,2.833333333,28,Male
73.98.228.95,"My husband has cheated on me multiple times. He cheated on me when we were dating, when we were engaged, and then in our marriage as well. I have forgiven him and probably never will. He lied about it and then tried to blame me for it. ","December, 2021",No,7,1,1,7,1,7,4,6,6,3,5,4.8,5,3,7,5,3,5,6,4.857142857,2,3,3,3,2,3,2.666666667,25,Female
76.189.67.150,"My son was visiting for the holidays.  We were gathered at our house, and it included friends and family.  One person started talking about politics with my son.  They were making very insulting comments, and said anyone who supported them, the insults were the same for them too (neither were Trump supporters).  My son felt attacked, and defended himself, the other person escalated it, said very inappropriate comments to both me and my son, and left stating that they could not believe how I raised someone like that.","December, 2021",No,6,2,6,6,2,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,4,7,5,7,7,7,7,6.285714286,4,2,1,1,4,4,2.666666667,60,Female
97.102.166.53,"I was working at a bar and a coworker, who I thought was a friend, turned on me because I was friends with another worker and they had a falling out. The friend who hurt me, was jealous of the other friend and she started treating me very badly, making rude comments, not speaking to me, I did not want to come to work because she made it so miserable. She was also somewhat violent and I worried she might do me physical harm.  She eventually was fired but I never forgave her for her actions. ",41852,No,6,2,1,7,3,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,6,7,7,7,7,7,7,6.857142857,3,3,2,2,4,2,2.666666667,68,Female
184.102.69.21,"My husband physically harmed me one night after he was out drinking with a friend. He came home very late and told me he was at a strip club and that he had spent our christmas money. I was very upset and hurt, so I began yelling at him and he pushed me against the wall and put his hands around my throat. He then threw me to the ground and put me in a head-lock. I thought I was going to die but lucky for me, he let me go. He yelled horrible things at me and said that he could have killed me if he really wanted to. I am still married to him, and I love him, but I will NEVER forgive him for those actions. ",43070,No,7,1,1,7,1,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,3,1,1,1,3,1.571428571,6,2,7,7,3,6,5.166666667,33,Female
104.52.131.63,"In this event, I came out as bisexual to my parents via a note. My mom didn't respond well at all. For six weeks after that, she would talk to me constantly about it, tell me things about my past and hers that indicated that there was no way I could be queer, and said some very, very hurtful things that affected me for a long time. By the end of six weeks, I'd told her that I wasn't queer anymore and she was really relieved. We haven't really talked about it sense and it's destroyed my relationship with and view of her.",41579,No,5,1,1,4,1,5,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,3,7,6,3,7,7,5.714285714,5,3,5,4,1,2,3.333333333,26,Non binary / Other
75.173.82.64,"My cousin who I drove around nearly everyday because she didn't have a car and was pregnant. I didn't ask for gas money or anything I just was her transportation everyday and in the end I spent thousands on her, I'd get her food too. We became like ""best friends"" (her words) but I found out from multiple sources she was making fun of me behind my back (i'm on the spectrum). It all came to a head when I caught her stealing from my debit card and then we unleashed on each other and she told me all I was good for was driving and then she made fun of my car. We ended up in a physical fist fight. Even though we're civil now I haven't forgiven her for the way she smugly put me down when she was mad at me (not even the hitting part, I'm mad over her words) . I gave that girl my all. ",43891,No,6,1,1,7,3,4,2,5,7,1,3,3.6,3,5,7,6,7,7,2,5.285714286,2,3,5,1,4,1,2.666666667,28,Female
98.227.181.5,"I was living in another city at the time.  I was leaving a pub after a fun night out.  As I was walking home I was physically attacked by someone on the street. I fended the intruder off, thankfully. I was traumatized by the event.","April, 2004",No,7,1,1,1,2,3,2,4,6,2,3,3.4,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,6,1,1.833333333,50,Male
174.135.122.28,My child's father harmed me. He was threatening and we were fighting. He ended up punching me in the face and gave me a black eye. I never was in a relationship with him again and I never forgave him.,42248,No,7,1,1,7,1,4,2,4,5,2,4,3.4,7,7,7,4,7,7,7,6.571428571,1,1,1,1,4,1,1.5,42,Female
74.80.38.108,IN JULY 2019 A FAMILY MEMBER SENT ME A TEXT EARLY IN THE MORNING BEING REALLY DISRESPECTFUL TO ME AND IT WAS OUT THE BLUE BECUASE WE SAW EACH OTHER A FEW DAYS PRIOR. HE WAS LIKE A BROTHER TO ME AND HE KNEW WHAT I WAS PERSONALLY GOING THROUGH AND HE WANTED TO BE A COMEDIAN. WE NO LONGER TALK AND I AM 100% OKAY WITH THIS. ,43647,No,5,6,5,5,6,6,4,5,7,4,6,5.2,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,30,Female
216.63.187.39,My friend encouraged me to tag along as she stole merchandise from a store in the mall. She then accused me of doing the same thing with her once she was caught. I was incredibly frustrated that I got in trouble with the law for something I did not do. I was made out to be a bad person.,42979,No,6,2,1,6,1,5,1,1,6,1,1,2,7,7,7,7,7,7,6,6.857142857,1,1,2,1,2,1,1.333333333,20,Female
99.100.247.236,"My sister wanted me to watch her house while she went out of town. Because it was my birthday, I told her no that I needed to stay home with my family. She then told me she would not be doing anything for my birthday and cut contact with me.",43497,No,6,2,1,5,1,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,4,7,7,7,7,6.571428571,3,1,2,1,3,1,1.833333333,38,Female
74.90.138.155,My boss used to be mean to me. I don't think I have forgived them for yelling at me so much and being so demanding. The were not sympathetic. They showed me no love. They only thought for themselves,44348,No,5,2,2,5,2,5,4,4,6,5,4,4.6,6,6,6,4,4,4,4,4.857142857,1,2,4,4,2,4,2.833333333,32,Male
104.59.102.143,"I suppose a really good example would be my own mother unfortunately, although me and my brother are adopted so that might provide some comfort. She isn't our real mom. She was always hitting us and things like that, but one morning in February she let me have it. I had just walked in from outside and could tell she was in a bad mood, abuse works that way, you learn to tell when they're upset and stay out of the way. I had to print something out for college though so there was no way around it, all I did was look up at her, but that was enough. She came at me, punched me, slapped me, I went to run but she grabbed me by my hair and started slamming me into the cabinets and the metal screen door that led to the backyard. Eventually, she let me go, I called into work that day crying as she kicked me out. I went and stayed with some friends and went to the hospital, I had a concussion and a lot of bruising. ","February, 2020",No,7,1,1,7,2,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,6,7,7,5,7,5,6.285714286,7,2,5,3,3,3,3.833333333,22,Female
135.26.15.100,"a friend from childhood that i got into a fight with, that's who i don't forgive. they hurt me really bad. it's hard to believe they'd want to kill. but they sure did.","June, 2014",No,3,3,4,5,4,3,3,5,5,5,4,4.4,4,4,3,5,3,3,4,3.714285714,3,5,3,3,4,5,3.833333333,76,Female
70.44.94.194,"When my dad was dying, my mother turned on both my sister and me and eventually froze us out of the family. It was devastating and heartbreaking and I feel like I've just recently healed from the whole experience. I can confidently say that there's no possibility of forgiveness.",43435,No,7,1,1,7,1,7,7,4,7,4,7,5.8,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,4,1,1.5,39,Female
73.53.89.173,"One of my friends was supposed to be a groomsmen, but he backed out at the last minute. He said I wasn’t truthful about a few details, but in fact it was him that was lying. He called me out in front of lots of people a few days prior. I never forgave him and we went our separate ways.", April 2016,No,6,1,1,7,3,5,3,4,4,3,3,3.4,7,7,6,7,6,6,6,6.428571429,3,3,2,2,5,2,2.833333333,39,Male
69.249.129.123,"In May of 1998, my boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend.  I was absolutely devastated by it, and I never forgave either one of them.  I was hurt beyond belief to find this information out.   It still hurts to think about it today.",35916,No,7,1,1,7,1,7,5,7,7,6,7,6.4,5,7,7,7,7,7,7,6.714285714,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,52,Female
76.150.162.171,"When I was in college I had a falling out with a close female friend of mine. We were close friends and had an emotional and physical relationship. But one night when she was drunk she started to yell a lot and I said mean things that hurt me emotionally. Although she was drunk, I was unable to forgive her. Because she never apologized for what she said.",41730,No,3,2,2,5,3,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,4,3,5,2,5,5,5,4.142857143,5,2,2,2,2,1,2.333333333,32,Male
69.171.95.202,A time that a person harmed me emotionally and physically where I couldn't forgive them happened in high school. This person was a stranger that was walking around the light rail station while I waited on a friend. The train was only a few minutes late but this person decided to try to steal my phone. I had never been assaulted or had to be violent with anyone before so it was very emotionally hard. This person assaulted me after they couldn't get my phone. ,Summer 2014,No,6,1,1,3,2,3,1,1,5,1,1,1.8,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,5,1,1.666666667,28,Female
74.96.69.224,"My stepfather was a raging alcoholic. He physically abused my mother, abused my step-brothers and destroyed my family for a brief period of time. He was an absolute monster and someone that I hate to this day despite his death. He chose alcohol over everything in his life and had absolutely no control over it. He was thrown out of the house and continued to bother us for years through, stalking, verbal abuse and virtually any other means to inflict harm. He ultimately moved away to Indiana after getting a large inheritance check from his parents. He later passed due to liver failure. I absolutely despise than man to this day. ",41640,No,7,1,1,7,1,7,1,7,7,1,7,4.6,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,42,Male
173.70.112.148,"About 8 years ago, a friend of mine went behind my back and said a lot of very mean things about my wife and I to some other friends. I didn't find out for some time, but when I eventually found out what had happened, I decided that it was best to fully break off contact with this friend. I have not forgiven them, and I no longer wish to have a relationship with this person. ",42186,No,5,3,2,5,4,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,5,7,6,4,7,7,5,5.857142857,3,1,1,1,3,2,1.833333333,40,Male
209.174.200.153,"I never forgave my cousin who wronged my while we were living together in a duplex. She made some nasty posts about me on social media, and turned a lot of people against me. She was very rude to me emotionally, and made sure that she turned the others against me as well. ","May, 2016",No,6,2,2,6,2,6,1,2,6,5,5,3.8,2,2,6,5,5,5,3,4,3,3,5,3,5,6,4.166666667,33,Female
172.112.34.250,a teacher called me a failure and that i would never amount to anything. they proceeded to talk about coming from a single parent home as well as being a child of an immigrant. they mocked me and my family in front of the whole class. no one stood up for me and they only stopped because class was over,"november, 2011",No,7,1,1,7,1,3,3,7,7,3,7,5.4,7,7,7,7,7,3,7,6.428571429,1,1,1,1,5,1,1.666666667,32,Male
24.163.31.61,"at work one day i was accused of not doing my job and a machine malfunctioned . the accusation was made by a co worker i considered a friend, but who was only interested in advancing at any cost. i was later proven right. i had done the job correctly. but i did not forget this experience",44013,No,6,3,6,6,3,6,3,3,5,3,3,3.4,6,5,6,6,6,6,6,5.857142857,3,2,3,2,5,3,3,65,Male
174.219.235.51,"I do not know who exactly it was but I will never forget what happened. My brother and I were in high school and we were coming back home for the day on the school bus. As the school bus dropped us off, we walked to our front door, we realized someone had broken in. The door windows were smashed in and the front door knob was unlocked. The inside of our home had been turned upside down and the only thing missing was my moms extensive jewelry collection that she had been accumulating her entire life, with key pieces that she planned to give to me on my future wedding day. ",41699,No,7,1,1,7,2,4,6,7,7,4,7,6.2,4,4,7,4,4,6,1,4.285714286,1,1,1,1,4,4,2,25,Female
108.234.77.33,"My wife and I were not getting along, so I guess she decided to go mess around and start doing drugs with her ""friends"".  Things ended up getting worse, so I took my kids out of state with me for 6 months for our safety.  I decided after around 6 months that I was going to get fight to get my family back together, and so, that's what I did.  I have never forgave her for this and we are still together, but a parent should never ever ever ever put any of their children in any kind of danger, EVER!",42186,No,7,1,1,7,1,7,6,3,5,1,1,3.2,5,1,7,1,3,5,7,4.142857143,5,7,7,6,2,3,5,48,Male
148.74.242.86,"a friend of mine told someone a secret of mine and got me fired from my job. he knew what would happen and he did it anyway. after that he stopped being my friend, he completely turned his back on me.","January, 2010",No,5,2,3,5,3,3,1,1,4,1,1,1.6,7,5,5,5,5,5,5,5.285714286,4,3,3,3,3,3,3.166666667,48,Male
169.150.169.172,My friend got us into a car accident because of her texting and driving. She turned the car so that I would get most of the impact and lied to first responders that i was driving when I was still trapped in the car. She never came to check on me or apologize,43862,No,7,1,1,7,1,6,1,6,7,1,4,3.8,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,23,Female
208.107.5.239,"Several years ago, while working in the IT field, I faced a situation where a colleague intentionally spread false rumors about my performance within the team. This created a hostile work environment, impacting both my professional reputation and personal well-being. Despite attempts to address the issue through internal channels, the matter was not resolved satisfactorily, and I found it challenging to forgive the individual for the emotional distress caused. This event serves as a hypothetical example of a workplace conflict that, if real, would require careful resolution and professional mediation.","March, 2011",No,5,6,2,6,2,6,5,6,5,3,6,5,5,5,5,5,5,5,6,5.142857143,2,5,2,2,6,3,3.333333333,40,Male
172.223.180.236,I was in a past relationship. I was emotionally abused. I am to this day still on edge in my relationships. I can never forgive them for the damage they did to me.,"December, 2017",No,3,1,2,2,1,6,2,4,5,3,4,3.6,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,2,1,1.166666667,43,Male
73.136.28.205,"My former ex-wife harmed me back 2 years ago in that December. She had lied to me and had been cheating on me with multiple people. She finally confessed but it hurt me deep emotionally and took me a long time to recover, for that I never forgave her again.",44531,No,6,2,1,6,1,6,6,5,4,3,2,4,6,6,6,3,3,6,5,5,2,3,6,5,3,3,3.666666667,32,Male
172.56.32.31,My aunt D called my aunt E husband to shame him for having my Aunt E body cremated. He took it so hard he ended up in the ER. My aunt C ending up telling everyone this happen. My aunt D thought I was the one she told and sent me nasty messages about myself. She was mad because when everybody got the chance to speak about my Aunt at the memorial they basically gave my aunt E husband praises on being a good husband and don't listen to what anybody say.,44470,No,6,1,2,6,3,5,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,5,7,7,7,7,4,6.285714286,4,1,1,1,3,1,1.833333333,34,Female
216.105.70.70,"My best friend asked me for some help when she was moving about seven years ago. We were really close and I thought nothing of it, so I helped her move and actually drove the Uhaul to her new house a few hours away, etc. I was very helpful the entire moving day. A few weeks later her ex boyfriend said we stole some of his stuff, and I was completely unaware of it. I asked for more information and he showed she had stolen stuff from his house and I had accidentally helped drive the stolen items. My friend was arrested and I haven't talked to her since, as she tried to make me an accomplice, and I was just helping a friend. ","October, 2017",No,6,2,1,7,1,4,4,4,5,3,4,4,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,2,3,2,3,4,4,3,38,Male
172.251.153.170,"In law that can exhibit toxic behavior and excessive negativity constantly and subtly made negative remarks to question ourselves even during good times.  This person would make subtle, negative remarks to introduce doubt and possibly just make them feel better about themselves. One such event is when we moved into a nice house in an extremely safe neighborhood within a stellar school district on the West Coast. They live in a flyover red state and would hint that our area is not safe despite statistics pointing out that our area is statistically safer than any place in the South.",43525,No,5,2,2,3,1,5,6,3,6,4,4,4.6,7,7,7,5,7,5,5,6.142857143,2,1,2,1,3,1,1.666666667,50,Male
71.184.135.151,"My mom had a stroke which she eventually died to, but when she was in the hospital my cousin from California came to visit.  She was there to be supportive, but we got into a heated argument over finding long term care facility.  She is a project manager and tried to project manage me into doing tons of work and I was emotionally and physically not in a good state to do it her way.  She was being condescending about it and I lashed out to her and she lashed back.  I have not really forgiven her for the interaction.",42705,No,4,1,1,1,1,4,1,1,4,1,1,1.6,4,2,1,7,4,6,4,4,5,4,5,3,1,2,3.333333333,41,Male
75.83.77.74,"My aunt stole basically all of my grandfather inheritance by sticking him with horrible caretakers who exploited him and his wife, caused them horrible quality of life, and literally spend all of their money. I hate to talk about this, but it's horrible. I will never forgive her",37773,No,7,1,1,7,1,6,4,1,5,4,1,3,7,7,7,7,7,7,6,6.857142857,3,1,1,1,1,5,2,38,Female
99.162.252.248,"A friend of mine disrespected my mother, and I confronted him about it. He refused to apologize to make amends. It hurt me because we were such good friends and I was always respectful towards his mother.",43556,No,7,1,1,6,1,5,1,1,4,1,1,1.6,7,7,5,7,7,7,7,6.714285714,1,1,1,2,2,1,1.333333333,54,Male
99.109.93.84,I was a teenage ten years ago when I was robbed from somebody from behind me. The person had a knife and hold me until he took off my belongings. I never knew who this person was but I could see that it was a male.,41334,No,7,1,1,5,1,5,4,4,4,4,4,4,4,4,4,7,4,4,1,4,4,4,4,4,4,4,4,29,Male
47.201.230.14,"Often times my dad would come home from work upset. I would hide in my room or try to look productive, but most times would still get yelled at. He would yell at me for just about anything or would yell about something else. On occasion he would throw or break things and as a kid it was very scary.","January, 2010",No,7,1,1,7,2,4,1,2,4,1,2,2,4,2,5,4,1,5,6,3.857142857,3,3,3,3,2,3,2.833333333,18,Male
67.160.113.168,"I was emotionally harmed by my partner and their (other) boyfriend. The relationship to my partner was fraying, and the boyfriend really stuck the knife in. The boyfriend--handsome and cosseted--was like my partner's id-on-a-leash, a chaotic malevolent person who did the damage so my partner didn't have. First the boyfriend was unleashed on my partner's marriage (to L, not to me), and then when that was done he was turned on me. The partner broke up with me in the middle of a trip, in the woods. I had to go on camping and even fly back with them.",43344,No,6,1,1,7,1,5,1,6,7,1,7,4.4,7,7,7,7,6,7,4,6.428571429,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,61,Male
75.174.61.230,"Several years ago, an individual borrowed $100 from me promising to pay me back within a month. Well, a month passed and this person not only didn't pay me but gave me the silent treatment and became unreachable. I remember being disappointed and angry that this person would not honor their promise. I learned a valuable lesson about lending money to acquaintances. ",43739,No,6,2,1,2,3,4,1,4,3,3,3,2.8,3,7,7,3,3,5,6,4.857142857,3,3,3,3,4,4,3.333333333,46,Male
208.194.217.189,"You can be perfectly capable of loving someone and end up hurting them at some point. In fact, it's almost guaranteed to happen with any relationship. We say things we don't mean, we say things we do mean, and we do things we shouldn't all the time.","August, 2020",No,5,3,6,6,5,3,3,5,6,5,7,5.2,6,6,2,6,6,3,5,4.857142857,3,3,5,7,3,5,4.333333333,27,Male
73.200.118.41,A former school principal was very abusive. He did not support me in front of parents. He did not provide proper classroom support. He was demeaning in his feedback and appraisal of me.,39569,No,6,2,2,7,2,4,2,3,2,3,2,2.4,6,6,6,3,5,5,5,5.142857143,3,3,3,3,5,5,3.666666667,68,Male
172.59.222.166,"One time when we were moving, I had asked my father's wife to help us watch our children while we moved the furniture into our new apartment. I did not see it for myself, but I did hear what happened. My youngest son at the time had hit his head on the doorknob to one of the rooms. She then started cackling at what had happened instead of trying to help. My partner and I were able to console him, and thankfully he was not seriously injured.",43313,No,6,2,2,3,2,3,1,2,2,1,1,1.4,6,5,6,5,3,5,5,5,4,4,4,4,4,4,4,35,Male
71.199.158.197,My neighbour sued me in civil court.  She asked me and my family to take in her pregnant dog because she didn't want to deal with the puppies. I said I would and would also find the dogs new homes.  I did that then she sued me for the return of her dog,43586,No,6,2,2,5,2,4,2,5,4,2,4,3.4,7,7,7,7,6,6,7,6.714285714,2,2,1,1,5,2,2.166666667,50,Male
72.223.72.124,One of my friends tried to sexually assault me at a botanical garden at night. We were there after hours and our two other friends went to the bathroom and I noticed he was acting really strange and deranged. I had a good sense to start to walk away from him and he chased me. I only was safe because I was faster than him. I never hung out with that friend group again because they wanted me to forgive him and are keeping him around instead of me.,44713,No,7,1,1,7,1,6,3,3,5,1,4,3.2,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,2,1,1,1,1,1,1.166666667,22,Female
47.6.220.40,"A person I thought was my friend was helping by giving information to my soon-to-be ex-husband, with whom I was going through a divorce. She was going through my private papers and relaying that to my ex.  She also called the parent evaluator 20x to say horrible things about me to try to have our son removed from my care to my ex's custody.","May, 2016",No,7,2,2,6,3,4,1,2,4,1,4,2.4,7,7,7,7,7,7,6,6.857142857,2,2,1,1,5,1,2,55,Female
73.104.164.251,"A few years ago, a friend of mine was talking trash about me behind my back. I was a cleaner at a little school my kids attended. I did it to help with tuition to be able to afford to send them there. I did my best to make sure the school was clean and honestly thought I did a pretty good job, but my friend came in one day and helped me. The teacher was very impressed and when she realized I had help, she was disappointed in me. She said that I wasn't very good at cleaning. Well, I had later found out that my friend was telling people that she should be the one cleaning because she is better at it than I am that I didn't deserve to have the job. She was talking about it with people behind my back. She even said that the teacher was saying to her that she made a mistake in hiring me. When I confronted the teacher she mentioned she never said that it was a mistake. I then confronted my friend who then admitted that she was jealous of me. It was very harmful and we are no longer close friends.",42401,No,5,1,1,6,1,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,7,7,7,4,6.571428571,4,1,1,1,4,1,2,36,Female
68.5.253.185,"We went away to the mountains with our neighbor and his son. We arrived safely, but our neighbor did not heed our warning to leave early to avoid the storm and had difficulty driving through the snow. Prior to that he had also exhibited strange behavior. While in the mountains he continued to behave erratically and insulted me on several occasions and even swore in front of my son. I no longer interact with this neighbor.","December, 2021",No,3,2,2,6,4,4,1,1,4,1,2,1.8,7,6,7,7,7,7,7,6.857142857,2,2,1,1,3,4,2.166666667,47,Female
108.244.222.232,"My instance occurred in January of 2023. I woke up to notices that $1400 had been taken out of my account. After investigating, I found out it was ""X"" Bank. I never approved any such transaction. As a result, I no longer trust ""X"" Bank. ",44927,No,7,1,1,7,2,4,2,1,2,1,1,1.4,7,6,7,7,3,7,7,6.285714286,2,1,2,3,4,2,2.333333333,54,Female
98.144.164.217,"My old roommate shirked our shared responsibilities for a new boyfriend. She would leave me to take care of her chores and cats while she would be away for half a week at a time, and then decided to move in with him two months after we had signed a new lease. She claimed she would still pay her half of everything and slowly backed out of each promise within three weeks of leaving, We eventually terminated our lease at her expense and parted ways forever.","September, 2021",No,7,3,1,7,3,3,1,1,4,1,1,1.6,7,7,7,7,7,7,4,6.571428571,4,1,4,4,3,4,3.333333333,31,Female
98.3.77.176,"Someone whom I was very much in love with led me to believe that he felt the same way towards me. We spent about 6 months together, and we both stated that we were working towards the goal of having a future together. I was ready to move closer to where he lived and look for a new job. He suddenly called me one night and told me we needed time apart, that he did not feel comfortable of the speed this relationship was following. He basically ghosted me and cut off all contact with me.",43556,No,6,2,1,7,2,6,1,1,5,1,5,2.6,7,7,7,7,1,7,7,6.142857143,1,1,1,1,2,1,1.166666667,72,Female
73.45.221.78,"I had an old boss that was harsh on people. He would make people stay late to finish things, and would always have negative feedback. It was known by upper management that he was rude to people, but nothing was done. I am glad that I left that workplace.",43132,No,5,2,2,4,2,2,3,3,3,2,4,3,6,6,5,6,6,6,6,5.857142857,2,3,2,2,3,2,2.333333333,33,Male
216.15.95.5,One event is when my girlfriend at the time cheated on me with a close friend. I was out of town and the two of them went to a party and hooked up while I as away. It broke my heart and made me feel so sad. I never let this go and never forgave either of them.,42186,No,7,1,1,7,1,4,2,7,7,3,7,5.2,6,7,7,7,7,7,6,6.714285714,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,33,Male
163.116.147.30,"I remember when a friend of mine decided to stop being my friend and focus on her new boyfriend at the time.  We were best friends, talked everyday, and then suddenly she got a new boyfriend and stopped talking to me.  She hurt me emotionally and I felt like everything we had in our friendship was thrown out.  I took her queues and also stopped communicating and even when she tried to reach out later in life - also stopped communicating with her.  ",44105,No,2,1,1,5,2,5,2,3,3,2,2,2.4,6,7,6,7,7,6,7,6.571428571,5,2,2,2,2,2,2.5,38,Male
104.51.170.129,"My ex girlfriend and I broke up due to her saying she was depressed and needing to seek help. She considered it a break. We were together for a year, and come to find out she had intended for the breakup to be permanent and it took me several years to get over it.","January, 2018",No,6,2,1,1,2,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,6,6,7,7,6,4,6.142857143,5,1,1,1,5,1,2.333333333,35,Male
70.190.160.141,"I never forgave an ex's brother and sister-in-law for harming me emotionally. They were emotionally abusive to my ex as well. I am an outgoing and typically well liked person, who always tries my best to be helpful. The way my helpful nature was taken advantage of, and I was broken down to be small and meek around them, was an excruciating process that lasted a long, terrible year. July 2014 is when it all began.","July, 2014",No,6,1,3,5,3,5,1,4,5,1,3,2.8,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,3,1,1.333333333,29,Female
67.188.45.67,"A very close friend little by little distanced themselves from me over time and then ended the friendship by having zero contact with me without explanation. From spending time together many times over the course of a month our visits were reduced to maybe once a month by this person. When together, there were snide hurtful remarks to me from this person where I couldn't understand what would cause those words. I asked several times to explain what was wrong and never got a response and they only changed the subject. To this day, I have no idea what was said or done on my part to have the friendship end.",42644,No,5,4,1,2,2,5,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,6,2,7,7,7,7,6.142857143,4,1,1,1,4,1,2,76,Female
172.73.111.74,"my sister hurt my feelings by not listening to what i had to say about common tasks in our house. we were roommates, but she was always trying to make rules. when i would tell her i didn't like it, she would tell me too bad. i still have never fully forgiven her for being so selfish.",43862,No,5,3,3,5,3,5,1,1,2,1,1,1.2,2,2,3,5,2,3,2,2.714285714,5,5,5,3,3,3,4,50,Male
173.16.48.49,"A few years ago I was living in Connecticut and I went to a casino there with my husband. I got bored so I wandered away from my husband (he was gambling) and I went to the mall in the casino. while there I was attacked and my purse was stolen by another woman. she hit me a few times and that got peoples attention, so they contacted security. because of some issues the person was going through, the state decided not to press charges against her. ","July, 2016",No,7,2,1,7,1,7,1,2,7,1,2,2.6,7,6,7,7,7,7,7,6.857142857,2,1,1,1,3,2,1.666666667,42,Female
173.73.40.191,"Mother-in-law would come over and chat with her daughter for hours when I was injured and confined to bed in notable pain.  This was instead of letting her daughter, my wife, keep me company while confined to bed and in pain.",44743,No,7,1,1,3,1,5,1,1,2,1,1,1.2,3,1,2,2,1,1,2,1.714285714,6,5,7,7,1,2,4.666666667,54,Male
75.85.43.237,"I was working a very stressful job overseas. My coworkers and I were doing a task together in one room. I wasn't my task correctly, so instead of my coworker voicing and telling me, she decides to push me and lay her hands on me. I was so upset after that and lost all respect for her.","July, 2020",No,7,1,3,6,1,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,33,Male
72.198.139.126,"some bitch at work reported a passive aggressive email to the owner of my company.  It was childish, and i probably shouldn't have sent it, but i feel this was the ""last straw"" and the reason i was let go at the company.  I thought it was an asshole that i sent it do that did  it, so i blew up on him and got a bit of a restraining order.....since then i found out it WAS NOT him and we made up, but that bitch i cc.ed on the email was the one that actually did it.",42278,No,4,1,1,1,2,7,7,3,3,2,1,3.2,5,3,7,1,3,5,3,3.857142857,2,3,3,4,4,3,3.166666667,44,Male
24.196.99.174,"Three years ago there was an office manager who spent a lot of time talking about other staff behind their backs, including me. She talked to a client and told them not to follow my advice. As a result, the client lost trust in me. I was hurt and angry about this. I talked to her and told her not to do that again but I found out later she continued with this type of behavior.",43132,No,6,2,2,5,2,3,3,2,4,2,2,2.6,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,4,1,1,1,3,1,1.833333333,48,Female
108.51.26.112,"I work with a group of around three people.  One of the people, I really hit it off with them from the beginning.  I felt we had a good working relationship.  As I was walking down the halls one day, I heard two people gossiping about me through the thin walls of our office.  I recognized one of the voices as the co-worker I thought I had a good working relationship with.  She started to talk about my physical looks and how bad of a worker she thought that I was.  ",43800,No,5,2,1,6,2,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,3,7,5,3,5,5,5,4,4,4,5,3,2,3.666666667,41,Male
38.80.239.159,"I was sexually assaulted by someone when I first moved to a new town. I invited someone over to my home which was stupid. They hurt me, they hurt my dog. And just left me there on the ground alone. It was the worst thing that has ever happened to me.",43282,No,7,1,1,7,1,7,3,4,5,2,3,3.4,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,3,1,1,1,2,1,1.5,33,Female
107.129.93.241,"I helped Tiffany a lot with her purchase of a vacation home.  She was planning to also rent it out.  I did many weekends of work for free.  She asked me for one more weekend of help and offered to pay me, but when I requested payment she got very nasty and insulted me, and only paid me a partial amount that did not include money I spent on materials.  To this day I cannot speak to her.","July, 2015",No,7,1,1,7,1,7,1,1,4,1,1,1.6,7,7,7,7,1,7,7,6.142857143,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,71,Male
96.57.34.66,"During the last few weeks after getting into a quite close friendship that was going on for over a year, I asked a girl out and she gave me a vague answer of not being sure as having a relationship in  the last year of schooling. We had emotional deep talks as well as shared good times together. There were quite a few times that I kind of depended on her and the things she have done for me. The fact that she gave me a vague answer after all of these events infuriated me and we never really talked after that. ",42826,No,3,3,3,5,2,4,2,2,6,2,2,2.8,5,5,2,2,4,5,5,4,5,3,5,5,5,4,4.5,24,Male
172.56.163.121,One remembered event ehen a person harmed when i was walking and they came and slapped me,43221,No,7,6,5,6,5,6,3,6,6,5,5,5,5,5,6,5,5,5,5,5.142857143,5,5,5,5,5,5,5,23,Male
192.180.221.95,"I have went through a lot in my life. I was harmed by someone that I was very close to. The sucky part of it is, I gave this person more than one chance and this person proceeded to hurt me again. Not only that but managed to get other people to hurt me as well. I've never forgotten what this person did and will forgive this ex-friend who will forever be an ex-friend.",Starting June 2018,No,7,1,2,7,1,6,1,6,6,2,6,4.2,7,7,7,6,7,7,7,6.857142857,1,1,1,1,1,2,1.166666667,39,Non binary / Other
73.154.246.37,"When I was 18 my boyfriend of 3 years went back to college and never called me again. I found out he started seeing another girl. I have been emotionally damaged and heartbroken for decades. Still, not knowing why he just left me.","October, 1988",No,3,1,1,7,5,5,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,3,2,3,4,1,3,7,4,6,2,3,5,4.5,54,Female
71.178.30.174,"I was at a party for people who were going off to law school in the fall. One of my classmates described my law school as more of a community college. I felt upset to hear it, and never forgave them. I don't know if they'd want my forgiveness anyways.",41791,No,3,4,3,4,4,4,1,1,1,1,2,1.2,1,1,4,1,1,2,1,1.571428571,1,1,1,1,2,2,1.333333333,32,Male
135.26.103.141,"My best friend at the time had been slowly distancing herself from our friendship for over a year. In my friendships, I try not to be smothering, and as a result, I had told her that if for any reason she did not want to be friends with me, then just tell me so we can end the friendship amicably. My one request was that she not, and I quote: ""suddenly stop talking to me for no reason, with no explanation"", as that had happened to me numerous times in the past(part of why I told her it was okay to not want to be friends). Well, you can see where this is going. She did just that, and cut off literally every form of communication we had so that I could not even ask why she was doing it. Having had a string of friendships that all ended with no comment, this was extremely distressing to happen with my best friend, of all people. I was extremely distressed, and hurt that despite my efforts I was still treated with absolutely no regard.","November, 2014",No,6,2,1,7,2,6,2,5,6,1,5,3.8,5,7,7,5,4,4,7,5.571428571,1,1,1,1,2,2,1.333333333,30,Male
65.175.161.97,"I'm a survivor of domestic violence. More accurately, I say that I encountered a violent manipulative psychopath. He weaseled his was into my life and played on my kindness and sympathies. I have good instincts and sensed something was off with him from the beginning and initially broke up with him but he persisted. I should've trusted my instincts.",41640,No,7,1,1,7,1,7,1,1,4,1,4,2.2,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,7,1,2,62,Female
35.151.25.29,"A counselor I saw used threats and forced me to disclose information against my will; though I've mostly forgiven this person, I have not completely because I have a hard time seeing why this person acted the way they did, and they ""got away with it"" without any disciplinary action, to my knowledge.",43739,No,6,3,1,6,4,4,1,1,2,1,1,1.2,5,5,7,5,7,7,4,5.714285714,5,1,2,1,5,2,2.666666667,32,Female
75.187.157.164,I was watching a relative's 2 children for free while the parents worked. I started wondering if they were truly working on some of the days when they would have me watch them. I eventually figured out that one parent did not work for 9 months while I still watched their kids for free. There were also other instances where they would be late picking them up and it was because they would be out drinking or something else. I felt taken advantage of by them. ,43617,No,6,1,1,5,2,4,3,1,4,1,1,2,4,2,6,4,2,6,4,4,4,4,5,4,4,3,4,27,Female
217.180.214.101,My sister in law harmed me emotionally when she yelled at me during a family Christmas party. ,43800,No,4,2,3,5,4,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,5,2,3,4,1,5,4,3.428571429,6,6,6,5,5,6,5.666666667,46,Female
162.81.24.83,I was harmed emotionally by a former boss. My father had just died and I had taken a few days off to spend time with my siblings. He called while I was with my family and yelled at me for not making a phone call that absolutely could wait until I got home from visiting family. My boss was absolutely vile toward me and I never forgot it. I left the job a few months later and do not regret doing so one bit. He was toxic and harmful. ,42979,No,6,1,1,6,2,5,1,1,4,1,1,1.6,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,4,4,2,45,Female
73.219.59.19,The person was hired to do work on our house in exchange for a used car.We let him take it early.He didnt finish.I couldnt hang curtainds to alleviate my migraines.,42491,No,7,1,1,7,1,7,5,7,7,1,4,4.8,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,59,Female
172.116.225.84,I remembered when a girl dumped me because of my bad breath. I was so upset at the time because I would work on my dental health and go get cleaned every 6 months. I nave forgave that person and still dont talk to her to this day.,43374,No,2,3,3,3,3,3,2,3,5,5,5,4,3,3,3,5,5,5,5,4.142857143,3,5,5,5,5,5,4.666666667,36,Male
172.56.248.1,When my supervisor at work emotionally abused me and continues humiliating in front of my coworkers. I was so stressed when I went to work because I never knew what kind of mood she was in. She would call me many rude names and made fun of me. I still have not forgiven her for hurting me emotionally for many years.,43952,No,7,1,1,7,1,7,2,3,2,1,1,1.8,7,7,7,7,6,6,6,6.571428571,3,2,3,3,3,3,2.833333333,64,Female
172.56.70.119,I had a co worker who knew I was going through a hard time. I was getting divorced and I was late to a staff meeting one time because I was on a long phone call with my lawyer. She embarrassed me in the meeting by calling me out for being late even though I told her I may be late.After that our relationship was very strained.,42095,No,6,2,3,6,2,6,3,3,3,3,3,3,6,6,6,7,6,6,5,6,3,2,2,3,3,3,2.666666667,62,Female
96.245.37.52,"I had to end a longterm friendship because of emotional harm. My close friend from college lives on the other coast and we get together once a year over Christmas when she returns home. We have opposing political/social ideologies and usually refrain from discussing such issues. She knows I am a very strong conservative who supports Trump and Republican positions and oppose Biden and the liberal Democrat agenda that has caused unprecedented inflation. We were at my home for dinner and had copious glasses of wine after as we talked about memories and many other things. Then she brought up politics. I tried to sidestep her questions and tell her we shouldn't go there, but she had too much to drink so there was no self-control. She went into a tirade about how unbelievably stupid I am to fall for conservative values and initiatives and what a horrible person I really am. She berated Trump and the deplorables like me and said she wished some very bad things to happen to me and my family (I am married with 3 children). She was staying with us, so I just left her and went to bed. The next morning she was leaving and came downstairs not apologetic for what she said. We had a mostly silent breakfast and she left. I emailed her a week afterward and said the friendship was over I could not see her again. And she did not reply. ",44896,No,7,1,1,7,1,7,1,1,4,1,1,1.6,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,4,1,1,1,4,1,2,67,Female
50.102.207.135,"My adult son's girlfriend used me to take care of her child for two years while mentally destroying my son. She told multiple lies to other people about her situation, stole money and items from both him and me during the time, and begged others for money on her child's behalf while I took care of all expenses. She took advantage of my home and generosity, lied to her baby's father about her circumstances, and when I confronted her about her untruths, began spreading rumors about me while still leaving her baby in my care, even after I barred her from my house. She used every means possible to hurt me and my son, while using my inevitable affection and desire to protect her baby against me. Parents who use children as leverage are scum. I never forgave her, and will never forgive her.",43313,No,7,1,1,7,1,5,2,2,7,2,2,3,7,1,7,1,7,7,7,5.285714286,1,1,1,1,2,1,1.166666667,50,Female
184.187.183.73,"A person, who I expected to always protect and not hurt me, called me a very derogatory name. Not only was being called this terrible, it was done in a room full of people who heard this. I was crushed. I could not believed the person I always considered to be my protector, would do this",41791,No,5,2,3,6,2,6,2,1,2,2,2,1.8,4,3,4,4,4,4,4,3.857142857,3,4,4,3,3,4,3.5,61,Female
166.198.38.78,"Betrayal struck hard when my supposed friend, Jake, stole 1k from me. We had shared laughs, dreams, and even tough times, so discovering the betrayal cut deep. The money wasn't just currency; it represented trust shattered and a friendship irreparably damaged. Confrontation ensued, but Jake's denials only added salt to the wound. In the end, I learned a painful lesson about discerning true friends from those who disguise deceit behind camaraderie.","May, 2019",No,6,2,2,1,3,1,1,2,5,1,1,2,6,3,7,6,7,7,6,6,6,2,1,1,6,1,2.833333333,25,Male
107.209.90.152,"During the pandemic, I had a friend that worked in a hospital setting. He obviously had access to surgical masks, etc. while I had no access and had to wait forever to have them delivered. Not once did my friend offer to send me at least a few mask until I received my order","March, 2020",No,4,2,1,2,2,5,1,1,2,1,1,1.2,4,6,6,5,6,6,6,5.571428571,2,2,2,2,3,2,2.166666667,61,Male
99.51.184.170,"I live with a man and he changed a lot during the pandemic, he started drinking a LOT.  He blacked out several times a week, and his personality when he was drunk was mean and violent.  I talked to him about it in the morning when he was sober and he seemed contrite, but that did not stop him from drinking again every day.  This caused me a lot of distress, bringing back my PTSD symptoms.  I could not sleep more than a few hours a day, I developed acid reflux from the stress.  I gained a lot of weight too.  After 3 years he finally stopped drinking.  I am glad to be able to heal, but I have not forgiven him, I resent that he put me through hell, and damaged my health.",March 2020 - November 2022,No,6,1,1,7,3,5,1,2,2,1,1,1.4,3,2,5,3,2,4,4,3.285714286,5,5,5,4,3,3,4.166666667,64,Female
108.184.165.10,"An incidence where I felt hurt by another person was when I caught someone actively cheating off me during an exam. Up until then, this person had been overly nice towards me and I considered them becoming a friend of mine. When they cheated off of me, I felt that they were just being nice to me for that reason only. I felt hurt and I still think about this from time to time.",41334,No,6,2,2,5,2,5,3,2,2,2,2,2.2,6,2,6,5,4,2,5,4.285714286,5,3,2,2,3,5,3.333333333,28,Female
68.7.38.223,"I went through a tough period in my life about seven years ago, and nearly everything I owned was in a small bag that I carried around with me.  It had all of my key documents, like my ID, as well as many personal items and my life savings.  This bag was stolen from me by a meth addict when I had fallen asleep in a public area.  The theft was both depressing and devastating, and made it much tougher for me to rebuild my life.  I knew who the thief was, and spent a lot of time looking for him, but never saw him again.  ",42491,No,6,2,2,6,3,5,3,5,6,2,4,4,3,6,7,4,5,6,6,5.285714286,1,1,1,1,6,1,1.833333333,52,Male
24.160.18.137,"The man I had become deeply involved with and who I planned to marry dumped me, completely out of the blue. I discovered that he had been seeing other women on the side and that he had formed an attachment with one of them, a rich, much older divorcee. It made me feel so bad about myself -- but mostly because I never saw that greedy side of him. I have largely forgotten it, but I cannot say I have forgiven. ",41609,No,7,2,1,7,2,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,3,1,1,1,6,1,2.166666667,58,Female
50.80.120.4,"I was insulted, and bullied by my now ex-boyfriend, who said very hurtful things to me that made me very depressed for months. He then cheated on me and left me the same day, all while saying I was crazy. He threatened to hurt me and that my family wouldn't see me ever again if I didn't listen to him. I spent all week crying because of this.","December, 2021",No,7,1,1,7,1,4,1,6,7,1,6,4.2,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,4,1,1,4,1,2,21,Female
70.141.255.84,"I had to have major surgery two years ago.  I was transported to a hospital three hours away from home.  My mom had called my daughter and told them and asked for her help to get me home.  She refused and said she did not have time to worry with me.  I spent nine days in the hospital (two in ICU) and did not have anyone with me.  A few weeks after I returned home and was working on my recovery, she called and wanted to visit.  I, in my coldest tone, told her I did not have time for her.  I have not forgiven her for this because she thought so little of me at the one time I needed her.",44287,No,6,1,2,6,2,6,5,1,2,1,1,2,5,5,6,4,5,5,5,5,6,5,6,4,4,3,4.666666667,51,Female
162.199.200.77,"I remember about seven years ago, I had a friend that I was very close to. We were really good friends to the point of I would tell them it's in my truck for them more than other people. Anyways, other time I was dating someone that I really loved and I found out that they were sleeping with each other. I was hurt and angry and I never forgive either of them and still have not talk to them since.",42795,No,6,2,1,7,1,5,2,4,3,2,3,2.8,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,3,1,1,1,2,1,1.5,28,Female
67.161.70.162,My ex cheated on me. I was very hurt. It changed me as a person. I will never forgive her but I am over it now. It was a tough lesson but it made me who I am today,41640,No,7,1,1,7,4,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,1,7,6,4,5.571428571,4,1,1,1,7,6,3.333333333,30,Male
172.56.201.108,"I was in a 5-year relationship in which I endured slowly developing and eventually constant abuse.  The abuse was emotional, financial, social and physical. A lot of gaslighting was used and my ability to trust and believe in myself was severely eroded. The abuse was abutted by similar abuse from people who I thought were friends and even people in the community who were associated with my ex.  It all led to an abrupt, nasty exit from the home and community I lived in for 13 years right in the height of COVID.  I cannot forgive my ex and a handful of people I thought I'd trusted.  Normally, I eventually forgive and forget those who've wronged me.  Unfortunately, I cannot with these people in specific because I'm very emotionally tied to my cats, all of whom I've been with for longer than a decade (almost two) each. Great stress and fear was pressured upon several and those have passed away in the short time since.  They didn't deserve to be subjected to all that.  I blame myself for it happening ultimately (constantly rue the day I involved myself with someone).",43800,No,7,1,5,6,1,5,1,5,5,1,4,3.2,7,6,7,7,7,7,7,6.857142857,2,1,1,1,2,1,1.333333333,59,Male
76.88.92.183,"We had a guest at our house who was living with us for an extended period of time for personal reasons.  He was a very cordial and friendly person who I have always known to be respectful toward others.  One of our neighbors took exception to him living with us and where he parked on the public street in front of our house.  Our neighbor confronted both our house guest as well as myself on separate occasions to convey her unreasonable and ridiculous demand that he park elsewhere.  The confrontation left me incredibly irritated and frustrated that our neighbor felt like she got to determine where everyone's house guests should get to park.  She even wrote an incredibly disrespectful letter which she sent to both myself as well as our HOA, which of course was dismissed completely because it was such an outlandish and ridiculous demand.",44409,No,5,2,1,6,2,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,6,3,6,5,2,5,3,4.285714286,4,6,5,4,5,5,4.833333333,53,Male
23.125.150.184,"A person that I was close friends with accused me of telling her boyfriend that she was cheating on him. I knew what she was doing was wrong but never did I tell on her or judge her for cheating on him. I eventually found out that her boyfriend  had implanted a recording device in the home they were living in and the car she was driving that told on her. The ex friend tried to come back to me and apologize but I never actually forgave her for accusing me, she told other people that I was the one that told which made them react to me differently. ","february, 2019",No,7,2,1,7,1,7,2,2,4,2,1,2.2,7,6,7,7,7,7,7,6.857142857,4,2,3,1,4,3,2.833333333,51,Female
107.131.103.199,"One of my best friends cut me and his other friends off when we were in high school to be with his girlfriend. He and I grew up together, so it was a huge blow having him completely cut me out of his life. I lost my best friend in the entire world. I remember the message he sent to our group chat that said he doesn't want to associate with us anymore. I never forgave him for what he did and still don't. They went on to be engaged, then married, then divorced within 3 years. He tried to come back and apologize, but I ignored him. ",42705,No,2,2,1,6,3,1,1,1,2,1,1,1.2,7,7,6,7,7,7,6,6.714285714,4,1,1,1,2,2,1.833333333,24,Male
65.73.99.89,"A friend I met on social media started to steal my content, ideas, and even replicated the way I wrote and talked and presented everything they copied as their own. My social media is used for work and my brand and I found that concerning. I tried to confront them but they took no ownership and responsibility.  They continued to copy all of my content even after I confronted them.  I ended up having to block them and go not contact with them.",44044,No,7,3,2,2,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,6,5,7,7,7,7,5,6.285714286,5,2,2,3,7,5,4,50,Female
107.136.156.36,"After graduating from college, it was customary for graduates to take a test before applying for jobs. A relative urged me to apply for jobs first. I followed the advice and it was a mistake. It hurt my chances of success in the career. I never forgave the person.",41974,No,6,1,2,4,2,4,3,2,5,2,4,3.2,7,2,7,6,5,6,5,5.428571429,4,3,2,3,3,2,2.833333333,48,Female
24.167.218.236,My ex-boyfriend broke my heart by cheating on me. He took me for granted and went in for another lady after I had given him all he wanted. This hurt me so much. I was emotionally traumatized by his attitude towards me.  I have not forgiven him for what he did to me and I hope he never crosses my lane ever in life anymore because I am going to deal with him very well.,42614,No,7,1,1,1,2,2,7,7,1,1,7,4.6,7,6,7,7,7,7,7,6.857142857,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,58,Female
184.75.51.122,"My ex best friend emotionally harmed me by violating my trust and I have not forgiven her, nor have I even spoke to her since the incident. She used to be my roommate and was being rude to me so I asked her why. She told me about things that happened that she would have no way of knowing about. I later found out that she violated my trust by going into my bedroom when I wasn't home, hacking into my iPad, and reading my text messages. The screen time app indicated that she spend 45 mintues/day for 1 week doing so.",45139,No,7,1,2,6,2,5,2,2,2,2,2,2,2,7,5,6,5,5,1,4.428571429,5,5,6,2,3,5,4.333333333,26,Non binary / Other
162.83.152.120,A person with whom I was in contact ghosted me and refused to follow up with my email exchanges. I'm not exactly sure why but I think it might have been related to something that someone said about me. I tried to call the person to see what was going on but the person refused to take my phone call.  ,44531,No,5,2,2,6,2,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,6,6,6,5,7,6,5,5.857142857,5,1,1,1,1,1,1.666666667,59,Female
173.18.218.185,"I recall just last year having a family member go behind my back and discuss my choice of a partner behind my back, laughing with her mother and sisters being that she was a favorite niece that I put ahead of my own children at times to help her. I was so emotionally broken and departed from her and family for good.",44805,No,7,1,1,7,3,3,1,4,6,1,4,3.2,7,7,7,6,7,7,6,6.714285714,4,1,1,1,6,1,2.333333333,55,Female
209.203.79.110,"In 2015, one of my graduate school friends decided that she didn't want to be my friend anymore. More specifically, she said we were at ""different phases of our lives"". It hurt a lot because it happened really close to my birthday and I thought we were good friends. I haven't talked to her since and it still it a sore spot when I think about it. We were such good friends.",42125,No,4,2,2,6,3,4,3,5,6,4,5,4.6,6,7,5,6,7,7,6,6.285714286,4,4,2,1,3,4,3,34,Male
70.187.168.147,One person used a racial slur towards me and jokingly would always say that my eyes were messed up. I would laugh it off and pretend to get along. I knew though that later in life I would far surpass him. I decided I wouldn't forgive him and kept it to myself. ,41214,No,6,2,2,7,2,6,3,6,7,4,5,5,3,5,7,4,4,3,4,4.285714286,1,1,1,4,4,3,2.333333333,27,Male
107.77.213.151,"It was a person that constantly bullied me in high school, due to the simple face he harmed me and made me feel like I did not deserve to live. It made me feel very vulnerable and it affected my self-worth It made me feel I was not worth everything and because of that I still don't forgive what that person did to this day. It made me feel like it harmed my self confidence.",42370,No,6,2,1,5,2,7,5,3,7,2,6,4.6,3,3,5,2,7,5,5,4.285714286,5,2,2,5,6,5,4.166666667,24,Male
104.228.63.101,"My mother used me to test prototype medication on as a child. I never consented, or wanted these meds used on me but I did not have a choice. She was paid by pharmaceutical companies for her compliance and then disowned me when she thought I would tell people about it.",From age 8 til 17,No,7,1,1,7,1,6,3,6,6,2,5,4.4,7,7,7,7,7,7,6,6.857142857,1,1,1,1,4,2,1.666666667,32,Male
76.34.9.153,"Recently I had to rent a room from someone I didn't know while I was finding a new place in a new area.  The woman took over 800 and made me leave after a week.  
If I hadn't had the kindness of a relative, to let me sleep on their couch I would have been homeless in my car.
It wasn't worth trying to sue her because we live in different states/
I have not forgiven this woman. It was emotionally cruel and theft. 
",45078,No,7,1,1,7,1,5,4,6,7,3,6,5.2,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,65,Female
71.104.70.92,"So this may not seem like a big deal, but an acquaintance of mine was in a pinch and needed some money so we struck up a deal where I would lend him the money and he would repay with quite a bit of interest, because he'd apparently be getting a large sum of money soon. Basically, he kept pushing it off, and eventually ghosted me and stopped responding to my messages. To this day I never got back a dime from him. I was really poor at the time and this was a huge deal to me. It made me lose faith in humanity, because I really thought he seemed like a great guy. It was months of me being led on like it may happen. It was $3000, which even to this day is a pretty huge amount of money for me. It put me in a terrible position and I'll never forget it. I was just a kid too, I think I was like 22 or something, and he was in his 30s. ",42095,No,6,2,1,5,2,4,4,7,7,4,5,5.4,2,5,7,2,4,4,1,3.571428571,1,3,1,1,2,1,1.5,31,Male
75.189.1.8,"A co-worker made a comment about my appearance as far as my weight. They asked me did I eat because I was small in size. This really hurt my feelings and made me feel less confident in my appearance. I kept my distance from that person. I also stayed covered up, wearing a jacket even when it wasn't cold.","September, 2019",No,4,4,1,7,3,5,1,1,4,1,1,1.6,7,5,6,7,7,7,5,6.285714286,4,4,4,4,4,4,4,44,Female
100.2.51.67,"When I was 18 or 19, I went out on a first date with a guy I met in college. Despite being kind and respectful when picking me up at my home, when at the movie theatre he tried to grope me. I felt uncomfortable and feel like he hurt me emotionally and physically. I never saw or spoke to him again after that day.",41395,No,7,1,2,7,1,6,5,6,6,4,6,5.4,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,31,Female
97.132.76.51,I was darting someone and they stopped talking to me and when I asked about it they said I was not someone they wanted in their life. I was devastated and could not forgive or talk to this person again. It was very hurtful and made me feel blue for a few weeks. ,43344,No,3,2,2,6,4,3,2,2,2,1,1,1.6,6,6,6,7,4,7,6,6,5,3,2,2,6,2,3.333333333,40,Male
35.150.183.1,"I was emotionally and physically abused by my ex boyfriend for six years. It definitely got much worse, but I remember the first time he physically hurt me. We were in my college dorm room and he got mad at me for some reason. I didn't want him to hug or kiss me since we were arguing, and he didn't like that. He finally had enough and grabbed the chair I was sitting in, threw it and me up against the wall, and punched me in the arm.",41487,No,7,1,1,7,1,6,1,5,7,1,5,3.8,7,5,7,7,7,7,7,6.714285714,1,1,1,1,2,1,1.166666667,32,Female
70.93.248.38,"My mother stopped loving me around the time I became a drug addict 11 years ago. We used to talk on the phone every day for an hour at least - I can't remember the last time we spoke on the phone. It's been years. We just text these days. I haven't seen her in years. She's 71, and I'm 47. I have HIV and Cancer. Time is ticking for both of us. But the past event I wanted to shared happened 9 years ago when I attempted suicide after seeing a Bob Dylan concert in Maui. It wasn't that I was so depressed I couldn't go on, it was that I knew when I got back to Seattle I was going to lose my apartment and be homeless, and I couldn't face that reality. Well, it happened, and I sank to my lowest point. And my mom did try to help me, and I took advantage of it, and she emailed me and told me I was scum, and that she wished I had been successful in Hawaii. It cut through the flesh and stung my heart like no other words. I'm no longer homeless, and my life is a million times better than it was at that lowest point, but I can never forgive her for what she said. Yes, I did wrong, but I didn't deserve that. Sorry for going over the allotted 4-6 sentences - I'm nothing if not verbose.",41852,No,5,1,1,7,2,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,6,4,4,5,3,5,4,4.428571429,6,7,7,3,4,3,5,47,Male
70.170.20.231,"My friend was drunk one night, and saying many bad things about me.  I confronted him, even though I knew he was drunk.  He hit me in the face, and we had to be separated by others. This was five years ago, and I haven't seen or spoken to him since. ","July, 2018",No,6,2,1,7,3,5,1,1,2,1,2,1.4,7,6,6,7,7,7,6,6.571428571,3,1,1,1,4,1,1.833333333,40,Male
73.66.52.142,One of my exes was emotionally abusive and a manipulator. I was only in a relationship with him for around 9 months but it was hell. I felt like all of my time was being used to fight his battles or console him when he did something wrong. He was emotionally immature and equally clueless about how the world works. Even now I don't feel like he knows how he affected me. Specifically I remember him holding me on a several hour phone call threatening to leave me unless I agreed to help him fight some people online he was beefing with.,Late 2019,No,5,1,1,6,1,3,2,4,3,2,3,2.8,7,7,6,7,7,7,6,6.714285714,1,2,1,2,2,2,1.666666667,27,Male
8.9.85.225,"honestly, a memory that perfectly describes this is getting cheated on by my first girlfriend. we dated for over 2 years and shared everything from great memories, to forgiveness to ups and downs of a relationship. The one time i truested her she cheated. I never forgave her and probaby never will.",44743,No,7,1,1,6,1,3,2,1,6,2,2,2.6,7,6,7,7,1,7,5,5.714285714,6,1,1,1,4,2,2.5,25,Male
50.86.7.252,My boss declined me for a promotion to regional sales manager. There was no basis other than it was personal and this hurt me deeply. I was an exemparly employee and deserved ti promition. However my manager has always been jealous of my work and personal life. I still to this day have not forgave him.,42309,No,5,2,2,5,3,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,5,3,7,5,2,2,5,4.142857143,3,1,4,3,2,1,2.333333333,57,Male
173.62.213.228,"I will never forgive my sister for the damage she has created in my life.  I never knew how it truly was until my other sister passed.  She has consistently betrayed me, rejected me, told stories about me, damaged property, attacked me, and on and on, she is nothing but a drug addict living in a basement.",43405,No,6,1,1,7,2,6,2,1,3,1,5,2.4,6,7,7,7,7,7,6,6.714285714,2,1,2,1,2,1,1.5,59,Female
97.154.116.231,I got into a fight with an ex friend while we were drinking and having a good time. He said some hurtful things that could not be taken back and i stopped talking and hanging out with him after that night. He tried to apologize but i never forgave him or saw him ever again.,"July, 2015",No,7,1,1,7,3,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,4,7,7,1,7,7,1,4.857142857,4,1,4,1,7,1,3,32,Male
67.252.55.175,"A few years ago I was preparing for a court appearance for my divorce. I was dressed and had my hair braided. A family member was taking me to the court appearance and when he saw me, told me I looked like a hore and asked if I was trying to pick the judge up? I was in a white blouse and casual pants, hair braided with nothing promiscuous about me. However, this family member expressed distasteful, hurtful, and harming words towards me which I have never forgiven them for.",42248,No,7,1,1,7,1,5,2,1,2,1,1,1.4,7,7,7,7,7,7,6,6.857142857,5,2,3,2,1,2,2.5,35,Female
155.190.20.7,"I had a ""best friend"" who had a history of lying and bullying. After my first boyfriend and I broke up, she began to talk to him all day, every day. My ex and I were still friends and he would send me screenshots of her messages begging to hook up with him. I confronted her and she lied to my face about it, even though I showed the proof I had. That was the last straw for me after several years of emotional and physical abuse endured by her.",42217,No,7,1,1,7,1,6,1,1,2,1,1,1.2,7,7,7,6,7,7,6,6.714285714,2,1,1,1,4,1,1.666666667,25,Female
71.87.76.201,My uncle told me that i was worthless because I didn't have a job and I failed out of college.  It made me feel so bad and I cried over it periodically over the next few days.  It made me grow to resent him and maybe even develop something close to hatred. It was embarrassing because he said it in front of my other family.,42005,No,5,1,1,7,2,5,2,1,1,1,1,1.2,7,6,3,7,6,6,6,5.857142857,3,3,4,2,4,2,3,31,Male
184.158.238.213,"I was at a dock near the river and a guy I had met a few days prior and was hanging out with pushed me into the water, I barely knew how to swim and the water was so murky I could not tell which way was up or down. I am lucky that I survived really.",43221,No,6,2,1,2,3,3,1,2,4,2,1,2,3,4,6,3,3,3,5,3.857142857,5,1,2,3,6,4,3.5,21,Male
73.100.84.60,"My ex fiance left me in the middle of the night without a lick of warning. He tried to pin the blame on me at the time, but later went on to tell me that he left me because he tried to kill me in my sleep. I spent a good bit of time thinking he was going to come back (not my best moment), and ended up losing a lot of things because of that faith I held in him. I realized a year or so in that he was lying to me about everything - his age, his past, etc. I haven't been able to forgive him, and I don't believe i ever will.",44136,No,7,1,1,7,1,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,3,7,7,7,4,6,5.857142857,3,1,2,1,4,2,2.166666667,25,Non binary / Other
209.122.39.150,I was harmed physically when I was in my early 40s. I was walking down my own street and a teenager threw a rock at me and knocked out my front teeth. I will never forgive the teenager because I had to go through major dental surgery and repair.,41093,No,6,1,1,7,1,5,6,6,6,5,6,5.8,5,3,6,5,6,5,6,5.142857143,2,2,2,2,1,2,1.833333333,57,Male
74.65.35.63,"I was in this toxic relationship with a female two years ago. She was physically and emotionally abusive. As a male I never retaliated or anything it was the worst time in my life. I could never forgive or forget because it's shaped me to be a colder person. It went from demeaning to physical punches, slaps, scrapes etc. This person reaches out a lot to catch up but I don't want to.",June 2021-,No,6,3,1,2,3,5,1,5,1,1,5,2.6,3,6,7,3,5,6,7,5.285714286,3,1,3,1,5,1,2.333333333,36,Male
73.100.141.184,"Several years ago, I had an acting teacher.  She was well-trained herself but had a lot of anger issues.  She would routinely and randomly insult and yell at her students - seemingly just as a power play.  A couple of times, she insulted me right in front of the entire class and twisted the facts to make me look and fell foolish in front of the class.  I left shortly thereafter, have never forgiven her, and am not in contact with her.","January, 2017",No,7,1,1,7,6,6,5,6,6,4,6,5.4,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,69,Male
108.237.25.131,"I had a new principal who had to decide between keeping me as a librarian -- a job I had had at that school for six years or a new assistant principal who was married to someone high up in the district. She chose to cut my job. To add insult to injury, she asked me for ideas on having a library program without a librarian. At the end of the year, she presented me with a pin for being in the district for 15 years. ",42856,No,7,2,1,7,2,6,2,5,5,2,3,3.4,7,6,7,5,7,7,7,6.571428571,3,1,1,1,2,2,1.666666667,61,Female
76.92.140.52,"When I helped who I thought was my best friend move into a place then a few weeks after he moved in he started ignoring me,We hung out every single day for 3 years until they finally got a place.Then a year later he had to move out and tried to hang out with me then told me I owe him.Then he got really wierd and started stalking me and wouldn’t leave me alone.I had to completely unfriend him.I moved away and didn’t tell him where ",44896,No,3,7,7,7,1,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,4,7,7,7,7,7,6.571428571,1,1,1,1,5,6,2.5,50,Female
68.193.53.231,Someone who I thought was a close friend ended up backstabbing me over something that I did not expect them to. We were supposed to be super close and I thought that I could trust them but they betrayed me. At first I was in denial about the situation probably because I didn't want to admit that I was so naive but I eventually was forced to accept that this person was not a true friend of mine. ,42217,No,6,2,2,5,3,3,2,4,3,2,2,2.6,6,7,7,7,7,5,6,6.428571429,2,1,1,1,5,1,1.833333333,33,Female
173.186.171.25,My brother went on a hateful rant after I called him out on starting fights around his daughter. He cursed and yelled and I don't remember much of what he but It was mostly him victimizing himself while verbally attacking me. This did hurt my feelings because the things he said were hurtful and uncalled for. It was the first time we'd had that sort of confrontation as he wasn't around much. ,"N/A, 2018",No,6,2,2,5,2,4,1,1,3,1,1,1.4,6,2,7,5,4,5,5,4.857142857,5,3,4,1,3,2,3,20,Female
172.59.137.178,"My former romantic partner became very intoxicated and assaulted me.  He threw me to the ground and attempted to punch me several times before he tripped and fell, knocking himself unconscious in his driveway.  I promptly packed my bags and left him there in the driveway.  He has since told people that I assaulted him and that I am crazy, something I will never forgive him for.",45170,No,7,1,1,7,1,6,1,2,7,1,2,2.6,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,2,1,1.166666667,45,Male
66.41.201.6,In November of 2019 I learned that the person I invested my retirement savings was a fraud and he stole my money and that of other women.  To make matters worse it was a man I dated for over three years.  Also to add to it I moved to another state.  All this was very emotionally upsetting and I am still suffering from it.,43770,No,7,1,1,7,3,5,2,4,7,3,5,4.2,7,7,7,4,7,7,7,6.571428571,3,1,1,1,3,4,2.166666667,59,Female
152.15.112.129,"I was in a car accident and hanging out at home while on mild main killers. My father had moved in randomly for 3 months and he left two days after the accident. My neighbor that I didn't really know, knocked on back door and when I answered, assaulted me after trying to discuss my father moving out. ",42430,No,7,1,1,7,1,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,4,1,7,6,7,6,5.428571429,1,1,1,6,1,1,1.833333333,42,Female
67.80.94.223,"I had a friend and his wife who gradually became mean people over the past 5 years. His wife was crazy and always angry from the start and then he began to turn into her. My friend constantly wanted to hang out with my family and I every day of every weekend. It was getting old and I wanted free time for my family to spend together and not always with other people. Whenever I told this friend we could not hang out, he would get made and ignore me for weeks at a time. Additionally, I found out that his wife said many nasty things about myself, my husband and my small children. I was really hurt so this past August I decided to tell them that I no longer wanted to be friends.",December 2018-August 2023,No,7,1,1,7,1,7,3,1,4,1,1,2,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,2,1,1,1,3,1,1.5,37,Female
72.231.133.181,"My sister emotionally harmed me when she started drama before my wedding. I have not forgiven her and do not speak to her. She was trying to get my other sister on her side and tried to cause tension between us for no reason. She was very angry with me for no reason. However, I think it was probably jealousy that I was getting married.",44440,No,7,1,1,5,1,6,1,1,4,1,1,1.6,7,4,7,7,7,7,7,6.571428571,7,4,4,1,4,1,3.5,32,Female
108.15.24.197,"I was playing in a cornhole tournament and thought one loud mouth  in particular was going to start something with my friend. I went outside when he did so I could help my friend if needed. I just stood there but the loudmouth got mad. I got into a fighting stance and asked him what he was gonna do about it. He pushed me (a sign of someoen who doesn't want to fight) and before I could hit him, people pulled him away. It made me SO angry that I didn't get to realiate and have never forgiven this person. ",44197,No,7,1,1,7,1,7,6,2,7,5,2,4.4,6,7,7,1,7,7,7,6,1,1,1,1,2,1,1.166666667,51,Male
108.211.232.66,"Several years ago, my best friend at the time harmed me greatly emotionally when he showed no concern for a major life change and emotional event in my life. Specifically, my fiancé at the time passed away, I was consequently temporarily homeless, and had to move back to the United States after living abroad with her for many years. I called my best friend to give me support and to spend time together as we had not been able to physically be in each other's presence for years. Instead, he chose to ignore me, treat me coldly, and not ask at all about my situation except to say that he didn't want to know ""bad"" stuff. He then focused all our subsequent conversations on himself and his new job he claimed would make him rich. ",42979,No,7,1,1,7,1,7,6,7,7,6,6,6.4,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,43,Male
165.225.39.117,"In my first week of college I was very nervous. I was from California and went to Wisconsin, and it was my first time away from home. I thought I made a friend for the first time and made me happy. However, it turns out they were making fun of me and it broke my heart. ",41883,No,6,1,2,6,1,7,2,2,7,5,7,4.6,7,1,7,6,7,6,6,5.714285714,2,1,2,2,1,7,2.5,28,Male
73.112.63.79,I was emotionally upset because after having a seizure I was told to leave a party. People did not understand it. I got a ride to the party from my aunt & told her I had a ride home. The person who said they would give me a ride home refused to do it. I had no idea that it happened until after it happened cause I don't know when seizures are happening. I never fogaved anyone cause I never saw anyone again. ,44044,No,6,3,2,5,3,5,2,3,4,2,3,2.8,5,3,4,3,6,7,3,4.428571429,2,3,4,5,5,5,4,63,Male
172.58.126.244,My ex used to belittle me constantly for being myself. Anytime I was happy about something or did literally anything he’d mock and ridicule me for it. I couldn’t do anything right in his eyes. He’d call me stupid and treat me like I was below him. And anytime I tried telling him these things made me upset he’d tell me I was overreacting or would get angry with me for trying to communicate with him. He never apologized or owned up to this behavior,March 2020 - December 2021,No,5,1,1,6,3,2,2,2,6,1,1,2.4,7,7,6,6,7,7,3,6.142857143,5,1,1,1,5,2,2.5,22,Female
96.245.183.99,The event where someone harmed me was when I was in high school. Some unhinged kid didn't like that I stood too close to them and started raising a fuss. I moved away and thought that would be the end of it. But this kid followed me as we were changing classes and pushed me down the stairs. ,"April, 2010",No,7,1,1,7,2,5,4,7,7,4,5,5.4,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,5,1,1.666666667,29,Male
97.97.38.72,"12/2023
I just had someone attack me emotionally yesterday and I will not forgive them for as long as i live.",45261,No,7,1,1,7,1,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,1,7,7,1,7,7,5.285714286,7,1,1,1,1,1,2,47,Female
71.94.8.27,I met a woman and started spending a lot of time with her. I had my own apartment that I shared with one other person but I started spending nights and weekends with this new woman in my life. I would keep up with my rent and check in with my roommate from time to time. On day I was going to get some items from my room and I couldn't get into my apartment. I rang the doorbell and my roommate answered. I asked why I was locked out. My roommate told me that my not being home as much has caused concern that I would stop paying rent. All of my personal items were moved from my room to the garage. I was being evicted by my roommate without cause. I never stay where I am not wanted so I went ahead and moved out of my apartment. ,"April, 2016",No,7,1,1,7,4,4,1,4,7,4,4,4,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,54,Male
76.110.71.79, I was interested in learning how to boat building. I remember writing this whole slideshow pitch deck for my father to use the money for college. I would get up everyday he had to work and explain how I could be successful in this field and he let me give this presentation for three months straight. Then one day my mom sat me down and told me the truth. The money I had been awarded had already been spent by the both of them for various things around the house they wanted fix. I have not forgiven him sense. For letting me waste my time like that.,"April, 2015",No,7,1,1,7,1,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,3,1,7,3,1,6,6,3.857142857,5,5,4,3,1,3,3.5,32,Male
50.158.11.181,"This situation happened a few years ago but still makes me feel very angry, my husband was working in a community clubhouse in a multi million dollar housing complex, he was the maintenance director.  By chance my husband asked me to check something on his phone, while doing so this Whatsapp message popped up, it was from a woman but I didn't think too much of it.   Later that evening my husband seemed to be spending an awful lot of time on his phone, it did look like he was trying to hide something as he made sure his phone was faced away from me.  I asked him who he was talking to and he pretended it was a  mutual friend of ours.  I eventually caught him talking to this woman, it has been going on behind my back for several months.  I asked him to give me his phone, he reluctantly did so, the messages i saw were all instigated by her, a woman in her 30's who was just playing games with my husband who was gullible enough to pretend he meant something to her, I think what makes me feel so angry is the fact that this woman was engaged to a doctor, he set her up in a multi million dollar home, apparently she could have whatever she wanted and decided to play games with someone else's marriage.",44197,No,7,1,1,7,1,6,6,6,6,5,6,5.8,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,64,Female
72.222.222.157,"In the chilling Fall of 2020, I attended a close friend's party at a remote cabin in the woods. The atmosphere was festive until a heated argument erupted between me and another guest. The disagreement escalated, and in a fit of rage, they physically harmed me. The incident left me deeply scarred, both emotionally and physically, creating a lasting trauma that lingered in the corridors of my mind.

Despite the passage of years, the wounds never fully healed, and forgiveness remained elusive. The memory of that night haunted my dreams, casting a long shadow over my relationships and sense of trust. They were remorseful but unable to undo the damage, sought redemption, yet the resentment within me persisted, a constant reminder of the pain I endured.", November 2020,No,7,1,1,7,1,6,1,1,4,1,1,1.6,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,33,Female
172.56.89.49,"A older woman very close to me was taken into my household due to her home destroyed by a storm. It started off ok. But being she had an incontinence problem, she hid her soiled garments. When I confronted her with the evidence to ask her to not do that anymore because it was unclean and causing our house to stink and would've caused damage. She denied and minimized the situation. It hurt terribly that she would disrespect me and my household so much. The relationship is permanently damaged. ",42948,No,7,2,1,7,3,3,2,1,2,1,1,1.4,4,1,6,5,3,5,5,4.142857143,6,5,6,4,3,3,4.5,69,Male
99.0.107.91,"I worked my way up in a manufacturing company to the point that I was a supervisor for three departments with about 50 employees, full time and temporary. Got along fine with all of them over the years until I made Supervisor then a few employees with a ""ring leader"" started to go to HR every time that they didn't agree with an assignment. The ring leader would march in and demand that I get fired because I was racist, HR would remind her all the time that I was not being racist but being fair to all in job assignments. Well one day someone had stuck a half full can of beer by desk and called HR saying I was drinking on the property, which was completely untrue. As they hauled me in my Manager over heard her and a couple other employees saying this was it I'm being fired. With that they received 3 to 10 days suspension and told I was in charge and if they didn't like it take a hike. over the course of the next couple months they slowly left the company some being driven out by HR. ",41699,No,7,2,1,7,2,7,4,2,7,3,5,4.2,7,7,7,7,7,1,7,6.142857143,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,62,Male
71.34.3.53,"That would be the time that my spouse referred to me as being a ""boy."" Their comment was meant to degrade me and was an attack on my self-esteem. ","July, 2020",No,7,1,4,2,7,1,1,1,4,4,1,2.2,7,7,7,7,4,7,7,6.571428571,1,4,2,2,7,1,2.833333333,60,Male
74.215.193.47,"This person was on the other side of a business transaction that I was assisting a client with. They were difficult to reach, and consistently didn't follow through with things that they were supposed to. I felt bullied. My client was put in a more difficult position because of this person's behavior, and I personally lost almost $1,000 in order to compensate my client for the other person's failings.",44378,No,6,1,1,7,2,6,1,4,5,1,1,2.4,7,5,7,7,5,6,7,6.285714286,3,1,5,4,3,4,3.333333333,59,Female
45.50.16.47,It was a stranger. I was riding my bike on a residential street. A car came around a blind corner. They cut the corner so sharply that they were in my lane. To avoid collision I hit the brakes and was forced into the curb. I was knocked off the bike. I only suffered some scrapes on my knee and hands. The driver continued on like nothing happened.,"October, 2019",No,7,1,1,7,3,2,1,3,5,1,4,2.8,7,7,7,4,7,7,7,6.571428571,1,1,1,1,5,1,1.666666667,52,Male
172.91.168.132,"Someone who harmed me emotionally  was a former boyfriend that I had. There are some different emotional/physical memories I could recall, but one in particular had to do with gaslighting and cheating. I had discovered that this person was cheating on me, and when I confronted them they very strongly denied it and attempted to gaslight me into believing that I was the one making it up/overreacting/etc. I have not been able to forgive them because this, along with other things, has caused me to have long term struggles and I can't bring myself yet to find forgiveness for this person who did not apologize at any point. ",42491,No,6,2,1,6,2,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,6,7,6,7,7,5,6.428571429,4,1,4,1,2,2,2.333333333,28,Female
75.3.77.175,"There was a woman that I met back in 2017 that I began to develop feelings for pretty quickly. We spent a large amount of time interacting with one another, and I felt that things were going well. One day I found out that she was in a relationship with another man, and she had neglected to inform me of this. I was hurt by this, and felt very betrayed. I never heard from or talked to her again after finding this out. I still to this day harbor ill feelings towards her because of her dishonesty and betrayal. ",42948,No,7,1,1,6,1,3,1,1,5,1,2,2,6,6,7,7,6,7,6,6.428571429,1,2,3,1,5,2,2.333333333,42,Male
198.209.162.173,I would say probably when a girl I was dating broke up with me. It hurt me emotionally and I never forgave them. Mostly because it felt like they were fake and had been lying the entire time we were together. Due to the seriousness of our relationship and whatnot I felt completely betrayed and will never forgive them. ,44896,No,6,4,2,6,3,4,3,3,5,3,3,3.4,4,6,6,6,2,6,5,5,4,2,3,2,3,2,2.666666667,31,Male
24.117.35.170,"Wow, this is going to be a tough one, because this really has not happened that much in my life. I guess within the last 10 years, the one that would come. The closest is that I had a work colleague, that was in a project with me, and when it was completed and successful, that person took all the credit for it. I was definitely upset, and have not really ever forgiven this person for what they did to me. Now that I'm thinking about it, it just gives me upset all over again.",43374,No,7,2,1,6,3,6,2,2,5,2,2,2.6,6,1,7,5,3,4,6,4.571428571,4,4,4,3,4,3,3.666666667,56,Male
70.112.58.179,"A friend of mine who I considered to be my best friend started spreading lies and rumors about me. I asked him who told him that lie, he said he was not going to tell me who did. I persuaded him severally but he did not. He hurt me so bad that I decided to let him go. I can not have a friend who is not ready to be open and transparent about me. Even about my own issue. That is how our friendship came to an end.",March 2013.,No,7,5,5,6,6,6,1,1,7,2,2,2.6,1,7,7,2,5,6,2,4.285714286,7,1,6,5,6,5,5,32,Male
75.134.65.251,"I never forgave my ex husband for lying to me for the majority of our relationship.  He lied about damn near everything, and then lied about lying. Not only did he totally kill any trust I ever had for him, but for anyone I have met since we divorced.",42461,No,7,1,1,7,1,5,4,4,4,4,4,4,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,4,1,1,1,4,2,2.166666667,68,Female
199.80.74.68,I remember when I was 16 years old attending a job interview on Tuesday morning. I was dressed up and remembered trying to look professional by styling my hair. I didn't think I put too much grease into my hair until I arrived at the bus stop. A tall guy was joking with three other people as I approached and noticed all the hair grease on my head and began to tease me. This made me not want to go to the interview as I felt so ashamed. I never forgave the person in my mind even to this day.,"July 12,2003",No,5,2,2,5,2,6,5,2,4,2,2,3,7,4,5,6,6,6,5,5.571428571,4,5,3,5,6,2,4.166666667,37,Male
68.95.116.126,"I had a neighbor that then became a friend. She needed help with things very often and I didn't mind helping her when I could. One day I went outside and my car had been damaged by someone who did a hit and run. Two weeks later I found out through video evidence that it was in fact my friend that I helped out all the time that hit my car. She never said a word and when confronted with it, she lied to me. Then I showed her the evidence and she promised to get the damage fixed but never did.I was extremely angry and do not forgive her.",44378,No,7,1,1,7,3,1,7,5,7,7,7,6.6,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,7,1,2,45,Female
24.7.227.103,"I think the incident I'm thinking of was when a medical student tore my spinal cord while attempting to do a spinal tap. It's resulted in a permanent nerve degenerative condition, loss of sensation in my lower feet, and excruciating pain. It eliminated my ability to work outside the home and has caused a lot of difficulties in my life. I think that I've let go of the anger, frustration, and hurt but at the time it was terrifying. I couldn't feel my arms or limbs for over a week and thought I was going to end up paralyzed. I don't think I will forgive, but I will forget and let go.",42887,No,7,2,1,7,1,4,2,1,5,1,4,2.6,7,7,7,7,7,7,4,6.571428571,4,1,1,1,5,2,2.333333333,33,Female
135.26.113.43,"So I did track and field in high school, right? So one day I’m standing out in the field and it’s a beautiful day. I was practicing discus. This guy decides to roll a discus at my and it hits my shin SO hard. I have never forgiven him because I swore so loud at him then I somehow got in trouble for reacting. ",42125,No,7,1,1,7,1,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,4,7,7,7,7,6.571428571,7,1,1,1,1,1,2,26,Female
104.56.177.35,"I visited a family member in the hospital.  Another family member didn't like my way not following a particular schedule when visiting the patient.  The person proceeded to loudly berate me for several minutes.  I did not respond at the time, nor have I felt the need to address it beyond then.  ",43221,No,7,2,1,7,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,6,2,1,5,3,2.857142857,7,7,7,7,5,6,6.5,51,Male
76.89.68.31,I was robbed at gunpoint in a robbery while taking a walk and it is something i can not forget. I felt angry and not being to do anything,44348,No,7,1,1,6,1,6,2,3,4,2,2,2.6,7,2,7,7,6,7,2,5.428571429,2,1,1,1,4,2,1.833333333,46,Male
98.238.190.228,me and my mom had a falling out when she asked us to moves closer to her and then attempted to come between me and my husband while we were living with her and helping her out. She tried to accuse my husband of being abusive towards me which was very untrue and when she locked herself out of the house she tried to accuse me of doing it to my husband. She picked fights over small petty things and just made live very stressful in general. I had to pretend to be separating from my husband so that he could go make under the table money so that we could essentially flee her home. It left me and my husband in a very bad place for a long time and it really hurt my feelings so bad that I completely quit talking to her.,43739,No,7,1,1,7,1,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,7,7,7,7,6,6.857142857,4,1,1,1,1,1,1.5,33,Female
136.143.147.3,"My husband cheated on me with some girl he met out online. He spent months venting to her about how I wasn't doing anything around the house and about my mental health and how I had gotten new medication but refused to take it and how he felt that I liked having anxiety, etc. Meanwhile, I was actively planning to kill myself and had been for 6 months and he didn't even notice...or if he did, he sure as hell didn't care. I stopped taking those new meds because they gave me severe side effects that mirrored the serotonin syndrome I'd had a few years prior, and I went back on my old meds instead. He also conveniently left out the part where I work full time and pay for a housekeeper so literally the only thing he was ever expected to do was the nightly dishes (that our teenagers mostly did), take the trash out (again, that our teenagers mostly did), and bring his laundry downstairs. That was 6 years ago and I feel just as betrayed today as I did then. We've stayed together, but I will never truly forgive him for it.",43070,No,6,1,1,7,1,6,1,1,4,1,1,1.6,2,2,3,2,1,4,2,2.285714286,7,6,7,7,5,5,6.166666667,40,Female
174.131.32.158,When my sister in law stole 80 dollars from my card after i let her use it to pay for  a phone call to her boyfriend that was in jail at the time. I found out later that she clicked remember the details at the end of the call without me knowing about it. It made me mad because i was not expecting her to do that and i told her i never wanted her to come around me again.,42675,No,7,3,2,6,4,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,4,4,4,5,3,3.142857143,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,38,Male
70.112.170.12,"I was in one of my classes during my first year of high school. It was a day off in the gym, where we could do anything within reason. I decided to use a basketball for a shootaround, but one of the other students asked for my ball. He was convinced that it was that he shot prior, but I knew that it wasn't due to me having it for the entirety of the class. When I refused, he swore and cursed at me while attempting to intimidate me just for a single basketball while others were strewn around the gym.",42705,No,7,1,1,7,1,6,6,7,7,5,6,6.2,7,7,7,7,7,6,7,6.857142857,1,1,1,1,5,1,1.666666667,22,Male
75.137.23.33,The time i will describe is a friend of mine betrayed me. They lied to me and to others about me and then avoided me and would be a man and talk to me about the situation. They then tried to act like nothing happened when we finally did talk. I hate when people do that and sweep things under the rug. They never did apologize for what they did and the wrong they did to me. ,43191,No,7,4,1,2,4,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,7,7,4,1,7,7,1,4.857142857,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,38,Male
204.242.1.184,there is this one guy who  sturb me a knife at a friend bithday party and i will make sure i will deal with him, April 2018,No,6,6,6,6,6,6,5,6,6,5,6,5.6,5,6,6,6,5,5,6,5.571428571,5,6,6,6,6,5,5.666666667,38,Male
71.176.192.46,When I was in college I had a good friend of mine betray me in the worst way possible. She tried to seduce my husband and lied about when she got caught. I have never been closer to hurting another person as I was her when she did that to me. Trust went out the window and to this day I trust no one.,37347,No,7,1,1,7,1,7,7,6,7,7,7,6.8,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,43,Female
12.74.186.129,"I was in a inpatient psychiatric hospital for a week stay acute stay. I was in a group and there was a staff member who was nearby but didn't notice the following event. Another patient had hit me on the elbow hard and was being happy or something, they seemed to have no intent other than to cause me pain or disrupt me because I had such good behavior, similar to a bully, they just hit me with little apparent reason on my shoulder. I didn't react nor say anything. I was almost unresponsive to the event and very annoyed or surprised and was also angry. No one seemed to notice this event but it did hurt my feelings and me physically. 
The other patient was disliked and also smelled disgusting earlier from their refusal to bathe before being hospitalized, also they admitted to having a confrontation with the police and had said they had or tried to molest a sibling and didn't seem remorseful of it and were overall a mean person. I don't have much a reason to forgive the person even if they had mental health problems, I hope they learned their lesson or they were eventually corrected for their behavior or are in treatment.",43101,No,6,4,1,6,3,2,1,4,7,2,3,3.4,6,3,7,6,7,7,5,5.857142857,4,2,2,1,4,3,2.666666667,22,Female
96.249.154.38,My daughter did not invite me to Christmas but invited her friends. She was embarrassed of me because of my old car. Her friends are rich and successful and I am not. I will never forgive her for that. It hurt me so much.,44896,No,7,1,1,7,1,7,2,2,3,2,1,2,7,5,7,6,4,6,7,6,4,3,4,3,1,2,2.833333333,67,Female
75.142.137.148,"When I turned 21 years old, one of my friends decided to steal from me and he was one of my bet friends. I was so upset and hurt by the fact that he had betrayed me, I confronted him and a physical fight broke out. I injured my hand by punching him the face. I felt hurt both physically and emotionally, but my emotions definitely hurt more than my hand did. This was 8 years ago and we are still no longer friends and we had been friends since 2006.",42323,No,7,1,1,7,2,4,1,2,2,2,2,1.8,7,7,7,7,7,7,4,6.571428571,1,1,1,1,5,1,1.666666667,29,Male
67.249.243.75,It was a broken heart that i would never forget. My the partner who i know really loved my was in bed with his ex in my own bed. I tried to hit the other gay and my then partner hit me with metal spoon from behind and told me not to try that again and that his ex was the one he really loves.,"November, 2020",No,5,5,6,4,5,6,5,6,5,5,5,5.2,6,5,5,5,5,6,6,5.428571429,5,6,6,6,6,6,5.833333333,25,Male
47.7.168.239,i had a dear friend from college that I had lost contact with over the years.  About 6 years ago she looked me up and we started going out and socializing a bit.  It was great to catch up. The difficulty was that she lived a 2 hour drive from where I did and I started driving several times a month to meet up with her and go out.   After months of this I suggested she come to my place for the weekend.  She refused and said she wouldn't want to spent time in such a hick little town as mine.  It wasn't a big deal in the grand scheme of things but it hurt my feelings quite disproportionately to the actual slight.  She'd always know where I was from and I certainly didn't imagine her to be someone who would look down on another for such a silly thing.  It was the disillusionment of a friend I'd thought would be a lifelong one and it hurt me deeply.,"aug, 2018",No,2,2,2,6,2,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,6,5,5,5,6,4,4.571428571,4,3,4,3,4,3,3.5,52,Female
75.107.231.34,"Relevant background: I have lived with PTSD for 29 years as a result of an armed robbery.

Through my work as a cook, I became friendly with one of the other cooks who eventually became my handy-man and helped me work on finishing my cabin. Over the course of our 3 year friendship he had become well aware of my PTSD and my my extreme aversion to guns. He would always ask permission to bring the gun onto my wilderness property (in case of snakes) prior to arriving and always told me, upon arrival exactly where he would keep the gun. In August of 2020 he had come out to do some minimal work and was excited he had found employment after being laid of in March as a result of Covid and was to start the job at the end of the week. Later that evening he called to ask if he could borrow $40 to get him by until he got paid. I told him sure, but he would need to drive out to my property to pick it up (I don't drive at night). He arrived as a backseat passenger in someone else's car. He seemed jittery, anxious and in a hurry. He took the money, gave me a hug and then got back into the backseat and the driver left the property. Two days later a Sheriff's detective appeared on my property to question me about a body that had been found about a mile away from my property. It was then I was told that the driver and my handyman had murdered someone and the body was in the vehicle when they arrived on my property the night my handy-man picked up the money. He not only disrespected everything he knew about me, but it triggered my PTSD for over a year until he was finally sentenced to prison and I then knew he couldn't hurt me.",44044,No,7,1,2,7,1,6,2,2,4,2,2,2.4,7,6,7,7,7,7,6,6.714285714,4,1,1,1,5,4,2.666666667,55,Non binary / Other
75.63.10.150,"I had been in a relationship for aver a year. Towards the end she changed. Vindictive, mean too many negative ways.  She ended it.  She has still to this day...emotionally damaged me. I have yet to be able to consider another relationship."," Approximately November,  2017",No,6,1,2,7,1,7,1,5,7,4,6,4.6,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,2,4,1,1,2,1,1.833333333,26,Male
216.78.238.27,I had a good idea how to improve loading system at the plant where I work.  I casually talked about this idea to a coworker at lunch.  The coworker stole my idea and formally presented to the department head.  The project ended up being a big success.  I am still upset my idea got stolen.,42339,No,7,1,1,7,2,6,2,2,6,2,3,3,6,5,7,6,5,5,6,5.714285714,3,3,3,2,3,3,2.833333333,47,Male
129.62.189.195,Years ago I had an argument with my father-in-law about my job prospects.  I was unemployed for 2 years and then got a good job that I worked at for a year.  One day this job caused a big argument with my wife and my father-in-law sided with her.  I told him that if he thought this way then I should be a house husband because obviously I cannot be good enough even when I'm employed.  He disagreed and we had an big argument over it.  We never spoke about my job situation anymore because he knows I will never hesitate to make a huge argument over it and make any family gathering miserable.,"November, 2018",No,7,1,1,7,1,5,1,7,4,1,7,4,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,44,Male
65.131.244.241,"An example of a memory that occurred was when my significant other's brother called me a curse word. This happened at the beginning of our relationship approximately four years ago. His brother and I never met, so it was over the phone. He was attempting to control the relationship as his family is very enmeshed. Since then, I have never made an effort to get close to my significant other's family.","December, 2019",No,7,1,1,7,2,6,3,3,4,2,3,3,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,7,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,30,Female
174.168.3.7,"A girl I was seeing for a month or so just disappeared one day. Didn't respond to any calls or texts. I stopped trying after a few days and accepted that the girl just ""ghosted"" me. But i kept wondering why all the time. I definitely overthought about it all and blamed myself for her doing it. Then she reappeared a couple of months later but I just ignored her ",43313,No,6,2,2,6,3,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,6,1,7,4,5,3.571428571,6,3,2,1,5,4,3.5,30,Male
142.129.67.201,"I remember vividly when one close family member hurt me and my family by slandering and blaming us for all his terrible life decisions. I was always supportive and compassionate but dealing someone else issues was too much to handle. It was such a huge burden especially that this person has been stubborn and so blinded by everyone else expect his own actions. I felt so hopeless and tired from this entire situation.
","October, 2021",No,7,5,2,6,5,6,5,5,6,6,6,5.6,7,6,7,7,6,5,6,6.285714286,2,3,2,7,3,3,3.333333333,32,Female